orgasm, for females

[vdiddy]

my girlfriend does not know wheather or not she has had an orgasm before, what are some charactorisics of a female orgasm. we are both very interested.

 

[fr34k_n45ty]

if she dont know if she's had one she's prolly hasn't... well atleast thats what people always told me... and it was true

 

[bisexplicit]

Any good biology or psychology basic textbook will outline the steps of orgasm.

 

[CorsetLvr]

Try checking this out:

http://www.coolnurse.com/orgasm_female.htm

Or this, a whole website devoted to the topic:

http://femaleorgasmsecrets.com/

 

[Mister Mischief]

I know my girl gets overwhelmed with a warm tingly sensation... *rest of the details witheld because I'm lazy*... and after, she gets really weak in knees. Pretty much the same feeling that other women i've been with experienced.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Warm and tingly would described the build-up, but the actual orgasm includes a wave, a crest, and vaginal muscle contractions that gradually ebb. Then you're warm and tingly again.

It's a lot more fun to feel than to try and describe!

I think she'd know if she'd felt something like that.

 

[vdiddy]

well here is the deal with how she feels. she gets to a point where it feels so great then all of a sudden it just plateus. it feels good but not like it did a few moments ago. we do know if that is an orgasm, due to the fact of how d=good it felt, or if it is just something else?

 

[phoenix1224]

well here is the deal with how she feels. she gets to a point where it feels so great then all of a sudden it just plateus. it feels good but not like it did a few moments ago. we do know if that is an orgasm, due to the fact of how d=good it felt, or if it is just something else?

If she truely has had an orgasm, neither of you would be confused about whether or not she had one.

Sex should be about the journey, not the destination... If your woman (or you for that matter) makes her orgasm the ultimate goal, she can actually psych herself out of it.

Both of you just need to relax and focus more on the enjoyment of one another's bodies... Try to get caught up in the moment instead obsessing over the end result.

 

[LadyJeanne]

well here is the deal with how she feels. she gets to a point where it feels so great then all of a sudden it just plateus. it feels good but not like it did a few moments ago. we do know if that is an orgasm, due to the fact of how d=good it felt, or if it is just something else?

She hasn't had an orgasm. The build up to an orgasm can include those plateaus, so she's on her way, but she'd feel the amazing muscle contractions if she had come. Seriously - the only people who wonder if they've had an orgasm are ones who haven't. You just can't miss it; it's a very different 'good' feeling than what she feels leading up to it.

It's not so different from when you come. It all feels really good, but doesn't the 'good' during the build-up feel very different from the 'good' when you come? It's the same for women.

When she plateaus is a good time to experiment with a different rhythm or pressure on her clit, and when you find something that feels good, keep up a steady rhythm until she comes. She might plateau more than once or twice until she gets there.

Does she masturbate? That's a great place to start to learn what stimulation she needs in order to come.

 

[CorsetLvr]

Does she masturbate? That's a great place to start to learn what stimulation she needs in order to come.

That's a very good point. If a woman doesn't know how to please herself then it is very difficult to teach a lover how to please her.

 

[teacherman570]

You will know when she has an orgasm. I wasn't sure with my girlfriend until one particular night when she almost ripped my head off with her legs. I know it isn't the same between women, but some sort of explosion usually occurs in my experience, of sound, uncontrolled body movements, and possibly of fluids (if you are really lucky).
When it does happen, don't settle on that same technique because you know it works. Make sure to vary things and give her orgasms in many different ways.

 

[chris9]

I was pretty much in her shoes. I had never orgasmed from masturbation, I didn't really know what to do or something. I never did until almost one year into my relationship.
I wondered if on such occasions I had done so. I checked in books and stuff, and they all said 'You'll know when it happens'. Didn't help me a bit.

It was hard work for him to make me experience it, but he succeded at last (didn't take that many tries, just a long time at it).
And believe me, she'll know when it happens. So will you.

Something different. I noticed that right after I orgasmed I can't stand the same things he did before. He has to be WAY more tender, and even this will huge.
Don't put any pressure on her to orgasm, if she hasn't in so long, you don't have to make her immediatly.