New married guy here

[LonelyHubby2012]

Hi y'all - I've looked through the site and decided to sign up as Give it a go. I'm 30 years old and married and my "sex life" is not all that great - hardly existent if you can call it that - so here looking for some women to talk to and see where it leads. Please feel free to pm or yahoo me to chat!! Look forward to hearing from you ladies!

 

[LoriLeen]

Hi y'all - I've looked through the site and decided to sign up as Give it a go. I'm 30 years old and married and my "sex life" is not all that great - hardly existent if you can call it that - so here looking for some women to talk to and see where it leads. Please feel free to pm or yahoo me to chat!! Look forward to hearing from you ladies!

Welcome to Lit. I can relate to the "not all that great" sex life. I'm 29 and struggling with mine.

 

[Frodo55]

Welcome to Lit. I can relate to the "not all that great" sex life. I'm 29 and struggling with mine.

So am I. 9 years and I still have to beg sometimes. I'm to the point where ill get it elsewhere and avoid the fight. Is that the right answer, no but I do what I have to.

 

[magichanz]

join the club....

Hi there,

I have been married for 17 years and I love my wife but her career has taken toll of her energy and times to a point that our sex life has become non-existent.

I am hoping to meet some new friends here on Lit that would enjoy some company and romance but haven't gotten much luck in response. Perhaps it is me.

 

[LoriLeen]

It isn't you.

 

[magichanz]

It isn't you.

Any advice for an old Noob, Lori?

 

[LoriLeen]

Any advice for an old Noob, Lori?

Just be blunt. What are you looking for? What do you expect? What are you willing to do? Are you looking for an online relationship or just a quick word fling? What do you want in the female you are looking for in regards to looks?
So many men post what they want sexually but thats it. Kind of leaves some females questioning.

 

[LoriLeen]

So am I. 9 years and I still have to beg sometimes. I'm to the point where ill get it elsewhere and avoid the fight. Is that the right answer, no but I do what I have to.

I understand. I don't think anyone on here can fault you for that. I've never searched for what I want outside my marriage, but i can't blame you if you have. Sexually needy is a bad shape to be in. I KNOW.

 

[magichanz]

Just be blunt. What are you looking for? What do you expect? What are you willing to do? Are you looking for an online relationship or just a quick word fling? What do you want in the female you are looking for in regards to looks?
So many men post what they want sexually but thats it. Kind of leaves some females questioning.

Fair point and Blunt is good as long as it is not whacking on my head.

Having a word fling is always fun but I like a bit more than that. I am interested to meet a person to be a companion. getting to know the person and become friends. I like to learn what gets her happy and what drives her nuts. I am hoping for long term relationship over cyberspace with occational online sexual encounters.

Sorry if I am babbling....

 

[LonelyHubby2012]

Good morning!

 

[Que]

I understand. I don't think anyone on here can fault you for that. I've never searched for what I want outside my marriage, but i can't blame you if you have. Sexually needy is a bad shape to be in. I KNOW.

Yet.....

Not making any assumptions (or judgements) about your character ir willpower, it's just tgat when a partnership doesn't include adequate sexual bonding it is inevitable tgat the neglected partner is vulnerable to sexual opportunities as they present.


I listen to Dr. Jen Bermann on The Love & Sex Show for the pathos, the tittilation, and the advice.

She always says anyone us capable if cheating if they arent connected through their relationship.