Only 2 minutes

[miam]

Just found this...

Normally most men ejaculate within two minutes of penetration, but there are some men who last much longer than this, just as there are men who regularly ejaculate much quicker.

medicine chest

I've had a bit of experience and in all honesty it's almost always been a lot lot longer than 2 minutes of penetration (although this might be because i've been with quite a few circumsised guys). Right now I'm with a guy that probably is about the 2 minute mark and I thought this was probably out of nervousness (he's quite a nervous person in general) so I thought that if i didn't mention it and acted really encouragingly and enthusiasticly about the sex he would eventually relax and it would last longer. Have I got my hopes too high? Is he likely to never last more than about 2 minutes? I don't want to complain but I need more than a couple of minutes of penetration if I'm going to reach orgasm.

 

[Chicklet]

Have you tried going again after the first orgasm? If he's not the kind to roll over and go to sleep, I might suggest doing some oral on each other to achieve the first orgasm, then more foreplay until you're ready for sex. In my experience, and backed up by a lot of things I've read, men seem to last longer on the second go. This might be your key.

 

[Puman]

Have you tried going again after the first orgasm? If he's not the kind to roll over and go to sleep, I might suggest doing some oral on each other to achieve the first orgasm, then more foreplay until you're ready for sex. In my experience, and backed up by a lot of things I've read, men seem to last longer on the second go. This might be your key.

Yup - what Chicklet said... seems to work really well - especially if the guy hasn't ejaculated for a while (which seems to be a big cause of premature ejaculation)

 

[SubNebGuy]

persuade him to give you an O first, via fingers, tongue, toys, etc, then go for the penetration with his cock.

when i was first dating my wife, I was real inexperienced, and often blew my load after a few strokes, simply because I was way too excited about having sex again.

nowadays, she's usually worn out and I have to be finished off by hand or mouth

most important is not to make him too self conscious about it, which'll only make it worse, or make it difficult to stay hard.

 

[Mr.G]

Good answers

Just remember guys are used to getting off once (by themselves) and going to sleep or getting up. If you train them to cum twice - once right away and then a second time after he's given YOU a dozen or so big O's then that'll be a GOOD thang, right. It'll become expected and that first "ooops" won't mean anything because he'll just keep going ....

I think I Can
I think I CAn
I think I CAN

chooo chooo

 

[Gaultier]

i am quite the opposite

I have rather an opposite problem. I have been with my gf for several years and I am usually the one that takes forever to orgasm. I mean, it can happen that I only last for a very brief moment...but it is extremely rare...like less than once a year .

Sometimes, I wish I would come faster but overall I think that I am quite lucky I guess.

 

[Pseudonomic]

Also, a helpful thing to do are your Kegels! Kegels Kegels and more Kegels! Sitting at the office? Kegels. At the drive through at Wendy's? Kegels. At the dinner table? KEGELS!

Real easy to do and actually help a remarkable amount. Not only will you be able to last longer normally, you can actually stop your orgasm if you've worked the muscle out enough. I used to have the same problem that I didn't last as long as I'd like until I did 'em.

 

[helix27]

check out this thread posted not too long ago on here about this subject also.

 

[mjl2010]

Definitely he should learn about doing Kegals. There's about a bazillion web sites that explain how this works. Just google on PC Muscle and pick one that explains it exactly. Better for both of you. They should teach this in high school.

MJL

 

[CurlyWurly]

Two minutes is a little poor, I know I certainly wouldn't orgasm during that time through penetration alone.

A trick I use it to play with myself with my man slowly thrusting, that way I get the pleasure of an orgasm with something inside me and he doesn't feel I'm missing out.

 

[hugginbare]

only one?

Ever stopped at one peanut, or grape or french fry?
You need to get back on and go for seconds....Maybe the problem is that you are so beautiful. and such a fantastic fuck that he just cannot concentrate on holding himself back....
I would be pleased to view and sample your performance... I am not circumsized just medium sized, but with a bit of mind control I can go a lottttt longer than 2 minutes.....Is this guy a virgin????
I thinnk I need the medicine on your chest....

Just found this...

medicine chest

I've had a bit of experience and in all honesty it's almost always been a lot lot longer than 2 minutes of penetration (although this might be because i've been with quite a few circumsised guys). Right now I'm with a guy that probably is about the 2 minute mark and I thought this was probably out of nervousness (he's quite a nervous person in general) so I thought that if i didn't mention it and acted really encouragingly and enthusiasticly about the sex he would eventually relax and it would last longer. Have I got my hopes too high? Is he likely to never last more than about 2 minutes? I don't want to complain but I need more than a couple of minutes of penetration if I'm going to reach orgasm.

 

[Straight-8]

While I agree that the 'second time's the charm' (especially with younger guys) I think there are a lot of ways to prolong things even the first time round. Try different locations or scenarios; try interrupting after one minute; try some form of distraction (eg. TV or radio - not my favourite but, hey, if it works); try altering positions every minute or two. And my favourite, tell him NOT to come - and be serious about it.

A lot of it is just learned behaviour. A guy who is used to jacking off alot is accustomed to the faster the better. A little re-education is in order!

 

[rthnck]

catch-22

the more enthusiastic she is the quicker i cum so my best bet is to have her pretend she's not having any fun

At least i hope she's pretending

 

[cali_indian_65]

2nd round is fine if he is in his 20s or 30s
either way practicing Kegels is the way to go for him.
with some practice, this will allow him to go 2 rounds for as long as you like

 

[littlesquirt]

the girls at work think I wouldn't last 2 minutes with them......I keep asking for them to test me......

 

[Typo Fu Master]

Right now I'm with a guy that probably is about the 2 minute mark and I thought this was probably out of nervousness (he's quite a nervous person in general) so I thought that if i didn't mention it and acted really encouragingly and enthusiasticly about the sex he would eventually relax and it would last longer. Have I got my hopes too high? Is he likely to never last more than about 2 minutes? I don't want to complain but I need more than a couple of minutes of penetration if I'm going to reach orgasm.

If I had a partner that seemed to enjoy what I was doing, I wouldn't have much reason to change, and I believe he is likely to be the same. This is such a touchy subject though, I can't think of any way to delicately bring to his attention that he needs to slow down.

Others have given excellent advice, but again, it needs to be communicated to him in such a way that he won't get an inferiority complex or something.

Perhaps try to lengthen the amount of time you spend in foreplay, and encourage him in some way that you like it "slow then fast".

 

[miam]

thanks for all the advice. we just broke up last week...sigh...so i guess i'll never find out but i'll keep some of the tips in mind in case this crops up again in the future

 

[KinkyKiki]

My fiance and I have the opposite problem. We can be having sex for ten minutes....twenty...thirty.....even longer sometimes and he won't cum. It's exhausting for me!!!! LOL but a fun exhausting. He LOVES to see how many orgams he can make me have. Usually he'll start with rubbing, then fingering, then oral, the eventaully we'll get to intercourse and I'm good with the multiple orgasms thankfully, but he usually has none at all or MAYBE one by the end of it. The last several times we've been together though (it's a long distance relationship so we only see each other about every 4-6 months or so) but the last few times we've been together it's been REALLY great, like extremely hot and he has cum most everytime, sometimes twice even which is very rare for him, but it's still taken a good twenty minutes or so.

 

[jcguild]

IMO a man should be able to last for hours. I've never had a problem I guess. And if a guy can't - well doo all your sisters a favor and get rid of his ass before you get pregnant from such a quickie and fuck up the gene pool