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[Quimpossibility]

You have to keep in mind that this place. It's based upon fantasy and things that people don't open up about in real life. When fantasy becomes real life or vice versa, it can be a challenge. It can be unnerving as well as sometimes too real for people. Keep in mind that This isn't real life. You'll see people. Referring to it all the time, how real life got in the way. But as long as 2 people can connect on here, and they feel the same way even as they're talking in. DM you have to consider whether it's worth taking a chance and maybe finding happiness. Or even a little happiness or just keeping it here, knowing what you have without having to face reality or real life. People meet in different ways. Now, compared to years ago, there are no set of rules. There is no special book or answer. Only you 2 can decide what the answers are. We can recommend or suggest things, but it's not our lives. Only you can decide whether it's worth it both of you together.

I know.

I was considering leaving this place tbh. In many ways it's kind of intense and the fantasy element only leads so far. I guess finding something real is the ultimate fantasy.

Some of the stories I've read are just so intense. I've even chatted with people who've written them, autobiographical I mean. They are nice, but their lives....it's like staring at the sun.

I never came here expecthing anything would happen, but where I live meeting people is very tough. Other reasons too, but those I'll save for now. But this person, and I'm sure it's age old story, was different. We really hit it off with silly goofy chats. I think she's genuine, but you're right, it isn't real life.

I guess we'll see what happens.

IMO, dating and meeting up is a bit of a crapshoot. I’ve met a couple people from lit and IMO, it’s just best to go slow, meeting a neutral, highly populated location, and just see how it goes.

Yeah of course. Safety is absolutely paramount.

The other person might show up, they might not. You might have a great time and want to see each other again. You might feel that there is zero connection.

I had thought of that. what happens IRL is a different set of parameters.

I think you’re pretty heavily invested already so if it doesn’t work out or she doesn’t show, you might get hurt.

I think that maybe the mistake I've made. I can't really say it was a mistake though, it felt right. But I guess that's the point.

My sense of it is: go in with his neutral expectations as possible. If it works, great. if it doesn’t work try to keep your heart and emotions in check. (I know, easy for me to say).

Good luck!!!

Thanks. I think I'd rather go through with the meeting and find it naturally didn't click than be disappointed by her changing her mind. But whatever happens i will respect that. There's a lot to discuss. I certainly don't expect anything happening immediately.

 

[Wonderer67]

Thanks. I think I'd rather go through with the meeting and find it naturally didn't click than be disappointed by her changing her mind. But whatever happens i will respect that. There's a lot to discuss. I certainly don't expect anything happening immediately.

I agree. If you decide to meet - go.

I would just suggest adjusting your expectations.

 

[Quimpossibility]

I agree. If you decide to meet - go.

I would just suggest adjusting your expectations.

I think i will try and discuss whether we at least have matching expectations. I could have completely misunderstood what she wants and/or needs. At least then decisions can be made about meeting. If she decides she wants to then great, and if she then gets cold feet...well I guess that's the risk I take.

 

[Rj_1954]

You have to keep in mind that this place. It's based upon fantasy and things that people don't open up about in real life. When fantasy becomes real life or vice versa, it can be a challenge. It can be unnerving as well as sometimes too real for people. Keep in mind that This isn't real life. You'll see people. Referring to it all the time, how real life got in the way. But as long as 2 people can connect on here, and they feel the same way even as they're talking in. DM you have to consider whether it's worth taking a chance and maybe finding happiness. Or even a little happiness or just keeping it here, knowing what you have without having to face reality or real life. People meet in different ways. Now, compared to years ago, there are no set of rules. There is no special book or answer. Only you 2 can decide what the answers are. We can recommend or suggest things, but it's not our lives. Only you can decide whether it's worth it both of you together.

My wife, Kathy and I didn't meet on Lit, but now we are well involved with it. K & I went to the same HS and began dating from there. We've been married 47 years now we know each other's kinks. She watches what l post an sometimes critiques me. At first she didn't like me being on Lit, but now she realizes it enhances our lifestyle. But lately I've found a Lit member that lives next door (she recognized from my face that I posted on a thread) K was very pissed when she called me RJ, but now they are good friends. I promised I wouldn't mention her name to protect her privacy. I was working as an editor for a book publication firm when I came across literotica and I showed it to K who wasn't happy at first, but now we do everything together

 

[Quimpossibility]

There's no fool like an old fool I guess....TBH i don't think I could have comported myself in a better way, so to speak. But if I get burned, it will be on my own back.

