I confess that I am really upset at alot of people in the lounge right now.
Maybe my friends don't understand that even though I have been silent about the hidden shit-storm behind the scenes, doesn't mean that I'm not affected. All I wanted tonight was to come home from work, cook a little dinner for myself and my boyfriend and maybe even watch a movie, curl up on the couch and cuddle. Please note that I came home at 11pm.
Instead. I'm on here, at 1:01am, typing this out in the confessional. Why? Because my boyfriend is upstairs with our bedroom door shut. Most likely talking to one of his gal friends. Why? because my lit friends in the lounge (just a few) are too hung up on lies, rumors, back-stabbing and gossip.
Now, like I said; this isn't my fight, nor do I gain any right to fully know what's going on. But naturally, I see and pick-up the fights, the subtle hints of hatred towards one another. Not to mention, coming home to my boyfriend frustrated and angry towards someone or something is a clear indication to know 'what's up'.
I get it. No one wants to resolve issues with one another because of personal reasons. Maybe it makes them feel important, maybe it's for attention, or to see who their real allies are. But it's pathetic, and useless. I hate to say this, but a lot of my friends are acting ridiculously immature. I'm the immature one on the lounge, for god's sake, I make stupid little face emotes like this: -_-"
But instead of trying to reach an understanding with one another, or even just simply ignore what he said, or she said.. it just goes into one, big useless circle full of crap that usually gets distorted when it's being spoken through many people.
I'm sick of this. I want my friends back. I don't want them stressed out, or angry, or even having to feel like they can't be on Lit anymore. The lounge is a place for everyone to come together. We are all equal, and it's our unique-ness that makes this place fun and one of the better places to hang out on Literotica.
The lounge isn't a place to judge one-another. It's a place to "be yourself". But when you disrupt the balance by being a huge douche, then it affects us all. And I have to say, it's greedy, selfish and immature. We are all grown women and men, yet we act like snobbish teenagers. Yes, in you're life you are going to get a lot of heartbreak, Yes; people have love ones who are sick, dying or are worse off than themselves. Hell; everybody has something sucky in their lives. But it's not an excuse to keep putting up to hide the real problem(s) at hand.
◙If you hate someone, that's what the ignore button is for- use it. (Even on me).
◙If someone is bugging you, judged by what they have done, or said- take a day off Lit, or two- even a week. LITEROTICA IS NOT YOUR LIFE! It's a hobby. People shouldn't be over-stressed or angry at a hobby..
◙If you have a problem with your spouse, partner, s/o.. talk to someone you TRUST. And try, try to come to a compromise. This is something I have recently learned myself.
◙ Stop with the fucking " OMG did you see what _________ said about you?" If we learned to keep our yaps shut, then there wouldn't be so much hate. Even better, if you feel so "compelled" to write smack about someone on here, do it on a piece of paper, tell an IRL friend you sincerely trust (you can put it in the third person if you want, changing the names).
But even with this post, it's not going to change anything is it? People are always going to hate, always going to spread lies, rumours and try their hardest to get under people's skin. If everyone just got along and tried to let things not get so personal, especially over petty things like online relationships, be them friend-based or not, then perhaps this place would be a better place to be in.
And people wonder why I go on the General Board so much.
I love everyone on here- I do. But PLEASE remember.. just because you don't tell certain people about what's going on, doesn't mean that they don't hear it at all.
Stop. Get off Lit and hug your s/o and tell them how special they are- even if they have made you angry or in your eyes, don't think they deserve it. No s/o? Then get off Lit, and do something to get your mind off shit. Read a book, watch something, eat. Whatever. Just please, please, please... work out you're problems with each other, move on, and make the lounge a cool place to be once again.
Thank-you.
( P.S~ Thank-you for taking my boyfriend away and ruining my night. You want to know what he said to me as I got off work at 10pm? "I got everything I need to get done on Lit, so I can spend the whole night with you. I'm not going back online tonight." Thank-you to those few people who took away my time to be with my boyfriend. You are fucking awesome. *thumbs up* It's now 1:29am. Too late to make dinner.. too late to watch a movie since he'll most likely fall asleep on the couch.. too late to do anything. Thanks. )
I confess it was good to speak with you today also querido
Holes (Holly) - I confess that I'm just posting here to tease Rayne about her widdle crush
*sings*
James and Rayne sitting in a tree S P AN KI N G
First comes a paddle then comes a cane
Then comes the handcuffs she won't take off again!
maybe Master Arcane should get with Master Powerdog and they could Master the task of that fantasy...Master....
Holes - Bet you're dying for a quad flog right now!
It doesnt even sound like a word anymore!
Be strong, and never put yourself down like that ever again.
