Question about people in their 60s

[Illinoisguy1980]

I have a friend who is 67(F). Im 45(M). We met a month ago a laundry mat. She spilled her change and helped her pick it up. We strike a conversation and she opens fully up to me so easily that she's recently widowed and how no one even says hi anymore let alone makes conversation past their phones. I say I was raised better than that. I ended up giving her my number in case she needed anything or help with anything. I meant it innocent honestly. She's been calling regularly to help with yard stuff or help bringing things inside or trash to curb etc. at least a couple times a week. As a guy I know we tend to think with our dick more than our brains and I admit I have checked her out a time or two but that's human nature. My question would be is she doing this for genuine help from a friend? Out of loneliness? Attraction? Neither of us have made a pass or even an inuendo or joke. She does like to hug me though and I think that's why I'm questioning things. Any opinions or insight from women in that age group would really help me understand this new bond.

 

[PacificWaves]

Plenty of women in their sixties have active libidos. Ask her out to dinner. She’ll get the hint that you’re interested in her, and how she responds will give you some indication if the attraction is mutual, or if she just thinks you’re a nice young man.

 

[Erosfan]

Plenty of women in their sixties have active libidos. Ask her out to dinner. She’ll get the hint that you’re interested in her, and how she responds will give you some indication if the attraction is mutual, or if she just thinks you’re a nice young man.

This is very good advice. At the very least, she is lonely. Maybe she just wants to hang out, maybe more.
I'm a widower seeing a widow. Give it a shot and see where it goes.

 

[Illinoisguy1980]

Thank you for the advice. For now until im sure I will treat it as she’s lonely and I’m glad to keep her company.

 

[Winchester3030]

I agree with the rest of the comments, she probably is very lonely, she probably does need some help, you are a great person for being kind! How she might want to repay that kindness, who knows, I have a friend that is in her early 70’s and she is very sexually active

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife and I still have good sex in our early 70s. I know she likes to know some people still see her as sexually desirable, although she stopped having sex with other men when she turned 40. A widow may welcome the hint of sex, even if she doesn't want to do it.

 

[Illinoisguy1980]

For now I will keep on doing things the way we’ve been doing them. Yes although I may take the occasional glimpse I will allow her to initiate anything further that way if it is she is just lonely I can feel good about helping someone who needs it. If it turns into more then I’m open to that as well. Loneliness is terrible and we’ve all been there and it is I suppose better to feel something then nothing at all when it comes to overcoming loss of that nature. I have lost a son but not a spouse so I can’t exactly relate but I truly feel her pain on some level and only wanna help because it’s the right thing to do

 

[Uncut1969]

Keep us posted! Would love to be with a older women every little boys dream

 

[Illinoisguy1980]

Thank you all for the responses. I will post an update if and when something changes or happens

 

[NoFix4691]

For now I will keep on doing things the way we’ve been doing them. Yes although I may take the occasional glimpse I will allow her to initiate anything further that way if it is she is just lonely I can feel good about helping someone who needs it. If it turns into more then I’m open to that as well. Loneliness is terrible and we’ve all been there and it is I suppose better to feel something then nothing at all when it comes to overcoming loss of that nature. I have lost a son but not a spouse so I can’t exactly relate but I truly feel her pain on some level and only wanna help because it’s the right thing to do

At 67, I expect that she would feel awkward about hitting on a 45 yr-old. You should make the first move but in a gentle way. Women always want confirmation that they are still attractive.

 

[JessForFun37]

At 67, I expect that she would feel awkward about hitting on a 45 yr-old. You should make the first move but in a gentle way. Women always want confirmation that they are still attractive.

Agreed with this. I am single 61. The ladies I associate with do question this. You definitely need to lead her. @Illinoisguy1980

 

[Britva415]

If you won't assert what you want, then, she's going to take it as you don't want her.

You really have not said here that you do, so, she wouldn't be wrong to think you don't.

That makes her have even less reason to make any kind of a move.

