OK boys, whats the attraction with older women

[Don K Dyck]

Two Cents Worth . . .

heheheh . . . older women . . . well, I guess the "s" words say it all . . .

straight forward, self-confident, skills, sensuality, satisfaction . . .

my 2 cents worth . . .

 

[RomanHans]

So coming right out and saying what you want and meaning what you say, that in itself is a turn on ? Who'd have thought, wow, interesting point.

Hmm, not so much that the 'coming right out and saying' is the turn-on, but just the impression that young, less 'mature' women(psychologically and socially--it's not always a chronological issue) are more likely to play 'hard to get' or want to play the field. I think the interesting dynamic is that older women seem less likely to want a commitment from a younger man, and more likely to enjoy the experience for what it is rather than project all kinds of other implications onto the relationship.

In this respect, older women may appear to younger men to be more open to that holy grail of male sexual experience--the 'fuck buddy.'

Roman

 

[RomanHans]

Aha!

"...the other side of the coin...." oh so true!

OK, so let's flip that coin--why would an older women accept a come-on from a younger man? Would it be only a purely physical thing? Or are there ways that certain younger men act that make them better potential suitors?

I've heard so many women of all ages bemoan how immature a lot of the on-line men act...so are you more interested in young men who DON'T 'act their age?'

Roman

 

[tendril]

. I think the interesting dynamic is that older women seem less likely to want a commitment from a younger man, and more likely to enjoy the experience for what it is rather than project all kinds of other implications onto the relationship.

In this respect, older women may appear to younger men to be more open to that holy grail of male sexual experience--the 'fuck buddy.'

Roman

Yes your first point about commitment is one that has occurred to me....you want a fun relationship, you don't want their babies. their job and future career prospects are irrelevant. That brings us to the "fuck buddy" concept - yeah I like that idea !

 

[hypatia]

"Fuck buddy" - yeah, I'll go with that! But there's also the point that the younger guys we're talking about here tend to have a 'mature' brain. They can connect on a mental level. As one said to me 'Age is just a number'. I have met men my own age who are more immature than someone half their calendar age . Since this type of experience is still new to me after I came out of a very long monogamous relationship with a man about my own age, I'm still trying to work out the reasons. But Hell! don't forget what an ego trip it is when a cute guy 26years younger gives you a come-on!

 

[1fiestyredhead]

Re: Aha!

OK, so let's flip that coin--why would an older women accept a come-on from a younger man? Would it be only a purely physical thing? Or are there ways that certain younger men act that make them better potential suitors?

I've heard so many women of all ages bemoan how immature a lot of the on-line men act...so are you more interested in young men who DON'T 'act their age?'

Roman

Hmmm, coin flippage. I can only speak for myself as a "not quite 40" older woman. The reason I have been attracted to younger men is that they tend to be interested in much of the same things I am. Granted not "all" younger men have the maturity, but those aren't the ones I become interested in. They know how to have fun.
Men I have dated that were my age or older were much more interested in a more sedate lifestyle than I enjoy. Don't get me wrong there is a time and a place for cuddling up and watching tv, but I like to get out of the house and have fun too.

 

[knightshadow]

I know for me it just seems that older women are easier to get to know. It helps to break the ice, and you get past all the garbage of images. I've always appreciated the beauty of older women, and when I was 19, I had the chance to be with one on a wonderful summer night. Still one of my fondest memories. And now that I am older, I still look at the more mature females and like what I see.

 

[jazey_43]

Intrigued

Okay, I had to respond to this thread...as an "early 40's" woman, I look at it like this....my days of impressing people are over. I have become much more secure in myself thnt ever before...age brings that on I think..so I am very down to earth, not afraid to show my feelings, and have a healthy "this is me, iffen ya don't like it, tough shit" attitude.
I also am very sexual...and not afraid to ask for what I want, and how I want it...and want my partner to be the same way.

I'd be interested to hear what peopl think about this...

 

[tendril]

Re: Intrigued

Okay, I had to respond to this thread...as an "early 40's" woman, I look at it like this....my days of impressing people are over. I have become much more secure in myself thnt ever before...age brings that on I think..so I am very down to earth, not afraid to show my feelings, and have a healthy "this is me, iffen ya don't like it, tough shit" attitude.
I also am very sexual...and not afraid to ask for what I want, and how I want it...and want my partner to be the same way.

I'd be interested to hear what peopl think about this...

Mmmm......... pretty well how I see it too. Maybe this attitude in itself is a big attraction to younger guys.

 

[jazey_43]

none

Tendril

Could be...Not quite sure what the attraction is....

Maybe younger men like woman to be themselves...I don't know..

