Pregnant at 50?

[Lord Pmann]

I'm going to be the dissenter here....
First, congrats to your mother! How exciting!
Next, you. Your post comes across as all selfish and mememe. What right do you have to put your own negative feelings onto your mothers situation?
Grow the fuck up

She did find out her mom was pregnant via Facebook. Would your reaction be all rainbows and smiles if you found out your mom was pregnant by her friends' comments on Facebook? Her mom is obviously in a bit of a weird place. All I know is that she's handling this WAY better than I would.

 

[SweetErika]

I'd be concerned about any relative or friend who was at such an advanced maternal age. Nearly all of the kids of the moms I know who were in their mid-to-late forties when they got pregnant have some sort of developmental delay (namely, speech delays, feeding/growing/thriving issues, sensory disorders and autism).

 

[htobeme5]

still hot

Women in their late 40's and early fiftys can be hotter,: than when they were younger. Appreciate them, don't throw them out to the pasture.

 

[SweetErika]

Women in their late 40's and early fiftys can be hotter,: than when they were younger. Appreciate them, don't throw them out to the pasture.

Did you even read the first post?

This thread has NOTHING to do with how attractive 50-year-olds are, appreciating them or paying attention to them. The only people who have mentioned attractiveness are others who don't appear to have read the original post and leg-humpers.

 

[Mephistophelily]

I'm not saying I'm mad about baby.
I'm worried about my mom and the situation she's in, in all regards. As Erika said, the possibilities on the kid and her own well being scare me... As well as her whole relationship situation.

 

[warrior queen]

I'm not saying I'm mad about baby.
I'm worried about my mom and the situation she's in, in all regards. As Erika said, the possibilities on the kid and her own well being scare me... As well as her whole relationship situation.

Maybe you found out the way you did because your mum senses/knows your negativity and couldn't deal with it?
Right now, she needs your support, no matter what her choices are.
You're scared for her? Fine, be scared.
But give your mother your unconditional support even though you are worried and scared - she'd do the same for you, right?

Honestly, it would disturb me greatly if my mother got pregnant and I found out via fb.
It would disturb me enough to question why my mother felt she couldn't tell me face to face. Why? What was my attitude that she felt the need to do it that way?
I'd also be concerned for her physically if she were pregnant... but I would support her decision and choice to be pregnant. Her body, her life.
If she was happy, I'd be happy for her despite my personal concerns.

 

[dashd]

As Erica said pregnancy in the 50's is not without its dangers. The number one birth defect in this age group is Downs Syndrome aka trisomy 21. The risk for this defect also increases with the father's age as well... so if both are over 50 there is an abnormally high risk for this defect. Normal pregnancy screening tests will check for this possibility but a amniocentesis gives the definite answer.

Apart from the dangers of birth defects, the mothers do quite well medically speaking. A good friend of mine in Junior High school (years ago as I'm 58) had a nephew older than he was. It was a little strange to hear this 20 something yo call this 13 yo "Uncle Al"

Best of luck to your Mom and the family.