Seeking a Domme

[RavenSSS]

We have a young lesbian friend who is desperately looking for a Domme. If you are female, preferably lesbian, and would enjoy directing this young woman to reach new sensual heights, please let us know. You can leave a message at our RavenSSS site: http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=1162944&page=submissions.

Hopefully, that doesn't break any rules. If it does, I apologize, but if it does, how can we connect with someone?


Please DO NOT reply if you are male. We will ask you to prove that you're female.

RavenSSS

 

[2TryAnything]

You may want to remove the email address from the thread as I believe that violates forum rules.

BTW, good luck to your friend in her quest. Sounds titillating.

 

[RavenSSS]

Thank you

 

[wooodyme]

Female proof?

Raven, how do you intend to prove a respondent is a female?

 

[RavenSSS]

Raven, how do you intend to prove a respondent is a female?

We wondered when someone would ask that; however, we'd prefer not to broadcast it widely as someone is surely going to try to overcome it. We've used this method about two dozen times; however, the majority didn't respond and were evidently male. Three women have, and we've been communicating with them. None of those three would work out as a domme, though. They are more in the sub category, but we're not interested in dominating them.

Although we've been submitting stories to Literotica over more than a two year span, we are not familiar with this forum and how it works. Tell us how to contact you directly, and we'll tell you how to prove gender.

We assume that you're male and will try to use it, but we'd appreciate it if you wouldn't. Naive???

BTW, the 'we' is not a royal or editorial 'we'. There are three of us who write under the RavenSSS name hence the three S's in the name - our last name initials.

 

[DarkPleasures]

BTW, the 'we' is not a royal or editorial 'we'. There are three of us who write under the RavenSSS name hence the three S's in the name - our last name initials.

Three of you are looking for a Domme? (Which, by the way, belongs in the BDSM Personals.) In case you did not know, Lit "allows" everyone/anyone (over eighteen, of course) to make their own screen name. No need to have many use one.

"Proof" of being female generally happens over time. It's called getting to know someone, honesty, and trust. That is also a two-way street.

 

[Anita__O_Gasm]

Hopefully, that doesn't break any rules. If it does, I apologize, but if it does, how can we connect with someone?

RavenSSS

Have the "young lesbian friend" register a profile here, then suggest that she write a personal ad, from HER profile, in the BDSM personals.

Any real Domme is going to want proof of "your young lesbian friend" as well.

Voila!

 

[RavenSSS]

Three of you are looking for a Domme? (Which, by the way, belongs in the BDSM Personals.) In case you did not know, Lit "allows" everyone/anyone (over eighteen, of course) to make their own screen name. No need to have many use one.

"Proof" of being female generally happens over time. It's called getting to know someone, honesty, and trust. That is also a two-way street.

Firstly, we are not looking for a domme for us, but for a young woman we know. We are new to this forum and don't know how it works. We'd appreciate it if someone could guide us to the rules of this forum.

Secondly, we each write parts of each story; however, one of us does write complete stories.

Thirdly, I strongly suggest that since you don't know all the facts, that you don't try to push your thoughts and opinions on us. We expected to get some help from this forum, not negativity.
If it's that kind of forum, then we erred in coming here.

We have been the victim of someone whom we thought we knew, but after many months, we found that "she" wasn't honest or trustworthy. She turned out to be a he who had his own agenda. We will not trust anyone just because they say they're trustworthy. We want proof of whom they say they are.

Finally, since you don't know how we determine gender, use your own methods, but respect ours.

If you have nothing constructive to offer, please keep your counsel to yourself. Don't be a negative troll.

If this happens to be an attack-each-other forum, please accept our resignation.

We thank the members who offered help. Bad cess to those who offer only negativity.

 

[wooodyme]

still looking for female?

I'm a bit confused. RavenSSS, all I asked was how would you determine is a writer is female. Nothing intended other than wondering out loud does a person do that?

Good luck in your search.

 

[Anita__O_Gasm]

I've only read about a million posts here, so I may still be a nooB, but, what exactly is wrong with this post?

