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Passionnee
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Chuckus said:
Yes you do..
Hmmm I guess will have to do a little number too http://passionnee.tripod.com/people16.gif
Chuckus
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Passionnee said:Chuckus said:
Yes you do..
Otay, will try to get it out tonight then............
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Re: Xander,
Nowhere does Xander say "Thank you Nitelight for not coming to the board today"
Nitlight asked a question, Xander answered the question and in the proper polite way thanked Nite for asking...
Jaded you would have a point if someone else had asked the question and Xander had singled out Nite..
Is this really so hard to understand?
As for Nite's question...my day was OK...did I miss the silly threads? Yes and no...it was quicker scrolling through the new posts and no it didn't impact me much as I rarely checked out any of his or Ambros or any other threads that didn't have an interesting title...
The danger to posting so many threads that haven't much to say is...when you do have an important point many will bypass it just because of the name on it.
OK OK that'll teach me to not read an entire thread before posting...
..really shouldn't drink rum while cruising the info superhighway...this weaving may get me pulled over. Hope it's a female officer...
[Edited by Thumper on 12-30-2000 at 12:06 AM]
JadedHeart said:
Nowhere does Xander say "Thank you Nitelight for not coming to the board today"
Nitlight asked a question, Xander answered the question and in the proper polite way thanked Nite for asking...
Jaded you would have a point if someone else had asked the question and Xander had singled out Nite..
Is this really so hard to understand?
As for Nite's question...my day was OK...did I miss the silly threads? Yes and no...it was quicker scrolling through the new posts and no it didn't impact me much as I rarely checked out any of his or Ambros or any other threads that didn't have an interesting title...
The danger to posting so many threads that haven't much to say is...when you do have an important point many will bypass it just because of the name on it.
OK OK that'll teach me to not read an entire thread before posting...
..really shouldn't drink rum while cruising the info superhighway...this weaving may get me pulled over. Hope it's a female officer...
[Edited by Thumper on 12-30-2000 at 12:06 AM]
JadedHeart
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I can’t believe that everyone seems to be missing the big picture. This thread started by Nitelight asking:
“I notice the shortage of silly threads today.
Was the Board better?
Did everyone have a good time?”
I believe the point here was that he had spent the day away from the board and was asking if he was missed. To which several people responded that they had a great day and didn’t miss the silly threads at all. Whether these people that responded meant to be mean isn’t the point. I’m sure that several of them didn’t mean it in that way at all. Unfortunately, I believe Nitelight took it to mean that his contributions weren’t missed, and responded by saying:
“You're welcome.
Frankly, I had a pretty good day myself. I'm not going to miss you people as much as I thought.”
Then he went on to start a thread about spending less time on the board, to which everyone responded that that was probably a good thing. I’m sure that they meant that he would have more time to focus on things that might be more constructive. But what I want to know is why isn’t everyone jumping up and down, screaming, “No, we love you! Please stay!”
Nitelight is a huge part of what makes this board such a great place. He is the first one to make new members feel welcome, and always has something nice to say. He is witty and intelligent, and I, personally, love to read his posts. Right now he is going through a very hard time, and instead of everyone gathering around and supporting him, it seems like people are throwing rocks at him.
I know that some people don’t care for the silly threads, and they made their opinions known. Some not so politely! I have no problem with people voicing their opinion, but when those people keep bitching until Nitelight felt he had to spend the day away from the board, and continue to spend less time here, and drove Ambrosious from the board completely, that really is going too far!
I realize I might have been too vehement in my first post on this thread, but I was so incredibly angry I honestly couldn’t see straight. And my first post was directed at everyone that had been bitching, not just one person. This was the second time is two days that someone I like was driven from the board by petty bitching. My other friend hasn’t posted here since and that’s a crying shame because he is one of the best writers I’ve ever read.
The point here is yes, everyone should be encouraged to share their opinion, but when that opinion hurts other people’s feelings and causes them to feel their contributions have less worth, well I think they should be held accountable.
“I notice the shortage of silly threads today.
Was the Board better?
Did everyone have a good time?”
I believe the point here was that he had spent the day away from the board and was asking if he was missed. To which several people responded that they had a great day and didn’t miss the silly threads at all. Whether these people that responded meant to be mean isn’t the point. I’m sure that several of them didn’t mean it in that way at all. Unfortunately, I believe Nitelight took it to mean that his contributions weren’t missed, and responded by saying:
“You're welcome.
Frankly, I had a pretty good day myself. I'm not going to miss you people as much as I thought.”
Then he went on to start a thread about spending less time on the board, to which everyone responded that that was probably a good thing. I’m sure that they meant that he would have more time to focus on things that might be more constructive. But what I want to know is why isn’t everyone jumping up and down, screaming, “No, we love you! Please stay!”
