Question for Lit Men
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Rubyfruit
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I wish I could get my husband to post on this thread, but he is currently in the air on the way to the east coast.
He actually enjoys watching me getting fucked by another man. He does! It turns him on. He is somewhat uncomfortable with the feelings I most likely will develop towards the man, but I think the erotic nature of the encounter overrides that for the most part.
I am just as likely to become emotionally entangled with a woman as I am a man. It is my nature. I enjoy deep, meaningful relationships.
It's funny how most of the responses thus far from men have been of the possessive nature.
Love comes in many forms. There is never too much of it.
He actually enjoys watching me getting fucked by another man. He does! It turns him on. He is somewhat uncomfortable with the feelings I most likely will develop towards the man, but I think the erotic nature of the encounter overrides that for the most part.
I am just as likely to become emotionally entangled with a woman as I am a man. It is my nature. I enjoy deep, meaningful relationships.
It's funny how most of the responses thus far from men have been of the possessive nature.
Love comes in many forms. There is never too much of it.
Rubyfruit said:
That's because a number of the replies come from men that aren't in your type of relationship ruby...
There is some "double thinking" going on when you are not sure if you're with the 'right' person or not.
Maybe these people have not gotten to that point of conversation yet?!
modest mouse
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Im way too tored to read this whole thread but in regards to Lavyender's question.
Where do I sign up? If I am at the point of trust in the relationship to go here, i am one happy bastard. For me its about that communication between two people and if we are both willing to go hee than we are strong with each other, in a way in which monogamy due to fear can not accomplish.
Ill bring the accessories, lets make this happen.
Where do I sign up? If I am at the point of trust in the relationship to go here, i am one happy bastard. For me its about that communication between two people and if we are both willing to go hee than we are strong with each other, in a way in which monogamy due to fear can not accomplish.
Ill bring the accessories, lets make this happen.
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Depends on the situation I guess. In California, my girlfriend and I knew another couple. Being guys, we'd brag about the sexual expertise of our partners, and I guess the women did too. One night we were at their place getting pretty tanked, and weren't about to drive that night. It didn't seemed planned, but we were all nude in the hot tub, drunk, and he got out with my girl, and I got out with his. We didn't make it to the house, so we moved the party to the cabana. After a while, we were all going strong, and it really turned me on to see my girl riding my friend, while his girl was riding me.
We all were about three feet apart, both girls sitting on us, my girlfriend and I locked eyes. I could see the heat in her pupils and it turned me on even more! I looked up to my friends girl, and she was looking into his eyes! It dawned on me that we were fucking someone else, but were still into each other! We were all fucking at the same rythmn and looking into our respective lovers eyes. I locked on my girlfiends eyes and we fucked that way until we both came at the same time. My friend and his girl came at the same time too. Whatever positions we did the rest of the night, we always tried to position ourselves so we could lock eyes! It was a complete turn on and it didn't effect our friendship after that either!
Hoped this helped with your question!
We all were about three feet apart, both girls sitting on us, my girlfriend and I locked eyes. I could see the heat in her pupils and it turned me on even more! I looked up to my friends girl, and she was looking into his eyes! It dawned on me that we were fucking someone else, but were still into each other! We were all fucking at the same rythmn and looking into our respective lovers eyes. I locked on my girlfiends eyes and we fucked that way until we both came at the same time. My friend and his girl came at the same time too. Whatever positions we did the rest of the night, we always tried to position ourselves so we could lock eyes! It was a complete turn on and it didn't effect our friendship after that either!
Hoped this helped with your question!
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Somewhat off topic, but...it's a somewhat relevant true story. My aunt married this dude. They had children together. After 15 years of marriage, he announced that he was not only gay ut also in love with a man. They separated. My aunt & her kids & went into counseling.
So, think of that before you bring your man close to another naked guy. Just a public service announcement.
So, think of that before you bring your man close to another naked guy. Just a public service announcement.
seXieleXie
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shut yo mouth!
seXieleXie
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then i can dig it
YogiBare
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Gotta agree with Mensa. And go even further ...
I think it's instinctual for a guy to be posessive about "his" woman. Hard wired. Has to do with passing on your genes, from everything I've read and learned. (The penis is designed so that the head will pull any semen out of the vagina that has been deposited there before yours, increasing the likelihood that your spermies will win the prize.)
Why do some guys get off on watching another guy fuck their lady? Dunno. I don't get it.
Any anthropologists here who can explain it?
I think it's instinctual for a guy to be posessive about "his" woman. Hard wired. Has to do with passing on your genes, from everything I've read and learned. (The penis is designed so that the head will pull any semen out of the vagina that has been deposited there before yours, increasing the likelihood that your spermies will win the prize.)
Why do some guys get off on watching another guy fuck their lady? Dunno. I don't get it.
Any anthropologists here who can explain it?
crystalhunting
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Actually Lavender I would watch another man give my lover pleasure.I have a better amount of personal security to allow that.but....there would have to be some personal agreements between me and my lover before it happened.I'm not very insecure...but I do have my points.
But of course I doubt that any guy here believes me.
CH
But of course I doubt that any guy here believes me.