Three of you are looking for a Domme? (Which, by the way, belongs in the BDSM Personals.) In case you did not know, Lit "allows" everyone/anyone (over eighteen, of course) to make their own screen name. No need to have many use one.

"Proof" of being female generally happens over time. It's called getting to know someone, honesty, and trust. That is also a two-way street.

 

[DarkPleasures]

Firstly, we are not looking for a domme for us, but for a young woman we know. We are new to this forum and don't know how it works.

That woman should come to Lit, then.

Even if you hardly post, you've been here since 2010. Not "new".

Seems the mod has moved this "ad" to the BDSM personals now. Good luck for "her"!

 

[DarkPleasures]

I've only read about a million posts here, so I may still be a nooB, but, what exactly is wrong with this post?

LadyG moved this thread to the correct board.

 

[Anita__O_Gasm]

Again, to "SSS"

Have the "young lesbian friend" register a profile here, then suggest that she write a personal ad, from HER profile, in the BDSM personals.

Any real Domme is going to want proof of "your young lesbian friend" as well.

Voila!

 

[DarkPleasures]

Have the "young lesbian friend" register a profile here, then suggest that she write a personal ad, from HER profile, in the BDSM personals.

Any real Domme is going to want proof of "your young lesbian friend" as well.

Voila!

Wonderfully put!

 

[RavenSSS]

I'm a bit confused. RavenSSS, all I asked was how would you determine is a writer is female. Nothing intended other than wondering out loud does a person do that?

Good luck in your search.

I wasn't criticizing you or what you asked. I would have had no problem telling you, one person, but i'd have preferred to tell you directly, not openly on a forum.

 

[RavenSSS]

Again, to "SSS"

Our young friend wasn't comfortable asking for a domme herself: thus, she asked us to do it for her. She still isn't.

I apologize for getting 'my back up'.

I assumed that someone would contact her, and after being vetted, would take on the responsibility of being her domme. I expected to be out of this once I posted her address. I didn't know that putting her email address on this forum was a no no until some kind member told me.

Although no stranger to Literotica, I AM new to this forum.

I do not want to be in the middle of this situation, so I'm signing off. This has gotten out of hand for me.

Thank all of you who tried to help. Read our stories if you want to know more about us. There are many intros, preludes, and endnotes wherein we are described.

Our wonderful sister, Lys, was the original Raven and wrote most of the stories early in 2010; she became ill in the summer of that year and passed away early in 2011 just before her 42 birthday. We tried to honor her by maintaining the RavenSSS site. It took three of us to do that even minimalistically.

Again, thank you.

 

[RavenSSS]

[QUOTE/] Have the "young lesbian friend" register a profile here, then suggest that she write a personal ad, from HER profile, in the BDSM personals.

Any real Domme is going to want proof of "your young lesbian friend" as well.[/QUOTE]


I apologize for failing to address your post sooner. The young woman in question is the daughter of a close friend. She is still in the closet and, other than having a few furtive, failed attempts in school, has not 'connected' with another like minded woman. Her mother made it clear that the girl would be extremely uncomfortable for one of us, her mother's friends whom she knows well, to try to take her under our wing. Ergo, the feeble attempt on my part to find a guide or mentor for her on this 'bulletin board'.

Mea culpa. I erred in using the term 'domme', as the young lady is not interested in BDSM. (possibly a bit of bondage, but I'm assuming that from our discussion). She needs someone to walk her through her perceived maze of being lesbian, help her understand herself, and go on to find a companion.

There is no way the girl would provide a profile on an open forum as she is even embarrassed in seeking help sub rosa. An open forum, unlike a true bulletin board which provides some anonymity, opens one to close scrutiny which, of course, she is in fear of. The comments on this forum go to prove this point.

Fortunately, one of your members, after reading the initial post, contacted us through the RavenSSS site. In lieu of an open forum which would expose any vulnerabilities to public scrutiny, there will be a quiet, behind the scenes, dialogue to determine whether she is the right person to mentor our young friend.

