Straight or Gay or Bi...or just curious

[fifelass]

That's how crossdressing was for me- for many years; until I admitted to myself that I was just that. I have only come out to myself and my wife ( and Lit folks) but that has made a huge difference in how I feel

well done on finding the courage to come out about it. my fb took over 6 months before he told me about that side of him. he had realised i was open minded enough to accept that crossdressing is an important side of him as a person. the first time he dress for me i was so horny i actually ripped the panties off him.
we have had others join us and recently he has felt comfortable enough to be dressed for those very hot sessions, he has even chatted and we plan on giving him the full works with the wig and makeup when he feels ready for it. he says he has never felt so liberated since telling me

 

[blade_rocknut]

The guilt of holding a secret just tears you up inside. Telling my wife- my best friend has let me breathe a bit. Of course now- there is still drama, because part of me wants to be out in the open, but the rest of me knows better. Besides; how do you explain to kids that daddy wants to be mommy sometimes?

 

[SilkyDave]

The guilt of holding a secret just tears you up inside. Telling my wife- my best friend has let me breathe a bit. Of course now- there is still drama, because part of me wants to be out in the open, but the rest of me knows better. Besides; how do you explain to kids that daddy wants to be mommy sometimes?

keeping the secret has caused such pain, confusion, and distress, wish I would step out of the closet, but i am not in a bi friendly place, it would not be understood and an open marriage is not in the picture

 

[AliasAl]

Very Interesting

As I am the person who started this thread then I find the responses very intreging. So many people are bi or would like to try sex with another male or female. Just as I thought. As a 48yo married bi guy i understand all the feelings offered by you good folk....

If anyone wants to talk private with me then you can contact me either here on Lit via a message or at purplepal@hotmail.co.uk.

Keep the posts cumming...

 

[claimsguy]

Great thread

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[AliasAl]

Just Me..

You started a great thread. I am curious how you got your wife involved with other men. The thought of sharing a man with my wife gets me really worked up.

Lol..sadly she hasn't been involved with me in a mmf..or any other as far as I know. I had a few male contacts before marriage (including one mmf) and the last male contact was 4 years ago. She doesn't know I am bi.

 

[Cycle Tom]

So far, I'm just curious. I'd really like to try an MMF.

 

[AliasAl]

Mmf

So far, I'm just curious. I'd really like to try an MMF.

It's the best of both worlds..but the other guy has to be a willing bi as well... I had one once and it was fun.

 

[Mortuis]

Curious as hell, but the limit of my experience is a one-time cyber-session with a bi guy. I enjoyed it, but he never "called" back... I feel so cheap! [/drama]

Seriously, the idea of anal sex both intrigues and intimidates me; but the idea of sucking a cock is one that I entertain frequently. I think I'll always prefer women, but I wouldn't refuse a guy who was discreet and clean.

 

[DMConnor109]

I think I might be bisexual. I really don't know. I don't see myself marrying a girl or anything, but there is definitely a strong sexual attraction.. Eating a girl out is one of my biggest fantasies.
I don't think I'll ever know for sure if I'm bi untill I try it. But I'm too shy lol

 

[WickedWendyDru]

I *have* to ask...

Lol..sadly she hasn't been involved with me in a mmf..or any other as far as I know. I had a few male contacts before marriage (including one mmf) and the last male contact was 4 years ago. She doesn't know I am bi.

Okay... I just *have* to ask... How exactly do you end up married to somebody without, you know, disclosing the very intimate details of your sexuality? Was the marriage arranged? I'm not being a smartass, honest. I really want to know, because the very first thing my husband and I learned about each other (after the STI tests came back) were our sexual compatibilties. That was kind of key for us. Did you simply choose not to tell her? And if that's the case, I'm really curious as to your reasoning there.

Truly - I'm attempting to be respectful, I'm just 100% baffled. How could you not share that kind of detail with your mate and remain satisfied in the marriage? I mean, for me it was totally hot to know that hey, I found a guy who likes to suck cock as much as I do and that he was absolutely cool with inviting the babysitter to stay so that I could lick her till she cried while he did me from behind... These are *important conversations* to have with one's potential mate. If we hadn't had that talk... well damn. What boring people we'd be!

So... help me out here. Explain the thought processes behind, you know, not telling your wife that you're bi. Because... I don't get it.

 

[blade_rocknut]

Just a thought- people do evolve, or at least grow into their sexuality. I'm 35 and have only in the last 1-2 years grown enough to study and accept the gender traits that provide me the urges to dress female. Of course, many ( as a product of their environment) know of their bisexuality but feel the need to hide or supress it with a straight marriage. I totally agree with the last post- it'd be great if everyone knew themselves well enough going in to be that forthcoming and honest. But that's a perfect world, and well.....

