Stamina Issue...PLEASE HELP!!

[xtrabig]

Hi Guys and Girls,

Just throwing this question out there for feedback, comments, tips, etc. Here it is, Basically I'm a 20 year old M, in great physical shape(very active) and from what I would assume my stamina should be prime. I'm not overly sexually active, basically when I have g/f I keep it to just those points, when single...its just me, thumbalina and rosey palms. When I jerk off, thats all its for...to get off. When i'm with my g/f I'd like to last a bit longer then that (like im sure most guys do) cause we no, girls take a bit longer. So any advice....i've tried jerking before we get together...that works somewhat but then the sensitivity factor kicks in....when drunk...i can go forever...lol....but ya, comments, suggestions, tips? thanks very much

 

[A_Kefka]

Are you using condoms. They are a good idea anyway, but I know I last a lot longer with one on.

 

[xtrabig]

ya, always use comdoms...and ya they do prolong it.....i mean, im the 5 minute wonder here..lol....i'd like more like 30 mins or somethin...or whatever u laides like......c'mon girls....any input?

 

[SweetErika]

Masturbate before you see your gf. Or, get off via another method when you're with her, then have sex.

Look up male kegel exercises, and do them (though, just as with any other muscle, it usually takes at least 6 weeks to see significant results).

Are you making sure she has at least one orgasm before you have sex?

Does she want you to go longer? Some women are just as happy/happier with more foreplay and less intercourse.

 

[simplegirl]

Actually, here's a solution I've read about. It seems to work for hubby!

When you masturbate, the problem is, you do it to get off, as you said. So you're looking to get off as quickly as possible. (Especially when you were a teen, because you wanted to get off before you got caught!) You are unfortunately "training" yourself to ejaculate quickly. So when it comes to penetrative sex, your poor penis doesn't stand a chance.

Try getting some lube and practice masturbating and making it last. When you get close to orgasm, ease off until the urgency to cum passes and then keep going. You'll eventually last longer and longer. You can do this during sex too..when you feel the urge to cum, pause, kiss her passionately or use the opportunity to do something to your girl while you wait for the urgency to pass and then keep on going.

Hope this helps!

 

[xtrabig]

great tips ppl, thanks very much! I'll be sure to try them out.....hopefully it all workds out

 

[Hornyman69WithU]

Simplegirl Is Spot-On

She's right. Every time you get right to the brink of cumming but manage to keep from doing so, you raise your "ejaculation threshhold."

I had the same problem when I was a teenager, for exactly the reasons Simplegirl said. Of course, back then, I was hard again in 10 minutes and could go several rounds, so it wasn't that big of a deal.

By practicing just as she said, I can now last for a couple hours. In fact, I have on occasion raised my ejaculation threshhold so high that I could not cum no matter how good she sucked, fucked, or even butt-fucked. So, be careful what you wish for!

 

[necroerotica]

Try getting some lube and practice masturbating and making it last. When you get close to orgasm, ease off until the urgency to cum passes and then keep going. You'll eventually last longer and longer. You can do this during sex too..when you feel the urge to cum, pause, kiss her passionately or use the opportunity to do something to your girl while you wait for the urgency to pass and then keep on going.

Hope this helps!

One thing I would add to that - I tried the pull-out/pause thing myself with my wife, and got no end of grief about it. Simply because, as she said, it was interrupting her - she was working her way to the big O, and all of a sudden I was stopping.
I think probably the point I'm trying to make is, talk to her before hand - let her know in advance what you plan to do, and make sure she's all right with that.

In the end, what worked for me is probably much less to be recommended.
I developed certain mental issues about how each time I had sex was going to be my last time and dear lord I was *not* going to cum and try to make it last as long as possible.
Yeah.
A sure fire way to stop me popping was her telling me to cum - because it signalled the end.
Nope, can't recommend that approach.....

 

[rrod69xx]

quick fix

all the training methods take time, until you get it trained try the trojan extended (have a numbing lube inside)
works better than the durex extended release.

 

[The Gimp]

My suggestion is to use some combination of your fingers and tongue to ring her to orgasm before you penetrate. She will be amazed that you put in the effort to get her off first, and anything beyond that is icing on the cake.

 

[Guest]

massage

Have gf learn tantric erotic massage...



Maharat

 

[SpencerAlanMacLeod]

Imsak

Prince Aly Khan lived between 1911 and 1960.

He practiced a sexual technique called “Imsak” that he learned from an Arab doctor as a young man.
While he often made love to various women “by the hour”, he came no more often than twice a week.

There is a lot to be said for enjoying the act, as has been already described on this thread.