Older Men: What Makes You Feel Desired by a Younger Woman?

[Salesgoat09]

I’m addressing the seasoned men who don’t rattle easily.
When a younger woman wants you, what actually cuts through your composure?
Is it the way she holds your gaze without shrinking… the way she reads you before you speak… the way she claims the room beside you?
Tell me what reaches past your polish and makes you feel chosen.
And be honest. I didn’t ask this for timid answers.

It’s the eye contact
The constant (non-sexual) touching- ie putting your hand on my shoulder, brushing something off my shirt, etc
The stroke of my cheek and whisper in my ear

And lastly it’s the ability to communicate what you want/need without compromise or embarrassment. We don’t have time or energy to play mind games

 

[kinky_jat]

I’m addressing the seasoned men who don’t rattle easily.
When a younger woman wants you, what actually cuts through your composure?
Is it the way she holds your gaze without shrinking… the way she reads you before you speak… the way she claims the room beside you?
Tell me what reaches past your polish and makes you feel chosen.
And be honest. I didn’t ask this for timid answers.

At first reading the title I would say that I work and have a bank account, but alas Women of all ages turn away from me cause I tend to drift more sexually submissive to them.

 

[Live4themoments]

There is something innate about meeting a younger woman for the first time. She has that "air" of self confidence through her body language. She see's herself as being an equal to everyone, whether she is younger, in an unfamiliar environment. She maintains eye contact with me while she is speaking or I am speaking to her. She is expressive in using her hands to add emphasis to what the conversation is, not afraid to reach out and touch my arm, shoulder at the appropriate time. Her eyes lighten up (so In my imagination perhaps) when she sees me in future times (as does my eyes), and can't wait to tell me her latest "news/gossip". Happened a small handful of times with me, and thus far it was rewarding.

 

[naughty_stories]

First of all, don't call me Daddy...EVER

As for the rest, it's been said: eye contact without staring, lingering touches, asking for help with something.

Indicating interest in a man is the same if he is 20 as if he is 50.

 

[Rob_Royale]

As a married guy, I don't get familiar with young ladies very much, but about for years ago, a technician in my test lab was replaced with a young female test engineer. A recent graduate. A pretty brunette. Outgoing, smart and fun. After a month on the job she got married to a fella her age.
Almost immediately thereafter questions about being married and keeping things fresh, fun and romantic began, as I was married for 31 years a that time. 34 now.
I did my best to impart a little wisdom without being a preachy asshole. Just tried to be there for her as she went through the newly married (never lived together) hurdles and uncertaintly.

A year later she left the company. About six months ago she reached out via social media and thanked me for being a good mentor on the job and a good friend. Then she told me that they had recently divorced and then admitted that she had been enormously atracted to me and that had been a big reason she found another job. Mature confidence, experience and wisdom, she described it and the fact that my wife and I are still wildly romantic, she admitted to wondering exactly what tricks I had mastered between the sheets.

I thanked her for the compliment and wished her well. She disappeared from the social media playform shortly thereafter.

 

[LtxGdss]

So this is something I want to give a wife perspective on having recently had an experience where a younger woman was blatantly flirting with my husband during a recent holiday.

Firstly, being in my 40s myself I like to receive attention, and when from someone younger it's a confidence boost especially as my husband is almost 10 years older than me. It feels hot to be wanted... but I recently found how hot it was to have someone want who was mine.

She was around 20 years younger than me so almost 30 years younger than my husband, her gaze blatant and unapologetic as he walked past her, fully aware he was mine from the outset... herself with a new partner a similar age to herself.

My husband and I have a strong bond of trust so to watch her start to interact with him from afar was actually quite flattering... even exciting. When we were alone again I told him she wanted him and he seemed happy to repel her. It was a turn on for me to watch her chat him up and for him to come back to me, some immediate pleasure followed for us as a couple.

Its came to the point I really want to see how far she would go to try and get her hands on him, and how strong his loyalty is, the intrigue of that has been lingering for a while now.

 

[Hypocrites]

I’m addressing the seasoned men who don’t rattle easily.
When a younger woman wants you, what actually cuts through your composure?
Is it the way she holds your gaze without shrinking… the way she reads you before you speak… the way she claims the room beside you?
Tell me what reaches past your polish and makes you feel chosen.
And be honest. I didn’t ask this for timid answers.

I believe I qualify. A little Background first.

I've always been a dominant. I've always lived a life where my ability to take control or command of a situation has saved my life and that of others more often than I can count. So sexually, that transferred. Every woman I've been with, save one, has at some point been bound and all were directed and/or commanded.

But true BDSM was, until recently, a memory of days gone by. I had long forgotten what that was though I was good at it and in demand. Marrying over forty years ago, occasional binding and sodomy was the limit though our sex life used to be amazing.

But part of my wiring is I have no affect to speak of. My RBF expression is the same whether I'm livid or bemused. But when I met @HyposMuse, on Lit FWIW, and we began discussing the more intimate details of our lives and histories; she made me laugh.

She shared her endearment and respect for the "once was" that is now the old guy writing this. I did not love, nor want to (of course I love and would die for my family). I was resolved to live out my life as a caretaker, taking one empty step in front of the other. But as we spoke and chatted, learning each other's deepest darkest secrets and desires. I felt my heart opening, growing tender.

When we met IRL, I already loved her. And I have never experienced the total trust and submission she gave me from the moment she stepped off the plane. Her warmth and that look on her face, showed true endearment. And in her submission, we synced completely. She says she's never had a dom that read her and felt her like I do. Never had the trust for TPE like she did with me, immediately.

When we met I had warned her I may be able to do little other than a hug or kiss and she was willing to come anyway. When I first saw her, that she was real and was here, that all evaporated and I crushed her against me, deep passionate kissing and, yes public, groping of her plush curves.

So with all that, the TLDR is this.
Her taking a man who didn't smile and making him laugh. Her openness and trust, her intimate sharing and caring opened the old man up. Her respect, devotion almost to the point of worship revived self respect and assurance. Her absolute submission made this old man, want to own her, care for her and protect her. Those are the major factors that "broke through".

Time has come that I must allow her to live her young life, but she will always be my beautiful perfect good girl. I am alive again because of her and her ability to undo all of my hardened edges and heart. I hope this helps.