Possibly the Stupidest Question Ever…

[Stella_Omega]

Ummm... "lower your standards" isn't really the kind of advice one woman will usually give another in talking about learning how to meet other women.

 

[PricelessT]

There is no such thing as a stupid question.

Well, if someone asks can the sky appear blue, I'd consider that a stupid question. Even a toddler who can talk would not have to ask that question.

But I understand your point, and am not in any way offended by this thread's original question.

 

[janeyruth]

There are stupid questions. And some questions are stupider than others. One does have a responsibility to make distinctions.

Having said that, the original poster's question is not as stupid as some I've heard.

 

[Safe_Bet]

Exactly. Low standards are the key. And you're right about effort being the sine qua non in achieving the lowest possible standards. You can't really score a Class A skank unless you apply a little effort. Remember, people, that luck is the residue of design...

What's scary is I think you prolly believe this! ^^

Ummm... "lower your standards" isn't really the kind of advice one woman will usually give another in talking about learning how to meet other women.

Quelle surprise! HE'S a dude. What else would you expect?

Well, if someone asks can the sky appear blue, I'd consider that a stupid question. Even a toddler who can talk would not have to ask that question.

But I understand your point, and am not in any way offended by this thread's original question.

Well, at least you DID prove there is such a thing as a stupid answer!

 

[infinity706]

Ummm... "lower your standards" isn't really the kind of advice one woman will usually give another in talking about learning how to meet other women.

It depends on your standards. I'm not saying jump on the first one that comes along, but some people do have a big, mandatory checklist for everything their partner must be and then, complain as loudly as the companies that complain there's no one to hire because they refuse to put any effort into training someone and expect expert level experience for entry level pay.

 

[janeyruth]

Careful there, infinity. Stella doesn't like arguers. If you don't agree with her 100% down the line, you're a sexist homophobe and probably a fascist, or what is worse, a Republican...

 

[Jacqueline_]

It depends on your standards. I'm not saying jump on the first one that comes along, but some people do have a big, mandatory checklist for everything their partner must be and then, complain as loudly as the companies that complain there's no one to hire because they refuse to put any effort into training someone and expect expert level experience for entry level pay.

So, it's difficult to tell who is attracted to women because our standards are too high? That doesn't make sense ('that girl doesn't meet my high standard! I guess she can't be a lesbian'?).

Maybe you are trying to say that some people aren't in relationships because their standards are supposedly too high, which is a different matter altogether.

 

[Stella_Omega]

It depends on your standards. I'm not saying jump on the first one that comes along, but some people do have a big, mandatory checklist for everything their partner must be and then, complain as loudly as the companies that complain there's no one to hire because they refuse to put any effort into training someone and expect expert level experience for entry level pay.

This is true for some people.

But it's still not a piece of advice that most women would normally hand out to other women in such a general fashion.

 

[infinity706]

Careful there, infinity. Stella doesn't like arguers. If you don't agree with her 100% down the line, you're a sexist homophobe and probably a fascist, or what is worse, a Republican...

Hey, I still like stella even if we don't agree on everything.

So, it's difficult to tell who is attracted to women because our standards are too high? That doesn't make sense ('that girl doesn't meet my high standard! I guess she can't be a lesbian'?).

Maybe you are trying to say that some people aren't in relationships because their standards are supposedly too high, which is a different matter altogether.

That's 2 completely different issues. Excessively high standards isn't exclusive to lesbians.

This is true for some people.

But it's still not a piece of advice that most women would normally hand out to other women in such a general fashion.

Well, it's not advice I generally give, either. The standards thing was about guys trying to find a bi chick that will let him watch/participate. Women that will play with a M/F couple are harder to find and might have to go outside your normal zone to get that to happen.

 

[Wife of Bath]

I asked that very same question to one of my lesbian friends about six months ago! She basically gave me a non-answer, like...you just know.

Which baffles me. But apparently works for her?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Hey, I still like stella even if we don't agree on everything.

why thank you!

Well, it's not advice I generally give, either. The standards thing was about guys trying to find a bi chick that will let him watch/participate. Women that will play with a M/F couple are harder to find and might have to go outside your normal zone to get that to happen.

Ah, yeah. Or be up to her standards.

 

[janeyruth]

I asked that very same question to one of my lesbian friends about six months ago! She basically gave me a non-answer, like...you just know.

Which baffles me. But apparently works for her?

It works for her, but for most of us, the result is confusion, not to mention miscommunication which leads to a veritable plethora of faux pas and "oh pardon moi's"

To clear things up, perhaps we should wear nametags, like in Seinfeld. And there could be cute little symbols on the tag designating one's political affiliation, religion, sexual preference, etc...

 

[StrayKat]

Women that will play with a M/F couple are harder to find and might have to go outside your normal zone to get that to happen.

Now granted I never tried picking them on the street, but I had less problem finding suitable women willing to join me and my husband than men that would be to my taste.
Maybe my standards in men are too high