Pleasing my girl

[trailwalker]

Ok So I am dating this WONDERFUL girl who is a bit younger than me and not as expeirienced, I love going down on her and pleasing her. However, when she goes down on me, for some reason, I just cant cum, its like shes playing with a hunk of meat, not al ot of sensation. I have never had this problem before and I feel very bad for her beacuse she wants to please me. I can still cum when I masterbate, but for some reason she cant get me off. What can I do to help her? I am not on any meds or anything and have never had trouble finishing when a girl has gone down on me in the past. I dont think its her technique or anything. Just looking for some advice. Thanks

 

[SweetErika]

How much do you masturbate?

Have you tried not masturbating, or at least cutting back dramatically, to see if you get more pleasure from oral?

 

[FurryFury]

Ok So I am dating this WONDERFUL girl who is a bit younger than me and not as expeirienced, I love going down on her and pleasing her. However, when she goes down on me, for some reason, I just cant cum, its like shes playing with a hunk of meat, not al ot of sensation. I have never had this problem before and I feel very bad for her beacuse she wants to please me. I can still cum when I masterbate, but for some reason she cant get me off. What can I do to help her? I am not on any meds or anything and have never had trouble finishing when a girl has gone down on me in the past. I dont think its her technique or anything. Just looking for some advice. Thanks

My husband has the problem and always has.

The fact that in the past you've been able to get off with other women does make it puzzling what is different and yes, wrong, this time?

 

[trailwalker]

How much do you masturbate?

Have you tried not masturbating, or at least cutting back dramatically, to see if you get more pleasure from oral?

Like maybe twice a day, but I will give it a try.

 

[trailwalker]

My husband has the problem and always has.

The fact that in the past you've been able to get off with other women does make it puzzling what is different and yes, wrong, this time?

Thats the thing I cant discern that anything is different or wrong, I am very attracted to this girl, and love being with her, and she isnt doing anything different than an other girl has... I just dont get it.

 

[Juggins]

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[SweetErika]

Like maybe twice a day, but I will give it a try.

Yeah, I would. I know I don't come as easily if I've masturbated in the past day or three - the longer it is, the more sensitive I am, and easier it is to come.

Twice a day is a fair amount, and your hand provides the best stimulation of all, so I'd go as long as possible without masturbating (or, just not let myself come, so I was ready to explode when oral started), and see what effect that had. Even just cutting back to something like every other day might help dramatically. And, once you come from oral, it'll likely get easier because you know it's possible with this partner and shouldn't be distracted by thoughts of having trouble so much.

Maybe it would also help to teach your gf how you masturbate so she can use the same grip and speed in addition to her mouth. You could also add things that turn you on, like fantasies, dirty talk, toys, prostate stimulation, etc.

 

[trailwalker]

Does she seem enthusiastic about it?

the reason I asked is because my ex had this same problem before me, and he said the reason I was successful was because it was something I wanted to do, something that turned me on as much as it did him.

And I get the point, if it seems like work, whats the point?

Oh yah she said she likes doing it.

 

[trailwalker]

Yeah, I would. I know I don't come as easily if I've masturbated in the past day or three - the longer it is, the more sensitive I am, and easier it is to come.

Twice a day is a fair amount, and your hand provides the best stimulation of all, so I'd go as long as possible without masturbating (or, just not let myself come, so I was ready to explode when oral started), and see what effect that had. Even just cutting back to something like every other day might help dramatically. And, once you come from oral, it'll likely get easier because you know it's possible with this partner and shouldn't be distracted by thoughts of having trouble so much.

Maybe it would also help to teach your gf how you masturbate so she can use the same grip and speed in addition to her mouth. You could also add things that turn you on, like fantasies, dirty talk, toys, prostate stimulation, etc.

heh we've worked on that a little, before she was using the kung-fu death grip on it.

 

[thirty]

I can never cum to oral, no matter which girl I used to be.

I'm wondering How you can even masturbate for twice a day. You are great!