Notes on a broken heart

[MaraschinoCherry]

I hope your unwrapping will be a view to attract a new partner. Good luck sexy!

What we have here is a failure to read the room.

ETA: and also my bio.

 

[Missk_2022]

What we have here is a failure to read the room.

Exactly why I changed my profile nessage..... for this type of mess

 

[MaraschinoCherry]

Exactly why I changed my profile nessage..... for this type of mess

Yes! Mine is also very clear!

 

[Missk_2022]

Yes! Mine is also very clear!

I saw that... Can't be vague

 

[MaraschinoCherry]

I miss Him. I miss the certainty, the constancy.

This next stretch will be tricky. I’m remembering the good parts, not the bad, and don’t have enough distance to have any perspective yet.

And some strange little wounded part of me wants to show Him how much more peaceful I am, how much more myself, and the most submissive part of me wants his approval for that, too.

Tricky. So tricky.

 

[Lovethefox]

My heart goes out to you. Having the great fortune to connect with someone OL for several years, and to this day I consider myself lucky to have known her. We couldn’t be together due to our individual circumstances. It’s been two years and I still think about her often.

Be well and be kind to yourself.

 

[Missk_2022]

I miss Him. I miss the certainty, the constancy.

This next stretch will be tricky. I’m remembering the good parts, not the bad, and don’t have enough distance to have any perspective yet.

And some strange little wounded part of me wants to show Him how much more peaceful I am, how much more myself, and the most submissive part of me wants his approval for that, too.

Tricky. So tricky.

I get it.... oh do I get it...hugs (be strong),,,k

 

[cascadiabound]

I miss Him. I miss the certainty, the constancy.

This next stretch will be tricky. I’m remembering the good parts, not the bad, and don’t have enough distance to have any perspective yet.

And some strange little wounded part of me wants to show Him how much more peaceful I am, how much more myself, and the most submissive part of me wants his approval for that, too.

Tricky. So tricky.

journal. maybe even write him a letter you will never send.
I feel your pain. hugs and be kind to yourself.

 

[Massive_Ass69]

I was supposed to go out of state tomorrow to meet my guy... after connecting and I thought it would last a long time.... but his last girlfriend decided she made a mistake and since she was closer in proximity he chose her....with "if you were closer i would have told her she list her chance".... that didn't make me feel better.... and I only have myself to blame...I broke my own heart by telling him to figure out what he wanted to do.....and if he still wanted a relationship with her.... I lost.....I feel your pain... ours wasn't fast and hot but building and comfortable and cozy..... and hot when it needed to be.... I am sorry you have to feel this way--K

Sorry about what you had to go through. But you didn’t lose anything hun. It doesn’t make your pain any less real and in the moment it does seem like you lost but if he were meant for you then his ex resurfacing wouldn’t have mattered. Don’t look at it as losing him, look at it as saving you time that would have been wasted otherwise. You now have the space in your life for someone truly deserving.

 

[MaraschinoCherry]

Sorry about what you had to go through. But you didn’t lose anything hun. It doesn’t make your pain any less real and in the moment it does seem like you lost but if he were meant for you then his ex resurfacing wouldn’t have mattered. Don’t look at it as losing him, look at it as saving you time that would have been wasted otherwise. You now have the space in your life for someone truly deserving.

But she did lose something. Of course she did. Don’t come into this thread and mansplain, thanks.

 

[Massive_Ass69]

But she did lose something. Of course she did. Don’t come into this thread and mansplain, thanks.

Calm yourself. Nobody is mansplaining shit. CLEARLY she is hurt and I acknowledged that, I do believe I said her pain is real. But if you are too broken and immature to realize that the guy she was going to see was an ass and chose his ex out of convenience of her proximity then that’s on YOU. I stand by what I said. She has the room in her life for someone who will cherish her. Of course she is in pain but I speak from experience. My last relationship I felt I lost. But if it wasn’t for it e ding then I never would have found the man I’m with now. Now I see how screwed up that last relationship was and how I didn’t lose shit, I gained happiness. Grow up.
You can be mad but I don’t care.

 

[MaraschinoCherry]

Calm yourself. Nobody is mansplaining shit. CLEARLY she is hurt and I acknowledged that, I do believe I said her pain is real. But if you are too broken and immature to realize that the guy she was going to see was an ass and chose his ex out of convenience of her proximity then that’s on YOU. I stand by what I said. She has the room in her life for someone who will cherish her. Of course she is in pain but I speak from experience. My last relationship I felt I lost. But if it wasn’t for it e ding then I never would have found the man I’m with now. Now I see how screwed up that last relationship was and how I didn’t lose shit, I gained happiness. Grow up.
You can be mad but I don’t care.

