RosieVelvet: A Statement

[Emirus]

. THAT IS A STRICT RED LINE FOR ME. IfRosie

Am I correct in assuming that you will be submitting stories in BDSM? If so I can give you a couple of names and emails of guys who would like you to punish them. lol. But if you do submit stories please make your paragraphs shorter. My mind can’t cope with more than a couple of dozen or three words at any one time. I don’t understand why this should be and neither does my therapist!

 

[MelissaBaby]

Oh no, I didn’t think it sounded bitter at all. And perhaps you are right, by posting an avatar or photo it might draw some unwanted attention. I’m sure it is an issue for many women on the site (or those who claim to be women as KeithD would say lol) but I’ve never experienced it personally. If I have had issues it was because I initiated the contact.

If anything, I’m more curious as to why others have these problems and I don’t—not saying I want them, just wondering if there is a formula to a happy median of solicitation.

I’m not sure any of that made sense.

Well, and I used to post on the GB, so there's that.

 

[AfterDusk]

Well, and I used to post on the GB, so there's that.

Oh, that is for sure asking for it

 

[Blind_Justice]

@AfterDusk: I think an obviously female handle plus distinct picture can increase your chances of attracting unsolicited male attention by a few magnitudes.

Until today, I didn't even know you were a lady. But then, our paths didn't exactly cross that often. Or my lack of vision. That's probably it and a handy excuse for everything else besides. Yes.

 

[Kantarii]

Welcome to the circus, girl! It is an unfortunate truth that many of us women who write for Lit get hit on by people we would prefer not to hear from in any context. One man told me I had to expect it because as a female writing sexy stories, men would assume I was available to sext, etc., because why else would a woman write porn? (I'm paraphrasing, but you get the idea.) Another guy asked about my sexuality in his opening message, you know, as one does. The idea that some of us just like to tell a good story while being multifaceted humans seems not to occur.

In any case, chin up. Every one of us messes up and miscalculates from time to time. There's a good-hearted community here, and I have met some lovely ladies and gentlemen through Lit. You will too.

PM if you want to chat or vent.
Van

Fear not. They hit on me, too, but I only dress like a woman. I can only imagine what it’s like for the real women on this site. Kant

 

[Kantarii]

Well, I will, you can be assured.

I have received any number of propositions, some polite, most obnoxious.

Despite making multiple posts and writing an entire novella about my struggle with drug abuse and my ongoing recovery, I have had people contact me and offer me drugs.

I like to flirt and be playful, but I have written at length about my husband and I have never offered or even hinted at an interest in meeting, phone sexing, sexting or in any other way engaging in one on one sexual activity with anyone here, but I still have been accused of catfishing.

It comes with identifying yourselves as a woman on the internet. You have to decide for yourself if the ratio of signal to static is high enough to make it worth it to you. I hope you decide it is.

Let me be the first to say I admire your courage to take control of your life.Kant

 

[Blind_Justice]

Fear not. They hit on me, too, but I only dress like a woman. I can only imagine what it’s like for the real women on this site. Kant

But who can resist these eyes?

 

[Kantarii]

I hope my post did not come off as inordinately bitter. I have dealt with so much worse than anything that could be thrown at me here, it really does just roll off. And I do accept some responsibility that by occasionally posting my picture, and using one for an avatar, I make myself more of a target.

I totally feel you on that. I post a pic of myself as my avatar and I will attest it makes me a target as well at timesKant

 

[Kantarii]

But who can resist these eyes?

Green, mysterious..... and alluring

 

[AfterDusk]

@AfterDusk: I think an obviously female handle plus distinct picture can increase your chances of attracting unsolicited male attention by a few magnitudes.

Until today, I didn't even know you were a lady. But then, our paths didn't exactly cross that often. Or my lack of vision. That's probably it and a handy excuse for everything else besides. Yes.

Well, I suppose it is a compliment that I can come off as pansexual?

That settles it, I guess keeping it ambiguous would be the route to go for avoiding unwarranted passes.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Relax, Rosie. Pull up a comfie rock, pour yourself something comforting and be welcome.

Every newb gets hit on. Depending on tone, either say no politely or just block (I’ve done both). On top of that, everybody gets spammed. Delete and ignore.

