Really that difficult

[SearchingAngela]

Is it really that difficult to find someone that gets the way I work. Understands the desires I have. The needs I need met. I know this is mostly a sexual based site but sex isn't everything. I want a sense of humor. A friend to talk to but that one guy that knows my sexual pleasures aren't based off a litttle phone sex or cybering. It's a deep drive inside of me to find the right Dom. I'm 26. In a difficult situation and don't have time for petty bull$&@!

 

[hillseeker]

Is it really that difficult to find someone that gets the way I work. Understands the desires I have. The needs I need met. I know this is mostly a sexual based site but sex isn't everything. I want a sense of humor. A friend to talk to but that one guy that knows my sexual pleasures aren't based off a litttle phone sex or cybering. It's a deep drive inside of me to find the right Dom. I'm 26. In a difficult situation and don't have time for petty bull$&@!

Complaining will get you somewhere...

 

[SearchingAngela]

There was more but it didn't send through.

I rant yes but what I really want is the one person that understands the need for the control to be in his hands. The pleasure and pain are one. I want to be able to develop something strong. Have fun. Laugh.

I know that with everything comes trial and errors. I own up to my faults. And am truly ready to explore the many sides of having a D/s relationship. I want to learn and experience.

 

[Noor]

Unfortunately, yes, it is that difficult even if you communicate your needs and desires.

You have to kiss a lot of frogs...

 

[SearchingAngela]

As long as they keep their warts lol

 

[Noor]

As long as they keep their warts lol

Its a warts and all type thing. Maybe could be a pickup line? I like your warts...

 

[Scotsman69]

It's toads that have warts, not frogs. At least where I come from, and everywhere I've been.

 

[SearchingAngela]

I'll be sure to remember that

 

[ladance]

Is it really that difficult to find someone that gets the way I work. Understands the desires I have. The needs I need met. I know this is mostly a sexual based site but sex isn't everything. I want a sense of humor. A friend to talk to but that one guy that knows my sexual pleasures aren't based off a litttle phone sex or cybering. It's a deep drive inside of me to find the right Dom. I'm 26. In a difficult situation and don't have time for petty bull$&@!

Yes it's that difficult. You need the patience of a thousand saints and to be prepared to hold out for what you really want while weeding out the many many frogs before anyone worthwhle surfaces.
Finding it a frustrating wait myself , seems very few who want to really explore and enjoy in real life but I'm not going down the cyber/ phone route again, once done it'shard to keep finding enjoyment. nothing but nothing beats a man who takes the time to enjoy touch and teasing in real life. and finding a man who is also amusing and excellent company without sex is even more of a challenge...but there are some so keep hoping. xxx

 

[Primalex]

You have to kiss a lot of frogs...

Oh please, as if people would still kiss in world 2.0.


Really, in the real life world you figure out in 2 minutes if you click, but no, it's so much "easier" to spend hours with people online that you wouldn't even look at in the real world.

 

[Noor]

Oh please, as if people would still kiss in world 2.0.


Really, in the real life world you figure out in 2 minutes if you click, but no, it's so much "easier" to spend hours with people online that you wouldn't even look at in the real world.

I can't even figure out what I want to order at a restaurant in two minutes, let alone who I want for sex. I need to know how they think, are they creative, nice, kind- just look at my ad...

In RL, I tend to make friends first, get comfortable and then maybe move from there. 2 minutes is not enough for me to see if we click unless I am ovulating and the short term pleasure is not worth the possible long term consequences. I know if someone smells right but that just means my body wants him, still need to discover with my mind and my heart/soul.

The advantage of online is you have a chance to meet people you would not otherwise meet face to face. I consider myself very lucky to have the assortment of people I have in my life regardless of how and where I meet them first.

 

[Primalex]

I can't even figure out what I want to order at a restaurant in two minutes, let alone who I want for sex. I need to know how they think, are they creative, nice, kind- just look at my ad...

Oh, you figure out whether someone is a nice person or not, online? How a guy treats the waitress tells you more about him than exchanging 200 emails. Maybe you can figure out very early online, if they know Caillebotte. But does this really help you?

The advantage of online is you have a chance to meet people you would not otherwise meet face to face.

What I said, but who says that this is an advantage? I mean, it's okay to try it this way, it's ridiculous though to pick this way and complain about the amount of frogs. If you think meeting 3 billion guys increases the chance of finding a match...I believe it actually decreases it.

 

[Dawgluver]

Is it really that difficult to find someone that gets the way I work. Understands the desires I have. The needs I need met. I know this is mostly a sexual based site but sex isn't everything. I want a sense of humor. A friend to talk to but that one guy that knows my sexual pleasures aren't based off a litttle phone sex or cybering. It's a deep drive inside of me to find the right Dom. I'm 26. In a difficult situation and don't have time for petty bull$&@!

Keep searching it will appear!

 

[Prince Albert]

Is it really that difficult to find someone that gets the way I work. Understands the desires I have. The needs I need met. I know this is mostly a sexual based site but sex isn't everything. I want a sense of humor. A friend to talk to but that one guy that knows my sexual pleasures aren't based off a litttle phone sex or cybering. It's a deep drive inside of me to find the right Dom. I'm 26. In a difficult situation and don't have time for petty bull$&@!

Good luck & sorry you are having this trouble.

 

[Noor]

Oh, you figure out whether someone is a nice person or not, online? How a guy treats the waitress tells you more about him than exchanging 200 emails. Maybe you can figure out very early online, if they know Caillebotte. But does this really help you?

Yes, I am pretty good at figuring out online if they are nice or not, I have had a lot of practice. Most of my work is online and I have been interacting with people online since the late 80's. In my 10+ yrs at lit only a couple people have turned out to be jerks but that happens in RL as well.
Look at the number of people who married what they thought were perfectly good mates only to later find out they were jerks.

I tend to im and voice, which probably makes it easier and I spend a lot more than two minutes on it. The advantage of not being in person is I am not swayed by their appearance or phermones.

Most guys are conditioned/trained to treat a wait staff properly, those that aren't are complete louts and that should be noticeable way before you eat with them.. It's the guys who only treat people well in public when they know everyone can see them that I want to avoid. I look for someone who is consistent in their behavior. It's hard to keep to keep up false pretenses in 200 emails, chats, voice exchanges...

As far as a person's taste in chocolate, I use that more as a clue to their sensuality which helps for what I am looking for in my ad.

 

[J D Danger]

Is it really that difficult to find someone that gets the way I work. Understands the desires I have. The needs I need met. I know this is mostly a sexual based site but sex isn't everything. I want a sense of humor. A friend to talk to but that one guy that knows my sexual pleasures aren't based off a litttle phone sex or cybering. It's a deep drive inside of me to find the right Dom. I'm 26. In a difficult situation and don't have time for petty bull$&@!

finding the right Dom does take sometime and alot of trail and error

it is like any other relationship...it is a fit...it has to feel right

when you find it you will know and how long it took will be the last thing you think about

 

[SearchingAngela]

Agree it takes time

I know that I must be patient to find the right dom. I worry that I'll find him but he won't be close enough to be with. I've meet many great men, but they are not close enough to really explore it.

 

[J D Danger]

I know that I must be patient to find the right dom. I worry that I'll find him but he won't be close enough to be with. I've meet many great men, but they are not close enough to really explore it.

I know exactly what you mean I also seem to be attract to unattainable women and or women who are just to far away

I just sent you a silly one line PM...if you ever want to chat

 

[followmenow6969]

We've been in the "lifestyle" for years, I sent you some info via p.m. Look through and let us know if it helps out if you have any questions feel free to ask.....