Question about butt plugs

[JohnCash123]

My wife is a "hard no" when it comes to anal sex because of the discomfort. Sorry if this has been asked before, but does having a butt plug inserted for a various amount of time prior lessen the discomfort when it comes to anal sex?

 

[Lori_Lux]

Yes and no. You will still have the discomfort of the plug initially. The best way to start is small (much smaller than your cock) with lots of lubricant and slowly work the size up over a period of time. There are plug kits that are sold in ascending sizes to help with this.

 

[leftwantingmore]

Start with your little finger and lots of lube. Your little finger is more personal. Get her used to that. Then start, small plug and then work your way up. Always make sure she is comfortable and go slowly. And make sure it is fun and pleasurable for her. That will make it good for you in the long run.

 

[Lori_Lux]

As a second thought it may help to use a small plug and have regular sex while she has it in. Slowly make the two sensations related. When I have had straight sex I've found women do enjoy their butts played with lightly if they're already aroused. Like some slight pressure on their hole but maybe not even inserted to start.

 

[Britva415]

My wife is a "hard no" when it comes to anal sex because of the discomfort. Sorry if this has been asked before, but does having a butt plug inserted for a various amount of time prior lessen the discomfort when it comes to anal sex?

Is there any answer which will change her mind? Seems to me hard-no is hard-no. I'd just stop.

 

[MilleniJen]

A butt plug can help with getting used to the feeling - my first few times I was terrified that I was going to poop when it was just that I wasn't used to it.

 

[LMWM321]

Is there any answer which will change her mind? Seems to me hard-no is hard-no. I'd just stop.

I think that's a good point. But I also think couples owe it to each other to explain their reasons for saying no.

I would encourage the OP to have an honest convo about WHY it's a hard no. If she's religious and thinks anal sex is immoral, well....such views, however ridiculous they may be, are pretty deeply entrenched and are not likely to be changed. But if her reason for saying no is based misinformation, well.. it's important to know and discuss them.

For example, she may believe anal sex is inherently messy, dangerous, painful, and harmful. Well, those are misconceptions. Each of those can be largely or entirely mitigated by going about it properly. And she can learn about those herself by doing a little research. Likewise, if she thinks your interest in it is related to a desire to dominate her or humiliate her, etc.. Again, discuss openly. The truth is, anal sex isn't necessarily about either of those.

In our marriage, my wife has the absolute right to say NO to anything sexual. But she owes it to our relationship to at least have an open discussion about it. And to be honest, if I always took her first "no" as final, we wouldn't be doing half of the things we do in bed. I would accept it for awhile, but would bring it up again later - maybe after a few weeks, months or even a few years have passed.

 

[MaximTerhune]

I had a girlfriend that loved anal and had the toys that she wanted to share with me. I miss those days. Subsequent girlfriends needed some gentle and encouraging coaxing. I found one that came to love it, one that couldn't get past the taboo and another that tolerated it. The one that tolerated it felt secure as i told her she could experiment with me as i would with her. I always thought she gave me the horniest impulses of the lot.

 

[emme8]

Do not insert a butt plug, forget about it wait for it stop hurting, then yank it out, and expect anal sex. The removal , especially after extended wear time, hurts also.


When i expect anal sex I use an enema. Lots of lube. And before sex I use my small plug, in and out until it's easy to pass. Then I use the medium plug until it's sliding in easily. Maybe if I am ambitious I'll use my larger one.

Beyong that I can't help. I get off on the painful submission.

Another bit of advice. Eat bland foods that night.

 

[BikiniBawdy]

My wife is a "hard no" when it comes to anal sex because of the discomfort. Sorry if this has been asked before, but does having a butt plug inserted for a various amount of time prior lessen the discomfort when it comes to anal sex?

So, JohnnyCash...she doesn't want a "Ring of Fire"? Lol

 

[OlderBtm4U]

Might I suggest that if you play with butt plugs then you both wear them. That should help you understand what it’s like for her.

 

[emme8]

Might I suggest that if you play with butt plugs then you both wear them. That should help you understand what it’s like for her.

Always bigger. As she getts to peg you with a cock nearly as big as yours

 

[LMWM321]

Always bigger. As she getts to peg you with a cock nearly as big as yours

For the past 4 years now, my wife pegs me regularly and I absolutely love it. It began with me telling her, "You've had me inside of you thousands of times. And I want to know how that feels... You pushing a dildo, or strap-on inside of me is the closest approximation... Will you do it?" She said, "'Okay." There was none of this "Oh my god, my husband is bi-sexual!" nonsense...

She doesn't use a strap harness (too clumsy), she uses spandex pegging shorts - ie., sorta like yoga shorts with a cock ring sewn into the front through which the dildo passes and is held in place.

Honestly, I can't understand how anyone wouldn't love the way it feels to have something pushed up their butt. Provided, of course, it begins with something very slender and LOTS of lube.

 

[debbislut]

My wife is a "hard no" when it comes to anal sex because of the discomfort. Sorry if this has been asked before, but does having a butt plug inserted for a various amount of time prior lessen the discomfort when it comes to anal sex?

I would suggest you start with nothing larger than a finger and please use a lot of lube.

Anal pain goes deep and can last for days.

There is a huge range of butt plugs available online but again start small.
I discovered a great lube called " Liquid Silk " that can be bought on eBay. Trust me it feels like silk but your wife will need to be extremely calm when she is penetrated for a few months at least. Go slow.

It took my body ( anus ) years to adapt to sex toys and eventually a penis. I love anal but I've had moments when pain took over from pleasure because I was too keen to be penetrated by very large toy's.