It’s a sexual site. Cope with that and it’s implications and you’ll have no issues.

Meanwhile, again, welcome to Lit.

 

[MechaBlade]

Welcome! I will of course ask for tasteful nudes repeatedly. Sorry about that, but I'm told it's part of my charm? Don't worry, I won't cloud up your PMs. I will ask here out in front of God and everybody as to give everyone a chance to sigh and roll their eyes at my increasingly desperate requests.


So, where them nudes at?

Most fondly,
Mechalnikov Adolphus Bladington

 

[Blind_Justice]

Welcome! I will of course ask for tasteful nudes repeatedly. Sorry about that, but I'm told it's part of my charm? Don't worry, I won't cloud up your PMs. I will ask here out in front of God and everybody as to give everyone a chance to sigh and roll their eyes at my increasingly desperate requests.


So, where them nudes at?

Most fondly,
Mechalnikov Adolphus Bladington

I could send you one of mine if that helps any.

 

[AwkwardMD]

Well, I suppose it is a compliment that I can come off as pansexual?

That settles it, I guess keeping it ambiguous would be the route to go for avoiding unwarranted passes.

I used to play a tank in WoW, and the only way to be taken seriously was to pretend I didn't have a microphone and pretend to be a man.

 

[KeithD]

Oh no, I didn’t think it sounded bitter at all. And perhaps you are right, by posting an avatar or photo it might draw some unwanted attention. I’m sure it is an issue for many women on the site (or those who claim to be women as KeithD would say lol) but I’ve never experienced it personally. If I have had issues it was because I initiated the contact.

If anything, I’m more curious as to why others have these problems and I don’t—not saying I want them, just wondering if there is a formula to a happy median of solicitation.

I’m not sure any of that made sense.

Yep, after the first posted story of each of the accounts I have indicating female names, I got mash PMs through this board. Responded that I wasn't interested, and they stopped. (I get mash notes from guys on my GM story accounts, and they don't go away for a few "not interested, thanks" rounds.)

I'm surprised that anyone posting to the AH on any regular basis would hit on someone, even new to the AH, in a PM. That's not what I've found the AH regulars to be. You can control this a bit yourself when you are able to post an avatar. Using an account name here like Imeasyelsa and an avatar of you naked with your legs open, is inviting being hit on no matter what any PC movement says. (Not that Rosie has done that). This is, after all, a porn site (no matter what some users say).

Spilling your love-life guts and/or being sexually flirty will move you to a "let's play" level too. Again, this is a porn site no matter what some users think/say.

 

[Apple_of_Eden]

!

I've been here for nearly a week now. Long enough, anyway, to have done things I regretted, made faux pas, been naive, been hubristic, been downright stupid, given the benefit of the doubt to those who didn't deserve it, trusted those who ought not to have been trusted, done those things I ought not to have done and not done those things that I ought to have done. All those things without which one never learns anything. I have met some wonderful (unless they are exceptionally good liars) people, have enjoyed being here very much and hope to be around for a good long time to come. If you'll have me that is.

Rosie

Wow! All of this occurred in less than one week and with less than sixty posts. I'm going to have to go back and review where you post and what was said. Though, it could have nothing to do with any of that. It could be pheromones...Litsters will pick up on pheromones like a dog to a bone.

Anyway, don't let one or even a dozen bad apples (I'm not one of them!) deter you from having fun here. It's a great place to play, chat, and just peek around and the majority of people I've met are wonderful, intelligent, and friendly people.

Welcome to Lit! Have fun! And "delete" or "block" when needed.

Apple

 

[yukonnights]

I'm casting my vote with the 'No Lit-Exit' crowd. Plus, Rosie V, you said you'd beta-read my story...no, I haven't forgotten that My only disturbing thought on reading this far is from wondering why I've not received any PM's asking for a nude photo Maybe it's something I said?

