OK, so... ready for a downer?
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FGB
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Ellie, You have already done about all anyone can do.
This sort of thing screws up everyone even remotely involved.
Friends, relatives ect.
Pray for all and make sure someone gets a cleaning crew to clean up at the scene and some other people NOT acquainted with them to re-clean the scene.
Do NOT volunteer yourself.
Trust me on this I KNOW!
Also watch your brother and his wife for signs of depression, suicide and stress
for the next few months.
Take care yourself too!
Garvin
This sort of thing screws up everyone even remotely involved.
Friends, relatives ect.
Pray for all and make sure someone gets a cleaning crew to clean up at the scene and some other people NOT acquainted with them to re-clean the scene.
Do NOT volunteer yourself.
Trust me on this I KNOW!
Also watch your brother and his wife for signs of depression, suicide and stress
for the next few months.
Take care yourself too!
Garvin
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As determined as they are to take care of themselves, you can assist without appearing pushy. Contact your brother and ask if he needs to talk. Sometimes, just sitting nearby, being there. is excellent support. Take over a casserole or another meal that can be easily heated up. Make an excuse to stay and go do the dishes or something. Try to smile. It's the little things that count and help.
RobDownSouth
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My business partner and I once bought a foreclosure on the courthouse steps and when we got a locksmith to open the door found crime scene tape and some seriously bloodstained carpets in the master bedroom.
I can't imagine cleaning that up, especially if you knew the deceased. I paid my "Conager team" extra for that one.
cowslinger64
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Queball cleans up crime scenes AND give handies to his Uber clients for extra cash AND posts here constantly through his pile of alts?
Man, how does he do it?
jomar
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Disappointing! I was hoping for cars on blocks in the yard, couches and refrigerators on the porch and first cousins getting pissed.
Though on reflection, I suppose you could be right!
Debbie
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This sort of situation is just horrifying and all I can suggest is if you can just sit with her. Let her make the first move. It might just be someone to hold her, listen, human touch or to just be there. Someone to make her a cup of tea or make sure she has a glass of water.
When you see her, just hug her tightly. Don't say anything just give her a comforting hug. It can do wonders.
As far as her Father and what he did, NO ONE will ever know.
Did he all of a sudden find out that he or his wife had a fatal disease and didn't want to waste away. It's possible and there are a lot of murders of elderly where one kills the other one so that they don't have to suffer.
If we put our animals to sleep so that they don't suffer, I don't understand why we can't let people die the same way by their choice so that they don't have to suffer either.
Once again, NO ONE will ever know the truth and to constantly try to second guess what happened will drive one crazy.
It's extremely difficult to let it go, but one must.
As far as her Father and what he did, NO ONE will ever know.
Did he all of a sudden find out that he or his wife had a fatal disease and didn't want to waste away. It's possible and there are a lot of murders of elderly where one kills the other one so that they don't have to suffer.
If we put our animals to sleep so that they don't suffer, I don't understand why we can't let people die the same way by their choice so that they don't have to suffer either.
Once again, NO ONE will ever know the truth and to constantly try to second guess what happened will drive one crazy.
It's extremely difficult to let it go, but one must.
So sorry for the extreme loss your sister-in-law has suffered as well as your niece and brother. A few things I can suggest that maybe have or have not been said already: offer a hug, take your niece out for a day to give your brother and SIL a little break, cook them 2 or 3 meals that could be frozen and thrown in the oven, offer HEALTHY diversions. Be there for your brother too as I'm sure he is suffering as well. He may not have an immediate need from you but he will somewhere down the line.
