Open and Healthy

[bumpinthenight2022]

I've been wanting to getting into the hotwife experience. My wife is extremely vanilla, so not with her. But I would love to the someone's wife's boyfriend.

But I'm my experience, it seems like most couples want a constant stream of new bulls. My question/concern is STDs. Let's keep it a buck, every new partner is a giant question mark. Testing can go a long way, sure, but a full panel is easily +$500. Plus, it's not entirely confident--someone could've gotten infected too recently to show up in tests.

My absolute ideal situation is me and my wife, and we are completely open with another couple: he can do my wife, I can do his, girls can do each other, threesomes in any combination, sometimes just all four of us in one sticky heap.

I'll settle to be the exclusive bull or boyfriend to a married woman.

But either way, for me, I'm super satisfied just with the dynamic itself. I don't want to bounce from one wife to another, and another. In a perfect world, of course, that would be ideal. But the risk of new partners who are definitionally opening you up to new risks, makes it not worth it.

So for couples who have that dynamic with a constantly changing rotation of men, how do you do it?

For those who have like, a fixed partner/couple, how do you do it?

 

[write_or_wrong]

I've been wanting to getting into the hotwife experience. My wife is extremely vanilla, so not with her. But I would love to the someone's wife's boyfriend.

But I'm my experience, it seems like most couples want a constant stream of new bulls. My question/concern is STDs. Let's keep it a buck, every new partner is a giant question mark. Testing can go a long way, sure, but a full panel is easily +$500. Plus, it's not entirely confident--someone could've gotten infected too recently to show up in tests.

My absolute ideal situation is me and my wife, and we are completely open with another couple: he can do my wife, I can do his, girls can do each other, threesomes in any combination, sometimes just all four of us in one sticky heap.

I'll settle to be the exclusive bull or boyfriend to a married woman.

But either way, for me, I'm super satisfied just with the dynamic itself. I don't want to bounce from one wife to another, and another. In a perfect world, of course, that would be ideal. But the risk of new partners who are definitionally opening you up to new risks, makes it not worth it.

So for couples who have that dynamic with a constantly changing rotation of men, how do you do it?

For those who have like, a fixed partner/couple, how do you do it?

It can be done. But it's not easy. When I became single after a breakup, I decided I wanted to try finding exactly what you're looking for. I used online sites for contacts, answering well over a hundred postings. I never heard back from 90%+ of my attempts, and had to abandon 90%+ of the people who did respond. But when I finally heard from a couple who sounded sincere, we agreed to meet publicly, with no sex allowed that day, and just talk. They turned out to be lovely people and we started building a real friendship. Friends first, sex later. Just like dating. Bottom line, we had a great friendship that lasted over 5 years. And amazing sex the whole time. Keep the faith, but be willing to put in the work.

 

[BillyWalrus]

When I was married to my first wife, we had a relationship with another couple in which we swapped partners. We also did a lot of non-sexual things together and talked about living with them. It was a lot of work but worthwhile too with a lot of intimacy. And sex lol.