The craving to feel wanted, needed (M)

[sonicor]

The word "curious" doesn't quite cut it anymore.

It feels selfish to admit it. But my tank runs dry and I am a little tired of doing the chasing.
I don't remember it being this way. I had energy in spades. Maybe I'm getting older.

More and more I find myself remembering a friend from my youth. We'd play basketball, rode bikes, or swam in the mornings, and in the afternoons we'd raid his parents' refrigerator lunch and he'd feed me his thick cock for dessert. Sometimes he'd make me get him off with my mouth, sometimes he'd lower my shorts and take me over the couch, or on his bed, or pressed against the wall... I never told him no. It was completely one sided, and I loved it.

I don't need to give. I have plenty of sources for that, but I have a growing craving to be in the other side of that coin again, to feel wanted and lusted after. I want to give someone pleasure and hear their appreciative grunts as they cum because of me.

Would one time be enough to satisfy this itch? Twice? Every other Wednesday for the foreseeable future? lol

So many thoughts in my head

 

[JaysonFromMars]

I get that. But as someone who strayed for that exact reason, it’s VERY hard to stop. And if the sex is good, people often catch feels and it gets complicated. Just be careful.

That said… if you should find yourself in Connecticut any time soon…

 

[JaysonFromMars]

The word "curious" doesn't quite cut it anymore.

It feels selfish to admit it. But my tank runs dry and I am a little tired of doing the chasing.
I don't remember it being this way. I had energy in spades. Maybe I'm getting older.

More and more I find myself remembering a friend from my youth. We'd play basketball, rode bikes, or swam in the mornings, and in the afternoons we'd raid his parents' refrigerator lunch and he'd feed me his thick cock for dessert. Sometimes he'd make me get him off with my mouth, sometimes he'd lower my shorts and take me over the couch, or on his bed, or pressed against the wall... I never told him no. It was completely one sided, and I loved it.

I don't need to give. I have plenty of sources for that, but I have a growing craving to be in the other side of that coin again, to feel wanted and lusted after. I want to give someone pleasure and hear their appreciative grunts as they cum because of me.

Would one time be enough to satisfy this itch? Twice? Every other Wednesday for the foreseeable future? lol

So many thoughts in my head

Also, is that you in your avatar? Because… YUM!!!!

 

[Uncut1969]

Being in a sexless marriage I know what you mean!

 

[sftopbottom]

This is an honest and heartfelt question. I can tell you are in a needful place. That's why I first started looking outside of my marriages. I was tired of doing all the work, all the time, whether that was the physical act of fucking, or initiating sexual intimacy. Guys made
me feel wanted. They pursued me. They acted excited and wanted me. It was just different. There were also take-charge guys who would let me be more passive. I went through a long period of just wanting to be fucked or serviced. I of course learned that there are also women who behave this way, who will let you be passive and who will do more of "the work". That's just atypical. I was not really "attracted" to men early on, in the traditional head-turning sense, just lured by the convenient and easy sex. Then, they grew on me and are pretty much all I want now, even though attractive women still turn my head. I'm just not into the traditional bedroom roles of man/woman. It was funny, I switched to men for a few years, then fell into bed with a woman. She was like, "You didn't really seem into it until I climbed on top." Yeah - that's about right. I had simply become used to taking a more passive role, so "directing" the action was no longer natural.

 

[Dreamer110]

This is an honest and heartfelt question. I can tell you are in a needful place. That's why I first started looking outside of my marriages. I was tired of doing all the work, all the time, whether that was the physical act of fucking, or initiating sexual intimacy. Guys made
me feel wanted. They pursued me. They acted excited and wanted me. It was just different. There were also take-charge guys who would let me be more passive. I went through a long period of just wanting to be fucked or serviced. I of course learned that there are also women who behave this way, who will let you be passive and who will do more of "the work". That's just atypical. I was not really "attracted" to men early on, in the traditional head-turning sense, just lured by the convenient and easy sex. Then, they grew on me and are pretty much all I want now, even though attractive women still tuen my head.

