So how is it possible that ....?

[Guest]

and here i was thinking i had high standards!!
The list you gave for us to read is very much impossible to find. Well unless this person lived in the woods! I think you need t drop some of your requirments you have for girls. I don't care about your past relationships and how you where used by these women. You need to get over it, it happens to all of us. There are evil women out there,just like there are evil men out there(yeah you thought i wasn't going to say it huh.) Does this mean that you should let them ruin it for all women? Hell no. By doing what you are doing now, i think you are being rather shallow and nonrealistic with yourself.
You really need to try to be more open and relaxed with this stuff. otherwise you will turn out to be the man with 20 cats!

DO you consider yourself open minded? Cuz to me your not.

enjoy.........because i mean every word.

 

[virginleo20]

plasmaball

thanks for the advice... im fully well avare of the "Self fulfilling prophesy" aspects of my " requirements"



but in any case ... i cant resist making a joke about the 20 cat guy comment of yours.


Id rather think of my self as the guy with 20 pussies.


I do apologise for the crude humor in that but i couldnt resist.

 

[virginleo20]

But then again to me these days its always better to suffer a fate of eternal loneliness a than it is to spend an eternity with someone whom you despise for what hapened to you in the past due to the actions of others similar to them .

the times i stated here are mere over dramatizations intended to futher emphasize the point im trying to make.

So dont take them 2 seriously.

how about your self... would you associate your self with someone whom made you feel sick in your stomach due to what memories you have of others like them.


how di that song go again ..
" you remind me of a girl i ..."
it was a hit a little while ago... that woulthe words in it propably do describe my situation best.

 

[Guest]

of course not, but thinking that every girl or woman is going to be like that is just plain stupid.

the times i stated here are mere over dramatizations intended to futher emphasize the point im trying to make.

See now this is wrong. I hate it when people do this to make a point. Either use the facts that in frontof you or don't complain about it. I never,ever try to over dramatize a situation that i was in just to further my cause. The fact that you let alone admit that you where doing this show that you fully do not understand what you are talking about. How about coming back to this thread with some facts and just facts. No wonder you can not find someone. If this is how you base an arguement on something then good luck to you. Your going to need it badly.


lastly i have seen many people spend the rest of there life with someone they dispise, granted it be they are used to it, there afraid of going out on the own, or without them they feel less of a person. Also they feel as if the fuction better. I think you will find there are a lot more people out there like this than you think. Some people need the fights, agruements, and etc just to get through the day.

Again i think you need to get some more info before you start making the large statements. I believe that when someone is over dramatizing they are just looking for attention.

 

[wideeyedgrin]

So how is it possible NOT to meet someone like the woman you describe? I have always been meeting them - especially when I was trying to meet other types of women. There is a quote out there that says to treat every woman like they are a lady until they indicate otherwise. It makes life very interesting and the conversation is extremely worthwhile. I may have regrets that every woman I have desired was not interested in me, but that is the way of growing up and not giving up. Besides, I got to attend the weddings of a few of them.

 

[HawaiianStyle]

I know lots of women in their mid-20's that fit all those categories! They're all searching for the equivalent male! So far, none in the San Francisco area...

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[sheath]

But then again to me these days its always better to suffer a fate of eternal loneliness a than it is to spend an eternity with someone whom you despise for what hapened to you in the past due to the actions of others similar to them .

When I met my fiance, he felt exactly the same way.

He was done with women, he said. He was sleeping around with women he didn't care about just to get off, and as soon as they started to get close, he dumped them. It wasn't a pretty life he was leading. He no longer HAD standards, because he believed that no one would measure up, so why bother?

We began as friends, and became more. It just so happened one day I went out of town for a week...and he missed me. It scared the holy fuck out of him. And when I came back and told him that I couldn't get him out of my mind? He was floored. But damned if we weren't an item from that night, and though the road has been rocky, it has been worth every single second. Every one.

He was terrified of me. He knew how he felt, but he was bound and determined that I would cheat, hurt him, drive him away. And so, he tried to do everything he could to make me run. I held firm. Eventually, it dawned on him...I would not hurt him. Not everyone hurts. It just takes ONE good person to make you feel that.

I guess my point is...yes, you've been hurt. And I know that kind of hurt, because I have seen it firsthand in my man's eyes. I still see the memories in him sometimes, and the pain of them is something I know I can never fully comprehend. But he has moved on...and he is now with me, a woman who would rather die than hurt him. And slowly, he's coming to believe that.

They are out there. There are so many women who will listen to what you have been through and love you enough to show you that they won't be a repeat of your past. Just don't close off all the avenues by setting the bar too high. There are very, very good women out there who have made their own mistakes in the past...but mistakes are to be learned from, not meant to brand the person who made them for the rest of their lives. High standards like those you listed are virtually unrealistic...and they provide a shield for you to hide behind, so that you never get hurt again. But don't you think that being alone hurts, too?

Good luck to you...I hope you find what you are looking for. My heart goes out to you, because you sound so much like the man I am going to marry. But he is filled with hope and promise now, and those dark shadows are gone, all because he took a chance. And he will tell you, his life has never been better. And I have never been so much in love, or so devoted. We are proof that love DOES conquer all. You just have to be willing to let it in.

Take care...



S.

 

[curvacious]

keep looking (although not too hard----seems people you "need" come when you slow down your looking). There have to be more of these women out there. I always think things happen for a reason, so when the time is right, you'll find one another.
Good luck to you.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

so, wait. YOu want a virgin, and someone who doesn't drink at ALL?

Well I wish you luck.

 

[MagicFingers]

Congratulations, Sheath,

From the top of my heart. I'm glad you found and have a good man. Thanks for sharing.

VirginLeo, please work on your self-esteem, as some here have mentioned. The kind of woman you are looking for will want a successful, self-confident man, not someone wallowing in self-pity.

 

[virginleo20]

Well as to everyone .. thanks for you r votes of confidence and support...

but just to point it out im not wollowing in self pity


its much more of a "this is what i remember of people like them and i dont want to " type of a thing.


As to most "regular people when they tell me of their habbits of how fun it is to go out and get "plastered".. the fun of dancing etc... due to my meories and sertain other things my responce is basically similar to that of.....


wel ever tried to offer some really strong tasting or smelling food to your pet dog? It kind of looks at you in a way that makes you laugh... ya know the puzzled snarl and backing away type of a reaction.


As to me being succesfull.. well im a student anwhom goes to school full time and work that way as well...

But just in general I have no intention of letting my "psychosis" rule my life and direct its evolution of my life and career in any financial sence.