Question about butt plugs

[JohnCash123]

My wife is a "hard no" when it comes to anal sex because of the discomfort. Sorry if this has been asked before, but does having a butt plug inserted for a various amount of time prior lessen the discomfort when it comes to anal sex?

 

[Lori_Lux]

Yes and no. You will still have the discomfort of the plug initially. The best way to start is small (much smaller than your cock) with lots of lubricant and slowly work the size up over a period of time. There are plug kits that are sold in ascending sizes to help with this.

 

[leftwantingmore]

Start with your little finger and lots of lube. Your little finger is more personal. Get her used to that. Then start, small plug and then work your way up. Always make sure she is comfortable and go slowly. And make sure it is fun and pleasurable for her. That will make it good for you in the long run.

 

[Lori_Lux]

As a second thought it may help to use a small plug and have regular sex while she has it in. Slowly make the two sensations related. When I have had straight sex I've found women do enjoy their butts played with lightly if they're already aroused. Like some slight pressure on their hole but maybe not even inserted to start.

 

[Britva415]

My wife is a "hard no" when it comes to anal sex because of the discomfort. Sorry if this has been asked before, but does having a butt plug inserted for a various amount of time prior lessen the discomfort when it comes to anal sex?

Is there any answer which will change her mind? Seems to me hard-no is hard-no. I'd just stop.

 

[MilleniJen]

A butt plug can help with getting used to the feeling - my first few times I was terrified that I was going to poop when it was just that I wasn't used to it.

 

[LMWM321]

Is there any answer which will change her mind? Seems to me hard-no is hard-no. I'd just stop.

I think that's a good point. But I also think couples owe it to each other to explain their reasons for saying no.

I would encourage the OP to have an honest convo about WHY it's a hard no. If she's religious and thinks anal sex is immoral, well....such views, however ridiculous they may be, are pretty deeply entrenched and are not likely to be changed. But if her reason for saying no is based misinformation, well.. it's important to know and discuss them.

For example, she may believe anal sex is inherently messy, dangerous, painful, and harmful. Well, those are misconceptions. Each of those can be largely or entirely mitigated by going about it properly. And she can learn about those herself by doing a little research. Likewise, if she thinks your interest in it is related to a desire to dominate her or humiliate her, etc.. Again, discuss openly. The truth is, anal sex isn't necessarily about either of those.

In our marriage, my wife has the absolute right to say NO to anything sexual. But she owes it to our relationship to at least have an open discussion about it. And to be honest, if I always took her first "no" as final, we wouldn't be doing half of the things we do in bed. I would accept it for awhile, but would bring it up again later - maybe after a few weeks, months or even a few years have passed.

 

[MaximTerhune]

I had a girlfriend that loved anal and had the toys that she wanted to share with me. I miss those days. Subsequent girlfriends needed some gentle and encouraging coaxing. I found one that came to love it, one that couldn't get past the taboo and another that tolerated it. The one that tolerated it felt secure as i told her she could experiment with me as i would with her. I always thought she gave me the horniest impulses of the lot.

 

[emme8]

Do not insert a butt plug, forget about it wait for it stop hurting, then yank it out, and expect anal sex. The removal , especially after extended wear time, hurts also.


When i expect anal sex I use an enema. Lots of lube. And before sex I use my small plug, in and out until it's easy to pass. Then I use the medium plug until it's sliding in easily. Maybe if I am ambitious I'll use my larger one.

Beyong that I can't help. I get off on the painful submission.

Another bit of advice. Eat bland foods that night.

 

[BikiniBawdy]

My wife is a "hard no" when it comes to anal sex because of the discomfort. Sorry if this has been asked before, but does having a butt plug inserted for a various amount of time prior lessen the discomfort when it comes to anal sex?

So, JohnnyCash...she doesn't want a "Ring of Fire"? Lol

 

[OlderBtm4U]

Might I suggest that if you play with butt plugs then you both wear them. That should help you understand what it’s like for her.

 

[emme8]

Might I suggest that if you play with butt plugs then you both wear them. That should help you understand what it’s like for her.

Always bigger. As she getts to peg you with a cock nearly as big as yours

 

[LMWM321]

Always bigger. As she getts to peg you with a cock nearly as big as yours

For the past 4 years now, my wife pegs me regularly and I absolutely love it. It began with me telling her, "I've been inside of you thousands of times. And I want to know how that feels for you. You pushing a dildo, or strap-on inside of me is the closest approximation of this." She said, "'Okay."

She doesn't use a strap harness (too clumsy), she uses spandex pegging shorts - ie., sorta like yoga shorts with a cock ring in front through which the dildo passes and is held in place..

Honestly, I can't understand how anyone wouldn't love the way it feels to have something pushed up their butt. Provided, of course, it begins with something very slender and LOTS of lube.