Seducing your best friend.

[sus609]

I have known my bestfriend, who is a girl, for a few years now. she say's she's bi, but she hasn't done anything with a girl. i've always known i was bi since i was a teenager, and fantasized about being with girls. we always joke around about being girlfriends and she even tells people that we're dating sometimes, but we've never really done anything with each other except examine each others boobs, etc during high school. well now that she's supposedly "bi" i have a sudden urge to be with her and experiment since we both have nice bodies and always compliment each other on how good we look or how nice our tits look each others shirt... but i'm not all that experienced. can you guys give me some tips on how i can get her to explore options with girls and not just guys? greatly appreciated, thanks.

 

[EJFan]

if you haven't done so already, you might try cross-posting this in the GLBT forum. other than that i have nothing to offer other than my best wishes.

 

[SweetErika]

You can't get her to see or do anything. Trying would be manipulative, and I'm sure you have more respect for her and the friendship than that.

Have you told her you're bi and interested in exploring more? If not, I'd start there and see what her response is.

During that kind of conversation there might be an opening for a special touch, hug or kiss, though I'd take care with this because it could be uncomfortable or lead to her feeling forced.

If that doesn't happen: If she responds positively, you might ask if she's thought about experimenting, maybe with you even. Or, you might tell her you've wondered what it would be like to explore together. There are lots of options, but I'd strongly caution you to avoid saying or doing anything that might make her feel pressured, and try to keep it open/in question form so she has an out if she doesn't feel the same way.

Or, you could always look elsewhere to explore your sexuality if she's not receptive or you don't want to risk your friendship.

 

[Candy.Coatd.Cyanide]

Having been in this position I understand your dilemma. First I want to say that you want to take a step back and look at 32 things. Sex with a friend can go three ways and neither of them you can provoke or make sure happens. 1. You become better friends, great friends, lovers and confidants. 2. You have sex for awhile and then break up, fight and hate each other. 3. You become lovers and then girlfriends.

There is a draw back to each one. 1. You become better friends, great friends, lovers and confidants, and then one day she realizes she meets someone she likes and you need to watch her with that person. 2. You have sex for awhile and then break up, fight and hate each other. This is the jest of what happens 80% of the time… you want to say it wont but it will, it will go great for while and then it will go all down hill. 3. You become lovers and then girlfriends. This is the dream, it happens rarely if ever.

The fact is you both said your Bi and most bi people end up with the proper sex… that isn’t to say that you wont end up with a women but its true weather you like it or not… I know I’m bi but I am also with a man… that is not to say you don’t get to be with a woman occasionally, but then again I’m in a open relationship.

But if you’re willing to chance it you have a few options…

1. Talk it out, if she is your best friend, then you guys can talk this out and she’ll tell you whether she into it or not.
2. The drunken tryst… this is the most popular cause then you can always say your drunk… sounds dumb but it works and as long as your not pressuring her then you aren’t taking advantage…

Your smart you can think of other ways… but I suggest number 1.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

i have a sudden urge to be with her and experiment since we both have nice bodies and always compliment each other on how good we look or how nice our tits look each others shirt...

You could always step up the compliments a little, give the odd meaningful look and see whether she bites. If not that'll still leave you with the 2 options Candy.Coated.Cyanide suggested.

Before you do though you need to be clear on one thing: -

Are you looking simply for a friend with benefits or can you see yourself in a relationship with this girl? Whichever it is, make it clear what you want from the outset so there are no crossed wires, recriminations or regrets.