"Subspace" & Ownership

[laceNlthrgrrl]

I enjoy this state of being, whatever you want to call it, immensely. However, it's very difficult for me to relax to the point where I'm receptive to it, and it sure as hell won't happen during casual play. I'm tempted to envy those who reach it more easily, but clearly that has its drawbacks. To me it's a hallmark of reaching that very special level in a relationship where I can turn off my inner censor/monitor and genuinely let go. Subspace is a lovely symptom of a relationship that's humming along.

 

[KoPilot]

Yes. One that has jack all to do with submission, also. See also: jogging, cutting, religious flagellation.

I'm not sure that one can yank people in and out of it as easily as a lot of people want to believe, either. We go into shock to protect our bodies when in pain and this is a kind of toying with shock. Different people will shock at different rates and to different amounts. To my constant enjoyment.

The sooner people call it what it is, which is "endorphin high" the better.

I'm one of those pain in the ass people who believes adults are responsible for themselves, so if you know you go non-verbal you should be doing your best to keep that from becoming your top's problem.

This. Thank you~

It's like some artists out there that will sit and render the shit out of an illustration for 10+ hours without stopping. Everyone's first thought is to go "oh wow, they must be art geniuses" or "this must be the only thing they live for" etc. when in fact the real explanation is "lolcocaine".

 

[DVS]

An endorphin high is it, exactly. In my experience, it's happened only with women who seem to trust me a lot. I guess it can happen in a casual situation with women who are very trusting, but subspace is something they experience when the atmosphere is near perfect (the safety factor and what is happening in the scene) and that OMG feeling she is seeking is reached or nearly reached.

This one woman...whatever she was feeling seemed to trigger something inside her head that allowed her to go into some alternate mindset...like a trance. Personally, this trance thing bothers me, because I don't get a reply when I talk to them. I really prefer an answer when I ask, "are you OK?" It never happened enough that I got use to it.

Subspace seems to have phases, or it's just that women react differently. Sometimes, they just seem to shiver uncontrollably for about 10-15 minutes after the scene, like they're very cold. I can deal with that. But, the trance thing can be scary, if you don't know what's going on. That type of subspace would be difficult for someone to use a safe word, if they needed to, but I don't think they are really thinking safe word in the state of mind they are in. I can also see how it could be dangerous if something happened at just the wrong time, when there is no communication.

 

[callinectes2]

I am in some kind of altered state (call it subspace, endorphin high, trance, whatever) with my PYL on a somewhat regular basis. However, I've been with him 5 years and really do trust him with my life now. When we first started dating I was very careful about what I agreed to because I know what my triggers are and I just didn't want to go there.

Contrary to what one might read son some of the woo woo websites, being a sub doesn't mean you get to abdicate personal responsibility.

 

[artslut86]

My challenge sometimes is getting out of my own head. If the Domme is saying do X and I wonder why, or can I or what will this lead to or will I lose my hard on doing that....I dont want to disappoint her or drag out a play session while I get my shit together. The two or three times I've been in the zone The Mistress had me so focussed upon the sensations I could do little but comply. But also I was bound and motionless and had no ability to do much else but absorb sensation. I think environment has a lot to do with it.

 

[FeelingLikeMyself]

I've been pegged into subspace before, even though I didn't know what it was called at the time. I was lucky enough to have a partner at the time who was experienced and kept a close eye on me. I couldn't talk, but I could answer in the affirmative or negative.

I wasn't completely unaware of what was going on. I had simply been overwhelmed with the physical sensations of a personal fantasy coming to life. I understood what was happening. I was enjoying what was happening. I was simply lost in my head. Becoming uncomfortable with a feeling that each pump felt like I was having air pushed up my ass snapped me out of it.

9.5 out of 10. Hope to visit again.

 

[artslut86]

I've been pegged into subspace before, even though I didn't know what it was called at the time. I was lucky enough to have a partner at the time who was experienced and kept a close eye on me. I couldn't talk, but I could answer in the affirmative or negative.

I wasn't completely unaware of what was going on. I had simply been overwhelmed with the physical sensations of a personal fantasy coming to life. I understood what was happening. I was enjoying what was happening. I was simply lost in my head. Becoming uncomfortable with a feeling that each pump felt like I was having air pushed up my ass snapped me out of it.

9.5 out of 10. Hope to visit again.

Roger that. Today my D monitored my training. I got so lost but at some time uncomfortable [ I think she restarted the program and ran me longer. ] I was never going to cum but the action and movement were exciting. When it got uncomfortable I tried chatting to her.
Aftwards I was spent. I could not fulfill my tasks for her. Made me sad. Stamina is required! That and better knees!!