The whole point of this thread is, as the title says, notes on my own broken heart. Missk is going through the same. We are not looking for anybody to tell us how to feel.

 

[Massive_Ass69]

The whole point of this thread is, as the title says, notes on my own broken heart. Missk is going through the same. We are not looking for anybody to tell us how to feel.

That’s your interpretation and the route you chose to take. It’s her broken heart and I don’t know her from a can of paint but I am sorry she is feeling that way and offered some perspective to hopefully help. No one is saying she can’t be hurt or angry or feel anything she may be feeling but I was trying to encourage her to look at it a different way instead of wallowing in those negative feelings. I’m a solution based thinker and individual. And as far as the “we” in your reply goes…. I didn’t say a thing to or about your situation soooo….. yeah. Don’t know why you are replying on behalf of you both when I was only talking/referring to her.

I didn’t see where she said she didn’t want any responses or replies, she’s just venting. Maybe she did and I missed it. Be that as it may, it’s a public forum and I did not say or do anything disrespectful. Just not to your liking. And again, I don’t care because o don’t live to serve you and your wants.

 

[Missk_2022]

I appreciate your response and I agree with you... I probably did dodge a bullet as he wasn't thinking of me at all when he decided to go back.... "if she wouldn't have broken up with me I wouldn't have been looking" to be honest I deserve better.... Noone can take my feelings away, and appreciate both points of view. I am hurt and sad but I will be ok....

 

[Crownvic]

He had me wrapped around his little finger. But now I’ve unwrapped myself from Him. And I feel undone. And foolish for letting myself be so swept away.

My dog came to visit me in the kitchen tonight just now. She got up from her bed and came down a floor, way past her bedtime. Like she was checking on me.

The house is quiet and I feel like I can finally cry.

Let it all out....hope you feel better..

 

[nyc_cutie]

He had me wrapped around his little finger. But now I’ve unwrapped myself from Him. And I feel undone. And foolish for letting myself be so swept away.

My dog came to visit me in the kitchen tonight just now. She got up from her bed and came down a floor, way past her bedtime. Like she was checking on me.

The house is quiet and I feel like I can finally cry.

I’ve recently experienced this too. My first D experience after repressing this side of me for a long while. It’s terrible.

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

In 2015 I met somebody from California on this site. She was beautiful. And it was great because she messaged me first, which usually never happens for me. We talked everyday. I was with somebody and she was married. I ended up breaking up with my ex, which was amicable. And she said that she was working on her divorce. In 2017 she called me one morning and I told her that I had to do something and then I'll call her back. She never answered the phone. I never heard from her and I wasn't able to get in touch with her after that. I don't know what happened. I wasn't catfish because I knew she was legit. When I had to move back home because of my disability, she gave me money to buy a bed. I think about it a lot. I sometimes think that that might have been my last chance at any sort of love. God I'm crying just writing this. But I know what it's like. You aren't alone. I feel stupid that it was 5 years ago and I still think about her.

 

[MaraschinoCherry]

I’ve recently experienced this too. My first D experience after repressing this side of me for a long while. It’s terrible.

@MaraschinoCherry

I am sorry. I know this pain. Minutes, hours, days…the pain feels better but then comes back. Always worse in the morning for me, that was when we talked and grabbed my coffee. I am sorry for you.
I know my Daddy will be better and happier without me. But it still doesn’t feel good even doing the right thing.

In 2015 I met somebody from California on this site. She was beautiful. And it was great because she messaged me first, which usually never happens for me. We talked everyday. I was with somebody and she was married. I ended up breaking up with my ex, which was amicable. And she said that she was working on her divorce. In 2017 she called me one morning and I told her that I had to do something and then I'll call her back. She never answered the phone. I never heard from her and I wasn't able to get in touch with her after that. I don't know what happened. I wasn't catfish because I knew she was legit. When I had to move back home because of my disability, she gave me money to buy a bed. I think about it a lot. I sometimes think that that might have been my last chance at any sort of love. God I'm crying just writing this. But I know what it's like. You aren't alone. I feel stupid that it was 5 years ago and I still think about her.

I am really glad to hear from all three of you. I am so sorry you are hurting and have hurt so much in the past. I could say something tidy and meaningless here, like nonsense about better having loved and lost than never having loved at all, but I honestly think that’s… kinda bullshit. I think we can gain a lot by risking our hearts. But we can also lose a lot. And that is the gamble.

I’m hopeful others will feel comfortable sharing notes on their broken hearts. It’s helped me a lot and I hope it helps others.

And I hope new posters will see I’m not shy about chasing away anybody to seems to be trying to take advantage of someone in pain.

 

[sammyIammy]

This thread reminds me of how amazing you are.

 

[MaraschinoCherry]

This thread reminds me of how amazing you are.

Thank you so much.