I think I have allowed this site to get under my skin.

 

[Greylag]

Not even for a peek?

Don't come crying to me when you get a fright @Lilianna23

 

[Rj_1954]

There's no fool like an old fool I guess....TBH i don't think I could have comported myself in a better way, so to speak. But if I get burned, it will be on my own back.

I think I have allowed this site to get under my skin.

Don't worry too much...things will happen in due time. If you worry too much, you'll end up like me...a manic depressive with ADHD

 

[dkak001]

Only finished half of the mowing. At least most of the dandelion are cut off.

Cherries are trying, but it's 43 degrees F out there, so zero insects to pollinate them. Peaches have a few flowers, but most are small buds yet.

Had to move a tree frog from the yard when mowing. I just love these little guys. They're so calm, and hide most of the time. But noisy when it's mating season.

 

[dkak001]

I think I have allowed this site to get under my skin.

Hmmm, that's a very interesting comment to me.

This site can be a lot of things. And it can be different things to different people. I see from your join date that you are new here.

There is something about the anonymity that allows people to open up in ways they probably would not in the real world. Likewise, it allows people to hide things from all of us here. That double edged sword can be troublesome, but it is also why I personally enjoy this place. It allows us to see sides of people we probably wouldn't see anywhere else. I have really enjoyed that aspect of this site.

I also have quite a few long running DM messages with people here, and I consider these people friends. We may never meet in real life, but they are people I have come to care about. Maybe they are who they present themselves as here, and maybe not. But, how is that really any different than acquaintances in real life?

My thoughts would be to enjoy this place for what it is. Hang around, get to know people, and let the newness of the place wear off. There are some amazing people here, and also some weirdos, and some complete assholes too.

As for meeting that person IRL, if it seems right, go for it. If not, don't worry about it. Either way, enjoy it for whatever it turns out to be.

 

[Quimpossibility]

Hmmm, that's a very interesting comment to me.

I don't mean to speak ill of anyone. I'm not suggestng that it's the people who are being horrible. I have come to find it intense.

There are people on here who are way more sexually experience than me whose histories are full of incredible experiences. I find it overwhelming tbh.

This site can be a lot of things. And it can be different things to different people. I see from your join date that you are new here.

Correct. I'm not making a criticism of the site, just questioning whether it is the right place for me

There is something about the anonymity that allows people to open up in ways they probably would not in the real world. Likewise, it allows people to hide things from all of us here. That double edged sword can be troublesome, but it is also why I personally enjoy this place. It allows us to see sides of people we probably wouldn't see anywhere else. I have really enjoyed that aspect of this site.

I have opened up to a couple of people. Including the person i mentioned, whether that's a good thing remains to be seen.

I also have quite a few long running DM messages with people here, and I consider these people friends. We may never meet in real life, but they are people I have come to care about. Maybe they are who they present themselves as here, and maybe not. But, how is that really any different than acquaintances in real life?

i've chatted with a few people. Got my rocks off in the erotic chat forum, although i find that less appealing now. I even chat to a couple of ppl thru here on Gchat. One of whom is an escort. She has a history of the kind of sexual experience I mentioned. But she is a fun person to chat to, though I suspect - and I dont mean this negatively - there is a performative element. She even offered to let me be a client. I have never done such a thing and not simply because I don't have that kind of money, don't imagine I ever will. No shaming, she's cool and she is easy to chat to.

I chatted to a london based woman, incredibly sexy, who admitted she just likes fucking older guys. Regardless of what they look like. She even was open to meeting me, at her suggestion. But the realities were too much: travel would have been prohibitive. She is sexually very assertive, she films herself in sex clubs and sex shops and tbh I don't think it would have gone well anyway. Someone like that weould eat me alive!

I don't meet people like that IRL. Here i live in a very socially islated part of the country that has real issues with being disconnected. Leaningon Lit to be an outlet is perhaps unhealthy.

My thoughts would be to enjoy this place for what it is. Hang around, get to know people, and let the newness of the place wear off. There are some amazing people here, and also some weirdos, and some complete assholes too.