Since we're all trying to talk you in to staying, here's what may be an encouraging Thread to keep up with; ASSHAT AWARDS: Even more of the Best of the Worst PMs & emails received

This one is over in the BDSM Forum, which by the way has a very similar kind of friendly crowd of very smart ladies (and some pretty nice men too...but they can be easily ignored for the most part

Anyway, since I'm sure you'll want to stay...perhaps you can send me some tips on how I too might be inundated with desperate invitations from strangers? Until then, keep saying what needs to be said

 

[Hypoxia]

Was there a point I missed here? I've been away. I'll be away again. Will I miss much?

 

[MelissaBaby]

I'm a little disappointed that, despite my avatar, no-one ever offered me to have some coffee in a more private place (no offence to the AH Coffeeshop!), but I guess Rosie's red line is clear and accepted by an overwhelming majority of the AH. You might consider indicating you're a feminist in your signature, just to be on the safe-side

Well, I don't want to go full-on lesbian, though. I do love the dick.

 

[MelissaBaby]

I do love the dick.

Shit. I just set myself up for more of those PMs, didn't I?

 

[Kantarii]

Shit. I just set myself up for more of those PMs, didn't I?

Fear not. I lost my taste for dick and I haven’t noticed a slowdown in my PM’s (about 15-20 a day)
Kant

 

[SimonDoom]

This has been an interesting thread. I'm seeing a window into a side of this site I don't see. I may try adopting a female pseudonym to get a peek. I don't really want to get dick pics, though.

 

[oggbashan]

This has been an interesting thread. I'm seeing a window into a side of this site I don't see. I may try adopting a female synonym to get a peek. I don't really want to get dick pics, though.

When I set up jeanne_d_artois as a nom-de-plume for writing from a female POV, despite her bio I got dick pics and unwanted approaches - until I admitted jeanne was oggbashan.

Jeanne still receives 'want to cyber' occasionally.

 

[EmpressJosephine]

I've been here for nearly a week now. Long enough, anyway, to have done things I regretted, made faux pas, been naive, been hubristic, been downright stupid, given the benefit of the doubt to those who didn't deserve it, trusted those who ought not to have been trusted, done those things I ought not to have done and not done those things that I ought to have done. All those things without which one never learns anything. I have met some wonderful (unless they are exceptionally good liars) people, have enjoyed being here very much and hope to be around for a good long time to come. If you'll have me that is.

RosieVelvet is, of course, a construct. A construct with a strong resemblance to a woman in late middle-age currently resident in Glasgow (but who is English-born and a Scot only by adoption), but a construct nonetheless (I wanted her to be VelvetRose but that was taken and I was too lazy and impatient to come up with a more imaginative alternative). My other-world name is not Rosie. I am a writer of not-erotica and a teacher of creative writing who is here because my natural sense of naughtiness led me to want to explore the world of writing good quality, woman-friendly erotic fiction. And as I have already said, looking for [verbal] fun and honest filth short of violence or abuse. Like RosieVelvet I am a lesbian with a predilection on the side for naughty non-penetrative sex play with intelligent, thoughtful, compassionate and unselfish males, a category which encompasses but isn't confined to transgender, effeminate or "sissy" men. I'm happy to exchange sexy messages with such men, and to collaborate on stories (a technique I'm finding rather enjoyable) but I am not interested in having a real-life or virtual sexual relationship with them. I do not have any time for "macho", arrogant, overassertive men so if that is you or even if you are but you think you aren't, please don't waste my time. Mutuality is my watchword.

Let me make it clear that I will not indulge you with live voice chat, live webcams, videos, or any other medium that risks compromising my privacy. THAT IS A STRICT RED LINE FOR ME. If that leads you to think that I am a fraud or a troll then that is your prerogative but don't expect me to care because you are not the kind of person I want to interact with. I have had my fingers burnt once. I'm not going to be caught a second time. Please don's ask or try to pressurise me. The answer is no. Deal with it.

I hope that sets the record straight. Now, will you still have me around?

Rosie

Well said!

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Gee, who would have thunk it... requests for nudes and dick picks. Bunch of yahoos on the internet. So sorry that some uncouth individual or two thought that someone would want whatever they sent you or asked you to sent them.

Now I'm just prattling on. Stick around. Most of here are just plain folk who write dirty stories and maybe not so dirty stories.

Welcome to the nuthouse.

Oh by the way, I'm a man and I hate getting dick pics in my pm's.