 

[curiousus]

good policy

I completely agree with this. I'm a bi female married to a bi male, and we regularly bring both men and women to our bedroom as thirds... though agreeing on who we're going to invite is a challenge because what I find attractive in a female is very different from what he finds attractive (although a nice set of tits usually works), and our taste in men is so radically different we kind of have to decide ahead of time exactly what it is we're interested in doing before we go "shopping".

The kissing comments kind of surprised me, btw... most of the bi guys we've been involved with were rather voracious kissers, which I really like. There's nothing hotter than watching two guys make out, particularly if you know you're going to end up between them...

I'm a bi male, and my wife is a bi female too. Your policy sounds like you have great communication with each other.
She came "out" first, and I struggled with how to label myself.
I am sure I'd define myself as bi now.
I do not have any desire to "sneak" behind her back and be gay, but rather enjoy mmf or mmff sex with her.

I really love cock sucking, but really have no interest in anal play. When she fantasizes it is about being alone with a woman. I on the other hand, always dream of having her there to enjoy and encourage.

Too much of an answer?
D & G

 

[SilkyDave]

over time people change, i honestly did not relaize that i had bi tendencies until i was well into my 30's. growing up irish catholic where such thoughts were just not discussed or admitted to, the ideas entered one's mind but were quickly guilted aside. so did i ever imagine being attracted to such sexual activity in my teens and 20's ? nope...the ideas crossed my mind but were cast off, my sexual appetite was being satisfied and i tohught nothing of it. things change over time, people evolve and ideas that were once thought of as forbidden often become far less forbidden and more interesting...

 

[l777]

also

Hey Cycle Tom ...

Me too ... now we just need to find the F !

So far, I'm just curious. I'd really like to try an MMF.

 

[KinkStevens]

Onceu try

you get it in your blood and begin to cock lust...i love being bitched out, bent over and taking tranny cock

 

[farscott]

I am definitely bi, and my wife knows and encourages me. She loves the idea of watching another man fuck me. If STDs were not an issue, it is something we would do more often.

 

[namron711]

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I am definitely bi, and my wife knows and encourages me. She loves the idea of watching another man fuck me. If STDs were not an issue, it is something we would do more often.

You're a lucky guy to have a lady like that.

 

[Sylntwulf]

nahhh

 

[claimsguy]

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[xpumpkinpiex]

Consider yourself straight? A hetrosexual? But maybe, just maybe, a little bi-curious?
This question is for those men or women who have never been with a same sex person in a sexual encounter but if the opportunity arose would like to try one.
If you were in a sexual encounter with a same sex person and the circumstances were right which would you like to do? And how..?

Well, I wasn't really curious until a great conversation I had with someone that really opened up my eyes. I definitly wouldn't mind a feminine touch. So if I had the opportunity, I definitly would try it . But being a naturally shy person in real life I couldn't ever initiate anything. Hmm the complicated thing here is, I wouldn't even know what to do if the circumstances were right. Guess I'd have to play it by ear on that one lol.

 

[pualcr2112]

I love your post pumpkin pie

 

[Naked_moonlight]

Oh pumpkin pie I know what you mean completely!

I've always suspected I'm bi or at least bi-curious. Most of my fantasies are about women and physically I'm so much more attracted to them over men. But I've never had the chance to be with another chick and am now married to a guy who seriously hates the idea of girl on girl. Just my luck.

Truth is tho in real life I would be so nervous to be with a girl and not really know what to do. Guess if it ever happened just have to hope that instinct takes over and just touch her in ways that I like to be touched and caressed.

 

[xpumpkinpiex]

I love your post pumpkin pie

Hey thanks bub

Oh pumpkin pie I know what you mean completely!

I've always suspected I'm bi or at least bi-curious. Most of my fantasies are about women and physically I'm so much more attracted to them over men. But I've never had the chance to be with another chick and am now married to a guy who seriously hates the idea of girl on girl. Just my luck.

Truth is tho in real life I would be so nervous to be with a girl and not really know what to do. Guess if it ever happened just have to hope that instinct takes over and just touch her in ways that I like to be touched and caressed.

Wow, I'm glad I'm not the only one then . Hard luck about your hubby though! But you're right, I think going with your instincts just might be a pretty good option.

 

[AlwaysAlone1986]

Hey thanks bub



Wow, I'm glad I'm not the only one then . Hard luck about your hubby though! But you're right, I think going with your instincts just might be a pretty good option.

I'm exactly the same. I have been curious about being with another woman for a while now. Many of my fantasies and crushes lately have been on other women, but I am very shy in person so would never be able to initiate a situation where I could explore it in person.

I really hope that if the opportunity ever arises, i first recognise that its there and second, my instincts kick in and i get to experience something i have been fantasizing for a few years now.