Try not to be tempted to using vegetables like carrots , cucumbers etc without peeling them first. Again lots and lots of lube.

I wear butt plugs regularly and I have found a problem with them. They have to be large enough so they don't slip out.
The other problem is if the part of the plug that prevents the entire thing going fully into the anus can disappear along with the plug if it isn't large enough. It happened to me once and it wasn't easy to retrieve.
I am someone who enjoys walking and going shopping with a plug inside me so realising the entire plug was inside me was quite unsettling at the time.

It takes a lot of time , patience and care to fully enjoy anal sex. Will the discomfort of anal lessen if you use butt plugs? The truth is the anus will open over time. After my episode with the disappearing plug I realised I needed a bigger one.
I would suggest using fingers first followed by a small vibrator. Please keep hold of it and don't come even close to inserting all of it. Inflatable vibrating plugs can be fun but I would suggest you allow your wife to retain control. If she isn't keen to have anal sex please don't make her feel obliged to do it. It can be intensely enjoyable but not if the recipient fully relaxed and well lubed. I would remind you that anal can get messy.

A douche can be fun and enjoyable but if she is embarrassed by it please don't pursue it.

Thank you for reading this. I am planning to buy a sex machine / fucking machine. Your wife definitely isn't ready for this. Lots of lube and please be gentle with her.

 

[Sign54]

I would suggest you start with nothing larger than a finger and please use a lot of lube.

Anal pain goes deep and can last for days.

There is a huge range of butt plugs available online but again start small.
I discovered a great lube called " Liquid Silk " that can be bought on eBay. Trust me it feels like silk but your wife will need to be extremely calm when she is penetrated for a few months at least. Go slow.

It took my body ( anus ) years to adapt to sex toys and eventually a penis. I love anal but I've had moments when pain took over from pleasure because I was too keen to be penetrated by very large toy's.

Try not to be tempted to using vegetables like carrots , cucumbers etc without peeling them first. Again lots and lots of lube.

I wear butt plugs regularly and I have found a problem with them. They have to be large enough so they don't slip out.
The other problem is if the part of the plug that prevents the entire thing going fully into the anus can disappear along with the plug if it isn't large enough. It happened to me once and it wasn't easy to retrieve.
I am someone who enjoys walking and going shopping with a plug inside me so realising the entire plug was inside me was quite unsettling at the time.

It takes a lot of time , patience and care to fully enjoy anal sex. Will the discomfort of anal lessen if you use butt plugs? The truth is the anus will open over time. After my episode with the disappearing plug I realised I needed a bigger one.
I would suggest using fingers first followed by a small vibrator. Please keep hold of it and don't come even close to inserting all of it. Inflatable vibrating plugs can be fun but I would suggest you allow your wife to retain control. If she isn't keen to have anal sex please don't make her feel obliged to do it. It can be intensely enjoyable but not if the recipient fully relaxed and well lubed. I would remind you that anal can get messy.

A douche can be fun and enjoyable but if she is embarrassed by it please don't pursue it.

Thank you for reading this. I am planning to buy a sex machine / fucking machine. Your wife definitely isn't ready for this. Lots of lube and please be gentle with her.

Debbie, How did you get over it without hurting yourself?

 

[TinaG_2023]

I've never experinced any pain with a butt plug! A fat cock is a diferent story though!

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

For the past 4 years now, my wife pegs me regularly and I absolutely love it. It began with me telling her, "You've had me inside of you thousands of times. And I want to know how that feels... You pushing a dildo, or strap-on inside of me is the closest approximation... Will you do it?" She said, "'Okay." There was none of this "Oh my god, my husband is bi-sexual!" nonsense...

She doesn't use a strap harness (too clumsy), she uses spandex pegging shorts - ie., sorta like yoga shorts with a cock ring sewn into the front through which the dildo passes and is held in place.

Honestly, I can't understand how anyone wouldn't love the way it feels to have something pushed up their butt. Provided, of course, it begins with something very slender and LOTS of lube.

My wife has a pair of those pegging boxer briefs but they don’t work well with larger heavier dildos.

 

[Lucien_Al]

My wife has a pair of those pegging boxer briefs but they don’t work well with larger heavier dildos.

We have tried a normal strap on harness and the pegging shorts and neither really did it for us. These days she prefers to use her toys on me by hand so that she can watch my precum dribbling and the final explosion.

 

[debbislut]

That sounds amazing. Anal sex is for me fantastic. I regularly wear a butt plug for hours and adore my 9.5" dildo. I have even sucked it. I would definitely like to be pegged by a woman. For me it would be so submissive to be fucked by a woman because they are generally the ones being penetrated.

Im gay but I did have a girlfriend a long time ago before I discovered my true sexuality.
It would definitely be one of those" Please bend me over against the wall and fuck my brains out " moments. I agree with you. Being penetrated is a beautiful feeling.

 

[steelringsXXXX]

I've never experinced any pain with a butt plug! A fat cock is a diferent story though!

Lube lube lube and gradual finger stretching … but you know all that already from experience

 

[debbislut]

Lube lube lube and gradual finger stretching … but you know all that already from experience

I certainly do. I bought a butt

Lube lube lube and gradual finger stretching … but you know all that already from experience

Yes I do. I bought a new butt plug a few years ago that has a 8.5" circumference. It took a lot of time and patience but I heard and felt that plop as it buried itself in me too the hilt. It is that wide I could feel my skin trying to tear itself. I'm okay with length but girth can take a lot of getting used to. I use " Liquid Silk " lube. I would recommend it for anal sex.