I participate in some of the threads in the Playground. They are pretty goofy but it's harmless enough. There are threads for people to hookup but i don't expect much from stuff like that. The rest seem to be a lot of older men dogpiling posts by supposedly sexually free young women/girls. It's a little creepy tbh.

As for meeting that person IRL, if it seems right, go for it. If not, don't worry about it. Either way, enjoy it for whatever it turns out to be.

I guess that's all you can do. Perhaps letting my guard down was a bad mistake. I believe she is genuine, she's very easy to talk to and convo flows. But, it is of course, in the context of online.

Rookie mistake really

 

[likes2watchU]

I feel like the White Rabbit...
Not that I'm late necessarily but I do feel constantly short on time these days
Had the start of a catch up still left here from one or two days ago...

Hello baddies, how you all doing?
Almost 300 pages later. Still i always loved it here. Hope that the old baddies are still active!

Once again, love for u all

Gorgeous! Do you know what this is called? I would love to be able to grow them!

Google says it's a trillium

It probably wasn't you. I bet your phone didn't cooperate!

See? Told ya

It’s 130 am and the wall of thunder came through loudly! I am up because my old dog is shaking like a leaf. He is next to me on the couch.

As much as I like a good storm, I don't care to be shocked awake by thunder

We had rain here today, too. No thunder, though. 🌧

rain here, too... it's enough

Hi, Kathy!

I missed Kathy?!? Hey, girl!!

40s here!

We've had an early stretch of 80s and almost 90s here... trade you? Or at least let's blend them together to meet in the middle

(Holds up a poster.."hiya lili)

Mama dropped her baby! How cute it is!

Ah - now I understand the Child Services reference

I actually had it there and then thought twice about it.

Avert your eyes!!
Poof

What? I missed it?

I have a family trip coming up over the next ten days so if you dont see me here then dont worry.

Thanks for the heads up - have a wonderful visit!!

Another poll: Plans for tomorrow.

1. Weed and Feed the yard and cut some dead branches

Or

2. Take the boat out and try to get into some stripers and fluke?

I feel like this is one of those rhetorical questions... or a trap. Hmm, yeah - trap

I had to do a double take. Moving on folks. Nothing to see here.

GMTA

It’s a smash and dash today! Wife is in my grill this a.m.!

sounds... combative?

On the phone just now with another hospital:

Scheduling please.

......uhhh ... Stephanie who?

*sigh*.

SKED JOOL LING-uh

Be thankful they're answering phones and not treating patients?!?

They may be ok. It's the bees to pollinate that don't like the cold.

Does this mean you need to help pollinate... Wonderer Style?

Glad I had context.... otherwise Id be googling child services

Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, in the days leading up to the event, the computer search history clearly shows they were googling for Child Services...

My scaredeer to keep more deer away…

I hate them so much.

https://imgur.com/a/0Ki0GMh

bones alone? do you have to keep moving it around?

Lol. They're not very nervous of stuff like that.

When I'm home I'm watching for them, and have to shoo them out of the apples. Of course, there's hardly any deer left right now, so this was probably the only one in the county! And it picked the tulips in front of the house!

I think it waited until you were out back looking around the apple trees... then snuck in front for the tasty tulips. Does this mean you got played by a deer?

Stripers! Don't be silly.

Yep - I had to back up and read that a second time, too

Now, how do I get rid of the FUCKIN VOLES! My backyard is in tatters.

We covered this? Daschaunds are the answer

Not even for a peek?

Quick catch-up to mark my spot.

First mowing should happen today. The new garden plot will need a fence, and I heard it isn't going to build itself!

Not self-building but pretty dang close

 

[kathyisgr65]

Haha @ lili u crack me up..

 

[Tweedledude]

I feel like the White Rabbit...
Not that I'm late necessarily but I do feel constantly short on time these days
Had the start of a catch up still left here from one or two days ago...

Google says it's a trillium

See? Told ya

As much as I like a good storm, I don't care to be shocked awake by thunder

rain here, too... it's enough

I missed Kathy?!? Hey, girl!!

We've had an early stretch of 80s and almost 90s here... trade you? Or at least let's blend them together to meet in the middle

Ah - now I understand the Child Services reference

What? I missed it?

