Planetary Nebula ❤️❤️❤️

[Mr_Soup]

I’m just now finding this out. My wife passed away in February. Nebs there for me when it happened. Lit her candles, as she did. I stayed in contact with her after, but some shit happened to where I was no longer able to, or anyone else. I could have after a while, but decided I needed to work on myself first. Once I had finally reached a point where I felt I was able to reach out to people again, she was the first person I tried to contact. I then got a response from her boyfriend, who’s message to me wasn’t unlike that of Cthulu’s. Very hateful, [content removed per forum rules]. I came here for confirmation, and well, here we are.

I was there during Sin’s final moments. I was there during my wife’s final moments. I wasn’t there for her. God fucking damn it.

 

[Saltfountain]

I’m just now finding this out. My wife passed away in February. Nebs there for me when it happened. Lit her candles, as she did. I stayed in contact with her after, but some shit happened to where I was no longer able to, or anyone else. I could have after a while, but decided I needed to work on myself first. Once I had finally reached a point where I felt I was able to reach out to people again, she was the first person I tried to contact. I then got a response from her boyfriend, who’s message to me wasn’t unlike that of Cthulu’s. Very hateful, [content removed per Literotica forum rules]. I came here for confirmation, and well, here we are.

I was there during Sin’s final moments. I was there during my wife’s final moments. I wasn’t there for her. God fucking damn it.

I don't think you can judge her boyfriend for being pissed that multiple blokes are contacting his recently deceased gf while he's grieving.

I imagine, for whatever his faults may have been, that he can't have been all bad.

You may have been cool with discovering your wife had been playing online with other blokes after she'd passed, but that doesn't mean everyone is.

Many, many condolences for your own loss, but just tone down the judgement on the bf for his responses...?

 

[Mr_Soup]

I don't think you can judge her boyfriend for being pissed that multiple blokes are contacting his recently deceased gf while he's grieving.

I imagine, for whatever his faults may have been, that he can't have been all bad.

You may have been cool with discovering your wife had been playing online with other blokes after she'd passed, but that doesn't mean everyone is.

Many, many condolences for your own loss, but just tone down the judgement on the bf for his responses...?

I do not understand where in anything that I said that I was judging him in any way. You know nothing of what you’re speaking on in so, so many ways.

 

[Saltfountain]

I do not understand where in anything that I said that I was judging him in any way. You know nothing of what you’re speaking on in so, so many ways.

I then got a response from her boyfriend, who’s message to me wasn’t unlike that of Cthulu’s. Very hateful, and said

 

[Mr_Soup]

Are you fucking kidding me right now? It was a statement of fact, not me being judgmental. Like I said, you know nothing of what you’re speaking on. Not a fucking thing.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Are you fucking kidding me right now? It was a statement of fact, not me being judgmental. Like I said, you know nothing of what you’re speaking on. Not a fucking thing.

I understand that you’re grieving, but it is not unreasonable for people to have read your statement as judgemental of Neb’s partner. When most of us call something “very hateful,” we are in fact being judgmental. Please stop taking your grief out on others in this thread. It’s not appropriate and I will remove future responses if you continue.

I did edit your post to remove her first name, too. Only publicly refer to folks by their Lit username or nicknames. Real names are for private conversations.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Folks, I have had to edit a few posts in the thread. Please do not share identifying information about Nebs in the thread, which includes her first name.

 

[Mr_Soup]

I understand that you’re grieving, but it is not unreasonable for people to have read your statement as judgemental of Neb’s partner. When most of us call something “very hateful,” we are in fact being judgmental. Please stop taking your grief out on others in this thread. It’s not appropriate and I will remove future responses if you continue.

I did edit your post to remove her first name, too. Only publicly refer to folks by their Lit username or nicknames. Real names are for private conversations.

With all due respect to you, since you’re obligated to keep the peace here, saying a response was hateful does not infer one is passing judgement. It means, quite literally: filled with hatred. Nowhere does that imply that such hatred was or wasn’t justifiable or understandable. Semantics aside, of all the things I said, THAT was the takeaway? Really?

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

Can we just try to keep this thread about what Nebs was to us, and not those in her offline life?

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

I often leave Pandora on to help me fall asleep, and stay asleep through the coffee zombie noises upstairs. Yesterday morning, Weezer’s My Name Is Jonah was playing when I woke up. I took it as Nebs telling me it was okay to not wanna

 

[BrendaBear]

I often leave Pandora on to help me fall asleep, and stay asleep through the coffee zombie noises upstairs. Yesterday morning, Weezer’s My Name Is Jonah was playing when I woke up. I took it as Nebs telling me it was okay to not wanna
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That’s right, it was.