If you want something to happen, you have to be the one to start signaling interest and moving things along. Adjust course as her reactions indicate, but, if you don't ever give her anything to react to, nothing will ever happen.

 

[Jessiat30]

Ask her out for a lunch date--get her talking and really listen--REALLY listen. You will know.

 

[nostuff]

Obviously, she's lonely. The question is what kind of lonely.

It's only natural for a single woman to grow lonely as she gets older, especially when recently widowed. And if you're willing to be a friendly ear and help with various chores, I've no doubt she appreciates you.

Would she want to go further? I can't think of a better way to judge than inviting her to lunch. Better yet, buy some carryout for dinner, and perhaps include a bottle of wine.

 

[geoff0833]

There's a recognised phenomena called 'widow's fire'. Basically women who have recently lost their husbands often experience a renaissance of sexual desire. Not sure how common it is though.

 

[Jessiat30]

Or how long the fire lasts?

 

[dennissara]

Also known as "Strike While The Iron Is Hot"

 

[Jessiat30]

Mine is lukewarm--it's been a long day at work.

 

[drobert44]

I have dated several widows and divorcees over 70. Yep, if they will date, sex happens quickly

 

[FamilyPussySlayer52]

I have a friend who is 67(F). Im 45(M). We met a month ago a laundry mat. She spilled her change and helped her pick it up. We strike a conversation and she opens fully up to me so easily that she's recently widowed and how no one even says hi anymore let alone makes conversation past their phones. I say I was raised better than that. I ended up giving her my number in case she needed anything or help with anything. I meant it innocent honestly. She's been calling regularly to help with yard stuff or help bringing things inside or trash to curb etc. at least a couple times a week. As a guy I know we tend to think with our dick more than our brains and I admit I have checked her out a time or two but that's human nature. My question would be is she doing this for genuine help from a friend? Out of loneliness? Attraction? Neither of us have made a pass or even an inuendo or joke. She does like to hug me though and I think that's why I'm questioning things. Any opinions or insight from women in that age group would really help me understand this new bond.

Why not try to make a move on her .Its what do you want ? How do you want it to progress just friends or friends with benefits she’s older sex might be the furthest thing from her mind .You think she wants something more than to be platonic because she’s a hugger .If I thought everyone that ever gave me a hug meant they wanted something in a sexual way I’d have pussy lined up around the block She’s most likely just happy to have someone to lend a hand from time to time if you think you could get laid offer to take her out to do something as a couple maybe do it a couple times and then try and get a hot kiss or something that will be your indication of what it is good luck buddy

 

[rockynook]

Age is just a number. An active sex life is an individual decision.
My wife and are I 60, and very active.
My wife has a 83yo female friend is still very active. I have watched her perform and it is amazing.

 

[CarlyAnn]

At 67, I expect that she would feel awkward about hitting on a 45 yr-old. You should make the first move but in a gentle way. Women always want confirmation that they are still attractive.

Do this, it’s good advice and should move things along. Are you looking for a relationship with her or just a bang buddy?

 

[FamilyPussySlayer52]

Age is just a number. An active sex life is an individual decision.
My wife and are I 60, and very active.
My wife has a 83yo female friend is still very active. I have watched her perform and it is amazing.

What exactly is she performing?Are we talking puppet shows or do you mean performing sexually ? I’f it is sexual what does she do that’s so amazing ? Does she suck cock while she does hand stands ? I’m curious you got me intrigued.

 

[Sienna62]

Age is just a number. An active sex life is an individual decision.
My wife and are I 60, and very active.
My wife has a 83yo female friend is still very active. I have watched her perform and it is amazing.

“ watched her perform “ …. wow , dm open , please tell me more !

 

[Carson19820]

She's recently widowed. She's got a large void in her life now she's needing to fill. Could be just companionship. Could be the security of having someone handy around. Could be the need for intimacy that's she not had in years.

You'll never know until you begin to move forward.