Religion and Sex

[pantalaimonlyra]

Some of my best ever orgasms were the ones I had after
abstaining due to religious guilt. There's nothing like that build up. The crash after kinda sucked.

I do have a confession kink and one day I'd love to be fucked in a confessional...I just don't know if I could cross that line. It's mighty tempting. Maybe one of these days someone will build one for me so I don't have to sneak into a church.

 

[Saint Peter]

Bless you.

 

[straitupcurious]

Like the others here I grew up in a conservative and deeply religious community where sex was generally regarded as a nasty function that must be endured if ever we're to perpetuate the race of man. No one seemed to get that it's meant to bring joy and immense pleasure ,at least I never heard anyone ever admit they actually loved getting their rocks off.
Dancing, playing cards, etc. were chalked up to hedonism and works of evil. There are still some churches here that have their creed posted to the right of the pulpit which states just as I've mentioned relating to the playing of games, dancing and other frivolities. It's straight out of our Puritan heritage circa. 1700 .

Some denominations are coming around to recognition of bisexuality, gay marriage which ultimately centers around the fact sexuality is better understood than in times past.
We were meant to enjoy sex and each other in this way I've never believed otherwise however we must do it safely.

I look forward to the day when bisexuality will be the overwhelming preference among men and women .
The new norm !

 

[Coolshoes7]

I grew up in a conservative, almost fundamentalist, religious environment. Dancing, movies, card playing, and drinking were among the many taboos. Sex was NEVER discussed. Like most horny teenagers, I masturbated often and had my share of backseat handjobs, always followed by waves of guilt.

I've outgrown that, obviously, and I no longer feel guilty about my fetishes and kinks (and I do have a few), but I'm curious about how many other people on Lit share my background. I'd love to hear your stories.

One other thing. I've always been turned on, even as a kid watching cartoons and reading comic books, by seeing people tied up and in distress. I've often wondered how and if my religious upbringing contributed to my interest in BDSM. Any thoughts? Feel free to PM, if you'd like.

Luckily for me my mom wasn't pretty open with us when it came to discovering sex. We had the birds and the bees talk and she encouraged me to not have sex based upon the possible consequences of doing so. She told me if I felt I had to that I needed to use protection and not to expect the boy to have it but again emphasized that I should abstain.

My best friend was in a different world though as her parents were heavily religious. She did attend school dances, sleep overs with boys didn't happen, any event really with a boy was chaperoned, she was to be inside by 9:00 p.m. and many other restrictions. Sex was not something or discussion and was 100% only an option after marriage to produce children. Often times she would have to lie to her parents when we'd meet friends because if boys were there her parents would tell her she didn't need to be going.

 

[lovetoread]

Bless you.

thats what you said after my last confession, st petey

 

[FloridaBob]

I was raised. Catholic & went to Catholic school. Brainwashed enough to miss having a few, fun sexual encounters. That’s all behind me now, and I’m a recovering Catholic trying to make up for lost time and opportunities.
Bob🏖

 

[bleffecat]

I was raised in a catholic household and was taught to respect women. That extended to fear women and as a result I was very timid in my teenage years. I thought that virginity was a noble and sacred thing. I met my wife in my mid twenties, she was very religious, catholic as well. I didn’t know until we were already married that she was “born again.” I lost my virginity to her. I found out after we were married that she had been quite permsiscuous both before and after finding religion. Turns out she never met a dick she could refuse.

 

[freckles10179]

Me

I have the same kind of background, in my family, we didn't talk about sex. One time my mom found my vibrator and threw it out!!! She was so mad and told me that a good girl don't do that / have those kinds of things. So even to this day it makes me feel ashamed/shameful about my kinks and my sexual preference! It sucks to have questions and talk about sexuality and feel too ashamed to ask anyone! This is why i joined lit was to explore my sexuality and be in an environment where i can feel safe enough to explore and find out who i am

 

[With_David_Bowie]

I have the same kind of background, in my family, we didn't talk about sex. One time my mom found my vibrator and threw it out!!! She was so mad and told me that a good girl don't do that / have those kinds of things. So even to this day it makes me feel ashamed/shameful about my kinks and my sexual preference! It sucks to have questions and talk about sexuality and feel too ashamed to ask anyone! This is why i joined lit was to explore my sexuality and be in an environment where i can feel safe enough to explore and find out who i am

Its alright, I'll find somewhere to use the vibrator.

My father got in the habit of finding my brothers bongs, and the ones that werent a DIY job, he'd tell me that I had to get rid of it, and I'd know someone.

 

[yukonnights]

I just finished reading The Soul of Sex. The two things, faith and sex don’t have to be at odds. Sex, even dirty passionate fucking, can be a celebration of our very existence. Our libido was created by God and can be used to celebrate him.

Honestly I don’t think religion is to blame for people’s hangups. At least not Christianity. Yes Christians like many people of other faiths and atheists have hangups but it isn’t really coming from the source material. Most of the New Testament is preaching against greed and selfishness. Very little about sex or sexual prohibitions other than cheating.

We think along similar paths philos.

If one stops to consider for just a moment how we all are fashioned, it becomes obvious that sex was meant to be fantastic, desirable and even a little addictive for both male and female. It's both imperative for the continuation of the species and provides a physical expression for deeply interior feelings for our mate which cements the bond. In regard to spiritual constraints, I would say the general rule — Do no harm to another and don't let another do harm to me — is about all we need to worry about.

To me, religion and spirituality are not always the same thing. Religion seems to have evolved by the hand of humans into more of a way to control and/or exploit humanity rather than serve humanity's best interests. Religion is a work of mankind — Spirituality is a work of Spirit and is, for the most part, a journey one makes alone.