quick question

[stiguy22]

I'm having problems when it comes time to play...basically I lose my patience very quickly and really don't enjoy a long session. For whatever reason all the prep work, whether it be making some sort of homemade toy or something similar, I tend to get so worked up and horny just getting things setup. By the time everything is ready to go I normally can't hang in there very long before I need to get off. I'd like to have some nice long sessions where I'm basically holding myself off from cumming. Anyone have any suggestions on ways that I can hold back?

 

[emptynester]

If you can't hold off don't, but then be prepared for a long session as you put it to find out what pleases her. Don't have the attitude that your needs have been met so "lets roll over now and go to sleep."

We (women) seem to take a while longer than you (men) and enjoy the "longer sessions." Use the homemade toys you referred to or whatever you spent your time in preparing that made you so horny. It would be a shame to let all that preparation go to waste.

If you get that horny just in the preparation, you should be able to go for round two after pleasing and meeting her needs.

 

[stiguy22]

Sorry, I should have been a little more clear. I am referring to a solo session, so really there is no concern with having to please someone else. I understand what you are saying about not holding off and then going again, but after the first time the horniness dies down a lot.

 

[M's girl]

Sorry, I should have been a little more clear. I am referring to a solo session, so really there is no concern with having to please someone else. I understand what you are saying about not holding off and then going again, but after the first time the horniness dies down a lot.

Well, that happens to most guys I hear. A lot of women are ready for round two quicker but I'm not one of them usually. After orgasm I sometimes would LIKE to roll over and be done, but I think it really is an attitude-thing. Being a people-pleaser overall it's just not something that I will ever allow myself to do and I really hate it when a man does that too. It's rude and not polite

Anyway..... it just takes mindset and practice I guess. And it's a good thing if you do that for when you are with someone. But frankly, when you're alone, I guess it's okay whatever you do (and how quick). If you do want to prolong the sessions....? It's ALL in your mind, really.

 

[Bobmi357]

Sorry, I should have been a little more clear. I am referring to a solo session, so really there is no concern with having to please someone else. I understand what you are saying about not holding off and then going again, but after the first time the horniness dies down a lot.

The horniness dies down because your body gets flooded with hormones telling you to relax and perhaps go to sleep.

Since you're talking about solo sessions, there isn't much you can do except learn to pace yourself. Anticipation is nice, but you're missing out on the experience if you're letting the anticipation finish you off quickly.

Also, if you can't pace yourself. Finish off, then in a half hour, try doing it again.

 

[sunandshadow]

I've found that my solo sessions are really short when my attention is totally focused on whatever is arousing, but can get quite long if I either can't concentrate or deliberately distract myself with something else. So say your toy was a vibrating cock ring or a butt plug or something. Put it on/in, but then go do something which is mildly distracting - water the garden, start writing a story, exercise, just lay still and daydream, but don't actively masturbate or fuck yourself on the toy or whatever.