Ones sexuality

[CAROSI]

If a man pleases another man to satisfy his mate's sexual fantasy, does that make him bisexual or just a wonderful partner?

 

[Guru]

 

[TimeCrisis]

Makes him a wonderful partner. If he enjoys it for his own benifit i think it makes him bi too...which is cool too.

 

[AzureAngel]

Depends on if the man performing for his mate enjoys it or not, partly.

 

[Rubyfruit]

How would anybody's response be if the situation involved two women, instead of two men?

 

[CAROSI]

Depends on if the man performing for his mate enjoys it or not, partly.

Thats a very good point. But I think the arousal was more due to knowing my mate was getting so much enjoyment from it. I have to admit, I did have a wonderful time. Would I do it once again, I don't know. Probably not in that scenario, but I would be willing if my mate joined us.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

I'd say it makes him both, but leaning more towards a wonderful partner depending on his enjoyment level.

 

[bharman4102]

any partner willing to fulfill the fantasies of the other is a GREAT partner...if more people in relationships were like this, the world would be far more mellow!

and everyone would be smiling....

 

[superlittlegirl]

I'd venture to say

probably most people have some degree of bisexuality in them. labels are useful to a certain degree, but whether you are bisexual or a great lover makes no difference. The good thing is that you pleased your partner, and you enjoyed it. If you want to call yourself bi, do it. if you don't, don't. If you want to explore it further, go for it, but don't feel pressured one way or another because of what is essentially a completely subjective self-designation.

 

[bharman4102]

Re: I'd venture to say

probably most people have some degree of bisexuality in them. labels are useful to a certain degree, but whether you are bisexual or a great lover makes no difference. The good thing is that you pleased your partner, and you enjoyed it. If you want to call yourself bi, do it. if you don't, don't. If you want to explore it further, go for it, but don't feel pressured one way or another because of what is essentially a completely subjective self-designation.

hmmm, a very sexy answer...so what do you do with that broccoli, anyway?

 

[AzureAngel]

How would anybody's response be if the situation involved two women, instead of two men?

My response would be the same. If she (my SO, were I to have one. Pretend with me!) derived pleasure and subsequently desired pleasure from the same sex, then that would have some small impact on her sexual definition.

That is, if you need sexual defintion. I'm Ben. *Shrugs.* And that's the extent of definition I have use for.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Ben, that's perfect. Nice to meet you. I'm Ruby, a sexual being.

 

[AzureAngel]

I have my moments. Nice to meet you, Ruby. Now, back to my admiring.

 

[Laurel]

I disagree, to a degree. I think that to actually be bi, you'd have to not only enjoy the experience, but also be turned on by the idea of being with both sexes - attracted to both sexes. If a guy gets/gives oral during an experience in which his wife is involved - and is turned on by the act, but isn't attracted to men - then I'd say he was hetero. If he does fantasize about men as well as women, he could be bi.

 

[AzureAngel]

Laurel, no one likes a disagreer. That's not a word, but it is now, because you're it. I still like you, though. I'm clearly no one.

 

[superlittlegirl]

I agree with your disagreement, Laurel,

to a point. I guess that I was basing that assertion on a somewhat Kinsey-inspired impression of the mutability of sexuality. Sexuality is so slippery, and so much of it is buried in the subconscious (for so many people) that I think there would have to be a considerable acceptance of bisexuality on a man's part to actually leap the great big hurdle of sucking another guy's dick.

 

[Laurel]

AA...if no one likes a disagreer, and I'm a disagreer and you're no one, then you must like me. Logic saves the day! Better a disagreer than a RosieGreer (nothing against football, of course).

SLG - True, but I think what a man or woman could convince themselves to do things in the presence of their partners versus what they would consider on their own are two separate balls of wax. For example, I wouldn't be averse to being with another woman in the context of a mmf threesome. I'd probably enjoy it. I've kissed women. However, I don't consider myself bisexual. I don't think I could ever fall for a woman, and I don't get crushes on them, though I can appreciate them sexually.

Granted, as you suggested, the situation is not the same for a man as it is for a woman. It is easier for a woman to consider a casual lesbian experience than it is for most men to consider a gay one.

 

[AzureAngel]

It is easier for a woman to consider a casual lesbian experience than it is for most men to consider a gay one.

Thanks to social stigma. RAWR. Good job, men of the world.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

May as well come clean... One of my ex's fantasies was to watch a guy suck off another guy. Well I thought about doing it for her, as part of her anniversary present. But all in all I am glad that anniversary never came to pass because I'm not quite sure I could do it.

*Phew*

 

[superlittlegirl]

Thanks to social stigma. RAWR. Good job, men of the world.

You're absolutely darling. I love facetiousness in a man.

 

[superlittlegirl]

which leads me to this.

Do you think men would be more comfy with their (if they had it) latent bisexuality if more women were more vocal about how fucking hot it is?

It's one of my number one fantasies to see two guys lovin' on each other, and I give preferential treatment to bisexual men (as opposed to straight men) as potential sex partners because of that very reason. Yummy!

 

[SleepingWarrior]

Re: which leads me to this.

Do you think men would be more comfy with their (if they had it) latent bisexuality if more women were more vocal about how fucking hot it is?

It's one of my number one fantasies to see two guys lovin' on each other, and I give preferential treatment to bisexual men (as opposed to straight men) as potential sex partners because of that very reason. Yummy!

I don't know. It would still be a behind closed and locked doors thing for most men. Because many men still want the guys to see them as a manly man and many guys (myself included sometimes ) have been taught that it is wrong and unmanly.

 

[superlittlegirl]

that's cool.

I'm not suggesting a gay-pride parade for a guy's first outing; behind closed doors is the most appropriate place for many people's sexuality. I just wish that every person (male, female or trans) could experience the full potential range of his or her sexual desire without fear of recrimination. And if I have to be the cheerleading squad for all the straight men who really want to try bisexuality but are afraid.....well, I'll break out the pom-poms and pigtails.

 

[Laurel]

Re: which leads me to this.

Do you think men would be more comfy with their (if they had it) latent bisexuality if more women were more vocal about how fucking hot it is?

Fuck yeah.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I feel the change. *smiles* I've felt if for a while now, haven't you? Men are willing to think about it now. Fantasize about it even.

*smiles* It's happening, my sisters in lust. It's happening.