CH
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No I don't think I ever could.
I"m a jealous person, and paranoid.
that would just bug the hell out of me.
I"m a jealous person, and paranoid.
that would just bug the hell out of me.
Thumper
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Hoover penis?
Just how does that work Yogi? That would only work if you got in there right after he was done. Yes there is a genetic component. Go here for a lively debate on the issue.
I would have no problem with it.
I am not attracted to guys in the least but the sight of a naked male doesn't make me uncomfortable or aroused. This, BTW sorta goes with the unrest over Juspar's former Av. If my wife or lover decides to look at Playgirl I will sit with her and peruse it. No big deal and if ya pay a little attention you can learn from her responses
Wondering why most men here seem to think that women keep a scorecard regarding lovers and their performance. Maybe it is because that is exactly what the males do and they assume everyone else does. I don't make comparisons between the women I am with....no time...to busy being..."in the moment" with them.
If she is having fun...no problem.
Just how does that work Yogi? That would only work if you got in there right after he was done. Yes there is a genetic component. Go here for a lively debate on the issue.
I would have no problem with it.
I am not attracted to guys in the least but the sight of a naked male doesn't make me uncomfortable or aroused. This, BTW sorta goes with the unrest over Juspar's former Av. If my wife or lover decides to look at Playgirl I will sit with her and peruse it. No big deal and if ya pay a little attention you can learn from her responses
Wondering why most men here seem to think that women keep a scorecard regarding lovers and their performance. Maybe it is because that is exactly what the males do and they assume everyone else does. I don't make comparisons between the women I am with....no time...to busy being..."in the moment" with them.
If she is having fun...no problem.
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lavender said:
I would!
HELL YES! I think it would be incredibly erotic.
I don't think so. Though I'm not sure you mean just paranoid - you're talking about a whole range of emotions here - jealosy, paranoia, concern (about measuring up, what happens after)... all that and more...
I think I would feel some of all those feelings - for a moment. There are very few, if any, of us who have managed to COMPLETELY shake off the customs and mores that have been indoctrinated into us since birth. But knowing this is the first step. Jealosy is a hateful emotion. Love truly means that you put someone else's happiness above your own. Jealosy can be equated with ownership. Once you realize that you don't own another person then you realize that jealosy is ridiculous. Its not natural - its something that's been ingrained in us by our culture.
So yes - I would feel some jealosy - maybe paranoia - at first - because while I believe I understand myself, my nature, my desires and what has shaped me as a person - for better or worse - there is that initial, ingrained/indoctrinated reaction.. but, again, realizing that one can then easily put it aside and enjoy the experience both voyeuristically and for the pleasure it gives to your lover.
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Hoover penis? That's funny. Now, that's really funny!
Thumper, I'm trying to remember the details. There was an anthropologist who presented at a conference that I went to several years ago. He was talking about orangutans (or gorillas?) whose mating habits he had studied. During mating time there was mass copulation, as each male took a turn with the female. However, the dominant male always got to have her last, so that his sperm was the most likely to impregnate the female. This way, it was the genes of the strongest, healthiest, smartest male that got passed onto the next generation. The genetic studies that were done on the offspring showed that this was, in fact, what happened.
The anthropologist pointed out how the shape of the primate penis causes any semen previously deposited in the female's vagina to be pulled out by the head of the penis during intercourse. Lower animals don't have a head on the end of their penises, and this evolutionary development in primates is an important innovation that strengthens the species genetically.
The guy said that in humans, the males' emotional sexual posessiveness of the female is equivelent to the dominant male ape's maintaining his right to go last. It is hard-wired into us as a way to ensure that it is OUR genes that survive into the next generation.
I'm far from being an expert on this, Thumper, and what I don't really understand is why some men to like watching "their woman" being screwed by another man. The only thing that I can figure is that maybe part of the excitement for him is in getting to fuck her after they're done, knowing that he's replacing the other guy's jism with his own.
Thumper, I'm trying to remember the details. There was an anthropologist who presented at a conference that I went to several years ago. He was talking about orangutans (or gorillas?) whose mating habits he had studied. During mating time there was mass copulation, as each male took a turn with the female. However, the dominant male always got to have her last, so that his sperm was the most likely to impregnate the female. This way, it was the genes of the strongest, healthiest, smartest male that got passed onto the next generation. The genetic studies that were done on the offspring showed that this was, in fact, what happened.
The anthropologist pointed out how the shape of the primate penis causes any semen previously deposited in the female's vagina to be pulled out by the head of the penis during intercourse. Lower animals don't have a head on the end of their penises, and this evolutionary development in primates is an important innovation that strengthens the species genetically.
The guy said that in humans, the males' emotional sexual posessiveness of the female is equivelent to the dominant male ape's maintaining his right to go last. It is hard-wired into us as a way to ensure that it is OUR genes that survive into the next generation.
I'm far from being an expert on this, Thumper, and what I don't really understand is why some men to like watching "their woman" being screwed by another man. The only thing that I can figure is that maybe part of the excitement for him is in getting to fuck her after they're done, knowing that he's replacing the other guy's jism with his own.