Nitelight is a huge part of what makes this board such a great place. He is the first one to make new members feel welcome, and always has something nice to say. He is witty and intelligent, and I, personally, love to read his posts. Right now he is going through a very hard time, and instead of everyone gathering around and supporting him, it seems like people are throwing rocks at him.
I know that some people don’t care for the silly threads, and they made their opinions known. Some not so politely! I have no problem with people voicing their opinion, but when those people keep bitching until Nitelight felt he had to spend the day away from the board, and continue to spend less time here, and drove Ambrosious from the board completely, that really is going too far!
I realize I might have been too vehement in my first post on this thread, but I was so incredibly angry I honestly couldn’t see straight. And my first post was directed at everyone that had been bitching, not just one person. This was the second time is two days that someone I like was driven from the board by petty bitching. My other friend hasn’t posted here since and that’s a crying shame because he is one of the best writers I’ve ever read.
The point here is yes, everyone should be encouraged to share their opinion, but when that opinion hurts other people’s feelings and causes them to feel their contributions have less worth, well I think they should be held accountable.
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JadedHeart
I'm here now, love.
And as for spending less time here, I'm driven more by RL concerns than by what anyone has said or could say. I'm trying to turn my life around, and I think it's a good thing that I've introduced a bit of discipline into my day.
Now, it's a whole different story if I hit the lottery in the coming month. Then, it would be Nitelight 24/7.
I'm here now, love.
And as for spending less time here, I'm driven more by RL concerns than by what anyone has said or could say. I'm trying to turn my life around, and I think it's a good thing that I've introduced a bit of discipline into my day.
Now, it's a whole different story if I hit the lottery in the coming month. Then, it would be Nitelight 24/7.
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Nitelight,
One question, can you say that the petty bitching had nothing to do with your decision?
One question, can you say that the petty bitching had nothing to do with your decision?
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JadedHeart
Falling in love with a woman and then realizing I had no future to offer her had everything to do with it.
On your New Year's Resolution thread, I said that mine was to grow up. This is part of the process.
Falling in love with a woman and then realizing I had no future to offer her had everything to do with it.
On your New Year's Resolution thread, I said that mine was to grow up. This is part of the process.
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Well, then it seems that I'm the one that missed the big picture. And since that is the case, I owe everyone here a huge apology. My tantrum was without cause and completely unnecessary. So I am very, very sorry and can assure you it will not happen again.
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JadedHeart
There's nothing wrong with throwing a good tantrum every now and then.
I appreciate your support, though, and I value your friendship.
There's nothing wrong with throwing a good tantrum every now and then.
I appreciate your support, though, and I value your friendship.
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Re: JadedHeart
Not everyone hits their stride at the same time in life. Some shoot out quickly when they are young, and then burn out just as quickly. Others need to think for awhile as to what they really want to do in life. I know several people who never went to college because it wasn't right for them when it is right for "normal" people, just out of high school. They are in their 30's now and working hard to get their degrees in various disciplines. But they are doing it because they are motivated and really want to, not just because they "should" be doing it. They may have hit their stride later in life, but they got there. Most interesting to me are the people who change careers in mid-life. I know (distantly) one man in our community who was extremely successful in business. He gave it all up and trained to be a priest when he was in the prime of his life. And he loves his new career, because his motivation in life changed and he listened to what his heart was telling him.
To make a long post even longer, Nitelight, what I'm trying to say is that it is a good thing that you found someone so important to you that you have also found motivation to make changes in your life. I wish you much success. I will still enjoy the posts you do have time to make at Lit, but won't be disappointed if you post less because you are doing more for yourself and your future.
I wouldn't have pointed that out as your motivation, but now that you did, it is what I read into your thread in the first place about spending more time on your writing and less on Lit. I don't believe you have no future to offer her. You just needed the right motivation to find it for yourself, and maybe now you have.R Nitelight said:
Not everyone hits their stride at the same time in life. Some shoot out quickly when they are young, and then burn out just as quickly. Others need to think for awhile as to what they really want to do in life. I know several people who never went to college because it wasn't right for them when it is right for "normal" people, just out of high school. They are in their 30's now and working hard to get their degrees in various disciplines. But they are doing it because they are motivated and really want to, not just because they "should" be doing it. They may have hit their stride later in life, but they got there. Most interesting to me are the people who change careers in mid-life. I know (distantly) one man in our community who was extremely successful in business. He gave it all up and trained to be a priest when he was in the prime of his life. And he loves his new career, because his motivation in life changed and he listened to what his heart was telling him.
To make a long post even longer, Nitelight, what I'm trying to say is that it is a good thing that you found someone so important to you that you have also found motivation to make changes in your life. I wish you much success. I will still enjoy the posts you do have time to make at Lit, but won't be disappointed if you post less because you are doing more for yourself and your future.