Thanks for the heads up - have a wonderful visit!!

I feel like this is one of those rhetorical questions... or a trap. Hmm, yeah - trap

GMTA

sounds... combative?

Be thankful they're answering phones and not treating patients?!?

Does this mean you need to help pollinate... Wonderer Style?

Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, in the days leading up to the event, the computer search history clearly shows they were googling for Child Services...

bones alone? do you have to keep moving it around?

I think it waited until you were out back looking around the apple trees... then snuck in front for the tasty tulips. Does this mean you got played by a deer?

Yep - I had to back up and read that a second time, too

We covered this? Daschaunds are the answer

Not self-building but pretty dang close

Simply an amazing summation and catch up. How you doing L2?

 

[Tweedledude]

Haha @ lili u crack me up..

Hello Ms Kathy

 

[kathyisgr65]

Hello Ms Kathy

Hiya ..I'm doing well thanks..just stopping by to see how the other half live

 

[Mittering]

Necromancer?
Wait - that would be an escalation - wrong direction
Uhm... Meditation Life Coach?

The only way to get rid of a voodoo priest is with another voodoo priest...of the opposite sex.

 

[Tweedledude]

Hiya ..I'm doing well thanks..just stopping by to see how the other half live

Well it’s Saturday and put quiet i think

 

[kathyisgr65]

Well it’s Saturday and put quiet i think

Same here...

 

[Mittering]

Morning and a good Saturday to all! Got the yard mowed and man…it was still in the 80’s and muggy. Had to cut it short. Knock the rest out today. Watched a quirky movie way too late last night, Companion. AI type thing (think an updated Bladerunner vibe) and slept in a tad this a.m. So will get started way too late and probably be back in the heat…it ain’t supposed to get this humid till late June.

Some more North Fla MZ…did I post this one? Feels like I did…oh well…

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Is that Matanzas? If so, we lived so close for over a year and never went.

 

[Mittering]

I kinda made a special friend on Lit. She's the most fun person I've spoken to/met (even if online) in a long while. She's honestly ever so lovely.

she even said she'd like for us to get together. It felt special, not sleazy or nasty.

we had a pretty deep chat the other night and I shared a ton of stuff about me that she was super nice about. It made me very happy. She isn't evne a million miles away from me and I asked her about meeting IRL and she seemed up for it (obviously there are safety issues to consider).

So why the hell am I so scared she won't want to actually go trhough with it? I feel that, after waht I told her, and her being so sensitive and expressing an interest that it was almost a fait accompli. But i feel that, if she does change her mind, or if i've grossly misunderstood, it would break my heart.

I would respect any decision she makes and I hope I'm just getting my knickers in a knot for no reason. There's no real answer to this ofc. Whatever happens is whatever happens....

I'm replying to this without reading what everyone else has written first

Take the pressure of letting you down off. Plan something fun to do that you would absolutely do by yourself. Let her know that is your plan. Let her know that she is more than welcome to join you at that activity but that regardless of her attendance, you have plans. Let her know that if she doesn't show up that she will not be leaving you hanging. You will not be disappointed or put out or in inconvenienced.

My two cents...or less.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

Is that Matanzas? If so, we lived so close for over a year and never went.

I’m pretty sure it is. I copy&pasted those off the interweb so it just said St Augustine…I’ve been there many many times but always for work and never have really got to see the sights. It’s on a short list for places to go…just next winter!

 

[Mittering]

I’m pretty sure it is. I copy&pasted those off the interweb so it just said St Augustine…I’ve been there many many times but always for work and never have really got to see the sights. It’s on a short list for places to go…just next winter!

Work friends said it was really cool. The Matanzas pass is suppose to a very laid back beach are on the inside of the peninsula, away from the waves and undertow. I'm disappointed that I never took the kids there. Too much to do in Florida

I just got back from there last week. I was gathering the last of our things from the house before it sells this summer (fingers crossed)

 

[Wonderer67]

A hard-working day of clearing trails, two large trees came down across them.

Mowing lawns.

Somehow, I put regular gas in my chainsaw. I emptied it and put in regular gas and thank God it’s running fine now.

Then, of course, I got my lawnmower, stuck in the mud at the farm. Mrs. Wonderer pulled me out with the ATV.

 

[Mittering]

 

[Oldermom935]