 

[RomanHans]

I'd toss in the caveat that all of this applies only to those particular 'younger' guys who really are attracted to and appreciate 'older' women in a substantial way (as opposed to the many younger guys who are only attracted to women their age or younger--or those who want to bang anything that moves and appears to be female). It may be a sign of a 'mature' attitude whenever a man appreciates a woman for being herself, without always trying to hide behind facades, false messages, and other artifices used to mask age and experience .

Which brings up the question--if a younger man is really attracted to older women, why can't it be for the same reasons that 'older' men are attracted to women their same age?

Roman

 

[jazey_43]

*s*

Roman...you are truly a treasure, luv!!!!

 

[RomanHans]

Re: *s*

Roman...you are truly a treasure, luv!!!!

Aw, gee -- That makes me feel like the cat who licked the cream!

Roman

 

[jazey_43]

LOL

Roman..

GREAT analogy!!!!

 

[Image]

I do a killer Mrs. Robinson impression ... but without the cigarettes.

 

[knightshadow]

Re: none

Tendril

Could be...Not quite sure what the attraction is....

Maybe younger men like woman to be themselves...I don't know..

That's pretty much it. I've run into to many younger women who put on airs, and then you find out the real them later. I think someone being themselves is very sexy.

 

[SexGuyAZ]

To take a philosophical view on it, which I do agree on. It was philosophied by Freud that each child has a different attraction to their opposite sex of their parents (a male to his mother, a female to her father).

These two theories are Oedipus Complex (Little Boys being very attached to their mother), Electra Complex (Little Girls being very attached to their father). These Complex's if I am thinking right, show that younger men attached to their mothers, hence their mothers being older and them when they grow older still holding onto this complex are attracted to older women. This also works for females to older males.

I believe in this theory, it does not work for everyone. I personally am attracted to older women, but personally age doesn't matter. It's all about their attitude personality etc. Anyways, just another thought on this topic.

 

[tendril]

I do a killer Mrs. Robinson impression ... but without the cigarettes.

I love Mrs Robinson.....wasnt she the one with the smile on her face?

 

[tendril]

.....These Complex's if I am thinking right, show that younger men attached to their mothers, hence their mothers being older and them when they grow older still holding onto this complex are attracted to older women. This also works for females to older males.

Good post, SexGuyAZ.
It's an angle I hadn't really considered before but may have some relevance to this thread. Comments anyone?

 

[RomanHans]

A little humor from Tom Lehrer

There once was a man named Oedipus Rex
You may have heard about his odd complex
His name appears in Freud's index,
'cuz he LOVED his mother!

His subjects used to say quite a bit
that as a monarch he was most unfit
But still, in all, you have to admit
that he LOVED his mother!

Yes he
loved his mother
like no other
his daugher was his sister and his son was his brother
one thing on which you can depend is,
he sure knew who a man's best friend is!

When he found what he had done
he tore his eyes out one by one
a tragic end to a loyal son
who LOVED his mother!

 

[woody54]

I know I for one could not resist the flabby skin and waist high boobs of a good 70 year old. Such is the curse of being a "young guy" ..........Not speaking for myself as I said before, but I could see why other guys might be attracted to that.

Hey, sonny, you are meant to be over 18 to post on these boards.
Aren't you going to be a sad lad when you grow up and realise that "REAL' women dont look or act like your teeny bopper cuties.
Gimmee the older set any day.

 

[jazey_43]

*s*

Knightshadow

it's so much nicer to be w/ someone who IS themselves...cuts out alot of the bullshit anxiety, and makes it so much easier on both involved. I have been told I am easy to get along with and easy to talk too...I had a gentleman tell me once that he is so comfortable with me cuz he can be himself...wouldn't ya always like it to be like that? I know I would...I am so much more comfortable being "me" ...and that way I never forget "who" t o be that day....lol...

 

[wildrose70]

Re: Re: none

That's pretty much it. I've run into to many younger women who put on airs, and then you find out the real them later. I think someone being themselves is very sexy.

Has anyone considered that older woman are sexier than hell...and still enjoy making love..and I'm talking the diva lady of lit!! lmao and if you have any questions about a woman over the age of 70...still being sexy..and desirable to younger men...just ask my lover...I'm sure he will tell you

 

[Image]

I love Mrs Robinson.....wasnt she the one with the smile on her face?

A wistful smile perhaps,
But a smile, none the less...
*sigh*

Seriously though...
The "student/teacher/Idol/Worshipper" theme may be a big, yet unrealized fantasy!

And EVERYTHING DKD said... The "Sssssss'es" Oh yesss, ALL of them

 

[manofsteel52]

As always awake said, it's a matter of perspective. A woman in her forties is a younger woman to me.
I feel that all women have an attraction, and it varies with the individual.
I've met so few women who I didn't think about having sex with, I'll bet I could count em on my fingers...