Prepping for a meeting

[SweetDommes]

*chuckle* There are always exceptions to every rule.

very true ... and techincally, we did break the rule with ghosst ... but then again, by the time we "broke" the rule, he had been here for 3 or 4 days, so does it still really count as a 'first visit'??

 

[Bandit58]

Hope it all goes well for you

 

[SweetDommes]

Hope it all goes well for you

Well, by now, he's trolled us on here, so he knows that I'm nervous about it ... *shakes head* shouldn't have told him to come here until AFTER this thread got buried ...

We talked to him today, and he should get online again tonight ... and he'll be here tomorrow afternoon. Now I just have to make sure that I keep breathing until then ...

 

[SweetDommes]

AAARRRRRGGGGGG!!!!!

I now have two more weeks to fret over this ... His job kept him late this morning and is making him come in again tonight, so he can't come up to see us today

I'm not really upset about it; being broke, we understand needing to keep the boss happy ... it's just adding to my stress factor that I have to anticipate the meeting for another two weeks. *sigh* I still need suggestions for distraction ...

 

[FungiUg]

Ah, that sucks. But we do have to live in the real world... Oh well. You'll just have to pop in here for regular therapy in the mean time (let me play with your mind... )

 

[SweetDommes]

Ah, that sucks. But we do have to live in the real world... Oh well. You'll just have to pop in here for regular therapy in the mean time (let me play with your mind... )

Yeah, I know ... the boy was VERY pathetic as he was telling me that he couldn't come up afterall ... he acted as though he was about to cry, which was just too freakin cute. But I told him that it was ok, that we understood & sent him to bed to rest before going back in tonight ...

And just what are you intending to do to me? *puts a helmet on to protect her mind from FungiUg *

 

[FungiUg]

Yeah, I know ... the boy was VERY pathetic as he was telling me that he couldn't come up afterall ... he acted as though he was about to cry, which was just too freakin cute. But I told him that it was ok, that we understood & sent him to bed to rest before going back in tonight ...

Sounds to me like someone might have the hots for her potential new boy... *chuckle* I guess that's a good sign. Just have to keep it in firmly check until you do actually meet! Self domination...?

 

[SweetDommes]

Sounds to me like someone might have the hots for her potential new boy... *chuckle* I guess that's a good sign. Just have to keep it in firmly check until you do actually meet! Self domination...?

He's sweet, subby, and we get along ... we've also been talking to him for about 6 months now, through his mom being very ill (in ICU after post-operative complications), and through a job change (he got laid off one job & had to find another) - it's difficult to not be attached at this point. The fact that he is very cute about not wanting to diappoint us is also very endearing.

He, like ghosst, makes me want to dominate him, just by how he acts and who he is - and not every potential subby does that. He is quite physically attractive, but that is not why I'm anxious about him coming to visit (and for the record, we didn't know what he looked like until Thursday when I finally thought to ask him for a pic so that we would know who we are looking for). This is something that we are all really hoping works out, but we have all had the disappointments of failures & it's just causing some anxiety on all sides (although Holly claims to be calm and unworried then again, she picked him from the start to keep ...).
Point here being that it's not so much that I have the hots for him (as you so tactfully claim FungiUg ) but just that there is that attachment that I hope remains intact after we meet.

 

[FungiUg]

I think if you have been chatting to him for that period of time, it's pretty likely you know who he is. It's fairly difficult (ne impossible) to maintain any level of deception for that length of time without suspicions rising, and you seem to have faith in his integrity, which means he's on the level.

So really it's just about chemistry. And that's just a matter of relaxing and letting it happen.

I'd say you're 90% of the way there. So just relax. Deep breaths in, out, calming thoughts, and then... enjoy him as a person when he finally gets there!

 

[SweetDommes]

I think if you have been chatting to him for that period of time, it's pretty likely you know who he is. It's fairly difficult (ne impossible) to maintain any level of deception for that length of time without suspicions rising, and you seem to have faith in his integrity, which means he's on the level.

So really it's just about chemistry. And that's just a matter of relaxing and letting it happen.