I have been given permission by my sisters to divulge how we weed out males pretending to be female. Very simple, we ask for a photo of the person, holding a sheet of paper bearing the name she used when she first contacted us. It's not foolproof as the person in question could use a female stand-in or PhotoShop the picture; however, we then ask certain questions that help further our 'investigation'. Our young friend, of course, will provide whatever proof that a mentor, NOT domme, will require.

One of the women we now correspond with did not want to provide an entire picture of herself. Instead, she took a self picture of her bare breasts and held the paper with her name on it. We didn't ask for an unclothed picture, but she evidently felt more comfortable doing it her way.

BTW, the person I alluded to in a previous post as having his own agenda is a writer and contributor to Literotica. His profile reflects that he is bisexual female. Profiles, that you suggested, aren't always factual and are useless in proving honesty.

I'll repeat this: I assumed at first post that someone(s) would read it, write to the email address therein, and all would be handled 'behind' the scene'. Someone warned me that the email address was a violation, and I deleted it. My further hope was that we be contacted through RavenSSS which was what did happen.

Again, thank you.

 

[DarkPleasures]

In case you are confused, Literotica is anonymous. I could be your next door neighbor, a senator, your child's school teacher, or could live half a world away from you.

 

[Anita__O_Gasm]

In case you are confused, Literotica is anonymous. I could be your next door neighbor, a senator, your child's school teacher, or could live half a world away from you.

Too bad you're not my neighbor!

 

[RavenSSS]

In case you are confused, Literotica is anonymous. I could be your next door neighbor, a senator, your child's school teacher, or could live half a world away from you.

I was referring to the fact that my young friend and I do not want to be open to criticism as has been the case in this thread. She is already embarrassed.

She is not going to open up to a wide audience, as she needs privacy more than anything else. I made the mistake of asking for help on an open forum. It appears that I am just as naive as she is. Responses to my query were not what I expected. I suppose that is because I don't know the 'language' or policies of forums.

We have been offered help by someone reading this thread and making contact through the RavenSSS site. She has not been vetted as yet. If that doesn't work out, does anyone have a suggestion about finding a mentor? It must be discreet.

 

[DarkPleasures]

Too bad you're not my neighbor!

Oh? Why's that?

 

[Anita__O_Gasm]

I was referring to the fact that my young friend and I do not want to be open to criticism as has been the case in this thread. She is already embarrassed.

She is not going to open up to a wide audience, as she needs privacy more than anything else. I made the mistake of asking for help on an open forum. It appears that I am just as naive as she is. Responses to my query were not what I expected. I suppose that is because I don't know the 'language' or policies of forums.

We have been offered help by someone reading this thread and making contact through the RavenSSS site. She has not been vetted as yet. If that doesn't work out, does anyone have a suggestion about finding a mentor? It must be discreet

Tell her to register a profile here, and post what she is looking for. She doesn't have to disclose any personal info, and she can be utterly anonymous. No worthy Dom is going to take the time to mentor someone whop can't even ask for it herself.

It sounds to me that your friend is not in the right mental, emotional, or psychological state to be under the guidance of a dominant mentor. Believe me, it is not a task that one just dabbles in. You are either prepared to handle the role, or you aren't. Maybe she would benefit from getting to know some people in the community casually first, by registering a profile here, under an assumed name, and making some posts in the forums. The instant new female meat is detected, she is going to be met with acclaim anyway.

When you make a thread on a forum this colossal, you are going to get replies. That is the entire point of the site. It's not Craigslist. No one time ad, and voila, you get a buyer... People here usually forge friendships (or more) by the public threads and private messages. That is how you find the right fit.

Good luck

 

[FunNFashionable]

There are three of us who write under the RavenSSS name hence the three S's in the name - our last name initials.

I just want to point out for an account that is shared by supposedly 3 people, that having 8 posts since January 2010 is absolutely absurd. Definitely someone I would believe... lol

 

[DarkPleasures]

I just want to point out for an account that is shared by supposedly 3 people, that having 8 posts since January 2010 is absolutely absurd. Definitely someone I would believe... lol

Thank you for that.

 

[FunNFashionable]

Thank you for that.

Any time