 

[LupineOne]

I often leave Pandora on to help me fall asleep, and stay asleep through the coffee zombie noises upstairs. Yesterday morning, Weezer’s My Name Is Jonah was playing when I woke up. I took it as Nebs telling me it was okay to not wanna
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It absolutely was

 

[Diosax]

Sorry to bump this but I haven't been here in a long time and I just found out about this(bc I dmed in one of our group chats) and I can't believe it

Nebs was so cool and funny! She will be missed. RIP. ETA that it would've been her bday around this time of yr. Happy bday Nebs wherever you are.

 

[Mo_Bandy]

 

[SirConradPeckereye]

Damn wtf i am just now seeing this!?

NEBZILLA!!!! Started calling her this because she got sssooo cranky in the morning, she loved it and would always it when I posted when I saw her in the thread.

She would also ALWAYS react to every single post I made, could always tell when she was on because I would get 20+ new notifications...

 

[ydahecnot]

I don't think you can judge her boyfriend for being pissed that multiple blokes are contacting his recently deceased gf while he's grieving.

I imagine, for whatever his faults may have been, that he can't have been all bad.

You may have been cool with discovering your wife had been playing online with other blokes after she'd passed, but that doesn't mean everyone is.

Many, many condolences for your own loss, but just tone down the judgement on the bf for his responses...?

Of course, we miss Nebs; we had a cordial PM exchange as part of the PM challenge, but I didn’t interact on the boards much. But it bears repeating that the significant other had every right to be angry. In his shoes, I am not sure if I would ignore the inquiries, keeping the suitors guessing, or tell them “fuck off, I don’t want to talk to you anymore.” Either way, perhaps a bit of satisfaction. A reminder: most of us are here/have been here without the significant other knowing. I have no doubt messy stuff like this has occurred before

 

[fun_forest]

I pm'd her a few days before her death. She seemed her normal self. I found her obit if anyone wants it. I'll visit her grave when the weather warms.

 

[LupineOne]

Hey there Nebbles. Happy birthday! I hope you’re having a wonderful time in the Great Beyond, getting all the heavenly dick pic gifts (and gifs) you could ever want.

I miss you. Every day. I know you know, and understand, and are smiling at all of us.

I’ve said it before, but you were, and are a bright light to me. Someone who was always there with kindness, caring, and love for all of your people.

Even when someone was being a giant twatwaffle, you never lashed out, or even got outwardly angry. You understood the power of being calm, and kind, more deeply than almost anyone I’ve ever known.

That’s your light. That’s your strength. That’s what made you the best of us, and I can only try to live up to your example.

You’re alive for me then, and every time I choose kindness over anger, love over hate, even in the smallest moments, I’ll feel you there.

Happy Heavenly birthday, Nebbles. I love you, and always will

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

Hey there Nebbles. Happy birthday! I hope you’re having a wonderful time in the Great Beyond, getting all the heavenly dick pic gifts (and gifs) you could ever want.

I miss you. Every day. I know you know, and understand, and are smiling at all of us.

I’ve said it before, but you were, and are a bright light to me. Someone who was always there with kindness, caring, and love for all of your people.

Even when someone was being a giant twatwaffle, you never lashed out, or even got outwardly angry. You understood the power of being calm, and kind, more deeply than almost anyone I’ve ever known.

That’s your light. That’s your strength. That’s what made you the best of us, and I can only try to live up to your example.

You’re alive for me then, and every time I choose kindness over anger, love over hate, even in the smallest moments, I’ll feel you there.

Happy Heavenly birthday, Nebbles. I love you, and always will

I think Wolfie said it all. Been trying to find the words to express how much I miss how smart and funny and sassy and kind and welcoming and energetic and gorgeous inside and out she was, and how incredibly much I miss her every day and how the silliest songs and certain things make me think of her, but I couldn’t have said it better if I tried!

 

[LupineOne]

I think Wolfie said it all. Been trying to find the words to express how much I miss how smart and funny and sassy and kind and welcoming and energetic and gorgeous inside and out she was, and how incredibly much I miss her every day and how the silliest songs and certain things make me think of her, but I couldn’t have said it better if I tried!

Right with all of that, part of her kindness was her innate ability to make everyone around her feel seen, and safe. I can’t overstate how great her spirit was