Sexless Marriages

[Baydogs00]

That's what really irritates me. I feel like asking, "Why does that bother you? It's not like they're getting something you even want."
The way I look at this is that she has abandoned this side of our marriage. By abandoning the physical intimacy side of the marriage, she surrendered any right to determine - or even be part of - MY sex life. So while I'm not out there hunting for it, I have zero guilt about taking care of MY sexual needs.

Have you asked her if she would care? I wouldn’t care if my husband was out getting it on the side. It would be a relief, to be honest. It would be even more of a relief if he was ok with me getting it on the side but one can only dream on that front.

 

[Persephone4U]

I feel like maybe im an odd one out but it was me having a much higher sex drive and my husband always turning me down... Were currently getting divorced and while this wasnt the #1 cause, its a close second.

I feel this, I have been divorced now for 3 ish years. It was not a healthy relationship- what so ever.. Once I discovered Lit, and my first real "Lit Boyfriend"- I discovered how much I set aside to keep the peace and keep my ship from sinking.

After I walked away from husband, and my Lit match.. I opened all kinds of door, I never thought I would. You are about to be free, completely able to be yourself.. Sexually, and as a person unbound to a partner that couldn't love all the different sides of you.

Editing this after I saw how many comments there was after I posted. The ranting, can be for any of you. With no judgment

If you ever need a ear. To rant, rave or cry with my door is open.

 

[lovely_leah]

I feel this, I have been divorced now for 3 ish years. It was not a healthy relationship- what so ever.. Once I discovered Lit, and my first real "Lit Boyfriend"- I discovered how much I set aside to keep the peace and keep my ship from sinking.

After I walked away from husband, and my Lit match.. I opened all kinds of door, I never thought I would. You are about to be free, completely able to be yourself.. Sexually, and as a person unbound to a partner that couldn't love all the different sides of you.

Editing this after I saw how many comments there was after I posted. The ranting, can be for any of you. With no judgment

If you ever need a ear. To rant, rave or cry with my door is open.

Thank you... Im feeling very hopefull for the future

 

[questquilya]

I feel this, I have been divorced now for 3 ish years. It was not a healthy relationship- what so ever.. Once I discovered Lit, and my first real "Lit Boyfriend"- I discovered how much I set aside to keep the peace and keep my ship from sinking.

After I walked away from husband, and my Lit match.. I opened all kinds of door, I never thought I would. You are about to be free, completely able to be yourself.. Sexually, and as a person unbound to a partner that couldn't love all the different sides of you.

Editing this after I saw how many comments there was after I posted. The ranting, can be for any of you. With no judgment

If you ever need a ear. To rant, rave or cry with my door is open.

Thanks for sharing and offering your ear. What did you have to edit?

 

[Persephone4U]

Thanks for sharing and offering your ear. What did you have to edit?

The open invitation for others to reach out, if they so choose to do so, not just for Lovely_Leah.

I was a unsatisfied/ closed off wife..(waves hand, he is on this site somewhere..) I have a special kind of perception for a site like this.. I have been around Lit long enough to know, how men (not all, but some)treat women here, is sometimes how their wives are treated at home.

And sometimes, like it has been started above, you have to relearn each other, like having a whole new partner.. Which with the right mindset could be fun and all kinds of rewarding.

 

[questquilya]

The open invitation for others to reach out, if they so choose to do so, not just for Lovely_Leah.

I was a unsatisfied/ closed off wife..(waves hand, he is on this site somewhere..) I have a special kind of perception for a site like this.. I have been around Lit long enough to know, how men (not all, but some)treat women here, is sometimes how their wives are treated at home.

And sometimes, like it has been started above, you have to relearn each other, like having a whole new partner.. Which with the right mindset could be fun and all kinds of rewarding.

Relearning requires a lot of honesty, with one's self first, and willingness to fail and realize we are not the people we thought we were. It would be very fun. On the other hand, would we be here if we were in situations that would make it possible for that rediscovery to happen?
I wonder how the people here who mistreat their wives hope to behave the same way here. I guess one doesn't know if he doesn't know. I can see some superficial jerks, and I imagine that their relationships (or lack thereof) here are as bad as they are in their real lives.
How do you see them behave?

 

[turok20]

been almost year since i last posted here and........nothing has changed, well except for her having some health issues, nothing major but yeah, still no sex and the whole not feeling the love is still there

 

[LustyScribe]

Have you asked her if she would care? I wouldn’t care if my husband was out getting it on the side. It would be a relief, to be honest. It would be even more of a relief if he was ok with me getting it on the side but one can only dream on that front.

No, I haven't, mostly because I feel sure the answer would be a very angry "No!" And if I proposed it, and she chose to have sex with someone but wouldn't with me, that would pretty much be the death of the marriage. She'll give someone else what I crave, but show no love/regard for me?

The other part is that, after over 25 years (41 yrs married) of her rejecting me over and over and over, I have zero ability to believe that ANYONE would want me. No confidence.

 

[GreekNinja]

I feel this, I have been divorced now for 3 ish years. It was not a healthy relationship- what so ever.. Once I discovered Lit, and my first real "Lit Boyfriend"- I discovered how much I set aside to keep the peace and keep my ship from sinking.

After I walked away from husband, and my Lit match.. I opened all kinds of door, I never thought I would. You are about to be free, completely able to be yourself.. Sexually, and as a person unbound to a partner that couldn't love all the different sides of you.

Editing this after I saw how many comments there was after I posted. The ranting, can be for any of you. With no judgment

If you ever need an ear. To rant, rave or cry with my door is open.

I feel every word of this. Incredible post.

 

[Oldhorndawg]

I am totally in a sexless marriage and have been pretty much for a few years! We’re out there but we are a bit like unicorns

I am a woman in her 50’s with the sex drive of an 18 yr old boy, that’s not normal I’ve been told by female friends the same age and male friends. I should be settling down for my old age with my hormones dying a slow death, but hell no!

I’m a 65 year old man still as horny as I was at 35. Sadly my Bride has been robbed by nature of her once powerful mojo. I’m left with regular self-pleasure and fantasising about two of my neighbours!