I'd say you're 90% of the way there. So just relax. Deep breaths in, out, calming thoughts, and then... enjoy him as a person when he finally gets there!

I know I know ... but it's much easier to say it than to do it

We do trust him ... we have since the first couple of conversations (not sure exactly what he said or did to make us trust him, but we both did). I have just had a few too many disappointments in the relationship department to relax totally.

 

[MissTaken]

Welllllllllllllllllll

An update please?

 

[SweetDommes]

Welllllllllllllllllll

An update please?

Welllllllllll.... I haven't talked to him today ... I sent him an e-mail, but I'm sure that he worked today & he has to be at work tomorrow morning at 5am. He'll be here weekend after next on Friday afternoon.

 

[FungiUg]

Welllllllllllllllllll

An update please?

update SweetDommes
set horny_levels = 4, impatience_levels = 10
where partner = 'new boi';

commit;

 

[SweetDommes]

update SweetDommes
set horny_levels = 4, impatience_levels = 10
where partner = 'new boi';

commit;

*slaps FungiUg* I am not that impatient
Anxiety and impatience are two totally different things. Try anxiety_levels = 10, impatience_levels = 6, and I can control my level of horny-ness much better than that, thank you ...

 

[MissTaken]

Welllllllllll.... I haven't talked to him today ... I sent him an e-mail, but I'm sure that he worked today & he has to be at work tomorrow morning at 5am. He'll be here weekend after next on Friday afternoon.

Ahhh so you have nearly two weeks to wait?

Is he planning to spend the weekend?

Two weeks to plan can be a very good thing.
Two weeks to wait could be nerve racking!



It's all about perspective.

 

[SweetDommes]

Ahhh so you have nearly two weeks to wait?

Is he planning to spend the weekend?

Two weeks to plan can be a very good thing.
Two weeks to wait could be nerve racking!



It's all about perspective.

Yup ... two whole weeks ...
He has the weekend off, so the potential for spending the weekend is there - he's coming Friday afternoon after he gets done down there (he gets off work at 2) and he doesn't have to work again until Monday morning at 5, so he could stay until late Sunday afternoon if things go well.

I'm currently somewhere inbetween the planning and chewing my nails down to my elbows stages ... I don't want to plan too much, in case things don't go well, but at the same time, if things are going well, and he does stay the whole weekend, the 'first visit rule' will be out the window & we'll need to have "something" *tries to look innocent* planned.

 

[FungiUg]

Well, free car wash, windows washed, bathrooms cleaned...

 

[SweetDommes]

Well, free car wash, windows washed, bathrooms cleaned...

I'd rather have the damn lawn mown ... I've been working on that for 3 days now (with an old, non-moterized type mower ... I have all kinds of blisters on my hands). As for the rest, we don't wash our windows & we just cleaned the bathroom ... that only leaves the cars *thinks about it* nah, I think we'll have other "duties" for him to attend to if he's here that long ...

 

[MissTaken]

Plan for the worst and hope for the best!



And a list of household chores is easy enough to put together.

 

[SweetDommes]

Plan for the worst and hope for the best!



And a list of household chores is easy enough to put together.

Shit, we have a list a mile long ... but it's not gonna wait for 2 weeks to get done ... by the time he gets here, there may not be much left to do.

 

[FungiUg]

I think we'll have other "duties" for him to attend to if he's here that long ...

I have absolutely no idea WHAT you could POSSIBLY mean...

 

[SweetDommes]

I have absolutely no idea WHAT you could POSSIBLY mean...

Hehehe ... rules or not, if he's here more than 24 hours, it's no longer a 'first meeting' & anything goes (and yes, there is double meaning to that smiley )

 

[SweetDommes]

edited cuz the damn thing double posted.

 

[SweetDommes]

Bump!

Bumping so that we don't lose this ... I already know that people are waiting for updates & unburying this is the easiest place to put them ...

He'll be here in 3 more days, and the jitters are coming back *sigh* At least I have work & a new puppy to keep me distracted.

 

[FungiUg]

Oooh... jitters!