New to this- am I a sub?

No updates yet... I'm staying over at this guys house tonight so I hope to have some updates soon. :)
 
Apparently I'm a jackass.

I readily admit that I don't participate in a dom/sub relationship. Neither my wife or I will kneel. LOL. Seriously. I did at one time experiment. Back in the 80's, it was taboo, and there wasn't a lot of places you could go to find information. It was blind mans bluff so to speak. I continued to experiment in the 90's as more information came out, and then the internet exploded, and we all found out we weren't nearly as alone as we thought.

By then, I was married, and vanilla. I won't leave my wife, and I won't cheat on her period. Not online, not in person, not in any way, shape, or form.

My writings are stories, where Bondage and Domination are threads, but not the whole story. I like the mental adjustments that must be made, and I like to take a person, and run them through the gamut of emotions to full submission, and dominance. The mental hurdles we have to overcome to embrace who we are.

Perhaps my writing is my fantasy world, like second life, but in my head instead of online. Perhaps I'm denying a big part of myself by not exploring and finding out how far I can go. I am who I am, and this is what I am. I'm your average white suburbanite slob to quote Dennis Leary. Perhaps in the next life, I'll follow a different path, but in this life, the path I'm on is nothing to be ashamed of, or disappointed in.

I second everyone here who as called upon our new submissive to be safe. She needs to be very careful, and do some research within herself. She needs to protect herself as much as possible. If you're going to meet a new Master, give a friend the name and address, and tell her/him to keep it safe, and silent. If you don't come back from that Master, at least the Police know where to start looking. Set up a time to call to report you're safe. If your friend gets no call, then they call the police. It's a small safety net, but one which may just save you.

Carnivorous. It's a wonderful world you're entering. Be careful, go slow, and explore it all. Set your hard limits, and approach them slowly. Cross them only after a carefully considered discussion with your Dom.

Good luck, and I hope you find your bliss.
 
No updates yet... I'm staying over at this guys house tonight so I hope to have some updates soon. :)

Definitely keep us posted. I lost my BDSM virginity just a few days ago, which I posted about in another thread. :devil:

I'm hoping to get her to start posting here. Might be fun to hear her retell my story from her point of view. ;)
 
So I hung out with him this weekend. We had lots of sex. No BDSM stuff went on during sex, but he showed me his stash of toys. I asked him to put them on (ball gag, cuffs, blindfold). I thought he looked so fucking hot in that stuff. :devil: He showed me his whip and showed me how to use it then he used it on me a few times very lightly. Going slowly here...
 
Sounds quite hot so far, but I can't blame you for taking it slow.

In my case, Mistress is a trusted friend of a friend that I trust with my life. If she was the kind of person to hurt me, my friend would have warned me.

I'm hoping to see her again in a couple days, and hopefully she'll have her rope and toys this time.
 
I agree, and don't blame you for going slow either.

Trust is very important in the relationship--though I can only speak from the side of the sub. And with that first one, so is discovering your boundaries.

Some really good advice I've read in this thread and I thank those who've given it.
 
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