Very nice.

 

[spraybomb13]

This is an honest and heartfelt question. I can tell you are in a needful place. That's why I first started looking outside of my marriages. I was tired of doing all the work, all the time, whether that was the physical act of fucking, or initiating sexual intimacy. Guys made
me feel wanted. They pursued me. They acted excited and wanted me. It was just different. There were also take-charge guys who would let me be more passive. I went through a long period of just wanting to be fucked or serviced. I of course learned that there are also women who behave this way, who will let you be passive and who will do more of "the work". That's just atypical. I was not really "attracted" to men early on, in the traditional head-turning sense, just lured by the convenient and easy sex. Then, they grew on me and are pretty much all I want now, even though attractive women still turn my head. I'm just not into the traditional bedroom roles of man/woman. It was funny, I switched to men for a few years, then fell into bed with a woman. She was like, "You didn't really seem into it until I climbed on top." Yeah - that's about right. I had simply become used to taking a more passive role, so "directing" the action was no longer natural.

OMG, this is exactly how I felt when I first began playing with men. I loved the feeling of being desired and pursued. Eventually it all became too much and I went back to dating women, but would occasionally see a guy. Now, years later, I find myself in that situation again where I feel lonely and undesired and want to find someone to pursue me. The fantasy of being an older guys "wife" has been consuming me more and more!

 

[sftopbottom]

Yes, and then you get what you asked for and karma hits. The guy has expectations and stuff...wants you to put out and give up that ass every night. Suddenly you know how the women you lived with might have felt. I mean, you're not just a hole.

You may start to see the guy as too needy and selfish, even though that's what drew you to him. You may start to withhold sex as a means of self defense. He may start to look for options. You may drift apart. You may open up tour relationship.

This is one danger of queer people modeling their relations after heteronormative relationships.

Variety can be a big part of wanting to try a sex with a new gender, but then coupling up and behaving like your parents' marriage ruins it because you actually continue to want variety. I know so many gay men (who've never married a woman) wanting to get married and once they do, the couple act like straight couples. What's the point? To each their own, but "been there, hated that."

This is why I think open relationships are best. Nobody can be everything for anybody. Nobody. But it is possible for smart people to get caring and love in one place, and affection in many places.

This is just my experience, and I realize the universe contains a multitude of different people and we all have unique experiences and we see the world through our own particular lenses.
Love to all.

 

[sonicor]

This is an honest and heartfelt question. I can tell you are in a needful place. That's why I first started looking outside of my marriages. I was tired of doing all the work, all the time, whether that was the physical act of fucking, or initiating sexual intimacy. Guys made
me feel wanted. They pursued me. They acted excited and wanted me. It was just different. There were also take-charge guys who would let me be more passive. I went through a long period of just wanting to be fucked or serviced. I of course learned that there are also women who behave this way, who will let you be passive and who will do more of "the work". That's just atypical. I was not really "attracted" to men early on, in the traditional head-turning sense, just lured by the convenient and easy sex. Then, they grew on me and are pretty much all I want now, even though attractive women still turn my head. I'm just not into the traditional bedroom roles of man/woman. It was funny, I switched to men for a few years, then fell into bed with a woman. She was like, "You didn't really seem into it until I climbed on top." Yeah - that's about right. I had simply become used to taking a more passive role, so "directing" the action was no longer natural.

Thank you for that. It's honest and I appreciate it. Right now it is just an itch I need to scratch. A long memory that nags at me to revisit from a long time ago to see if it would still feel the same.

 

[sonicor]

The guy has expectations and stuff...wants you to put out and give up that ass every night. Suddenly you know how the women you lived with might have felt. I mean

This was actually very hot to read.. haha..

The idea of embracing it full time enough to get here though is not in the cards.. I have responsibilities and other partners whom I am not ready to let go off yet.

If only..

Thanks for sharing with me.

 

[JoeSmith2022]

That's just what I feel. I want someone to crave my touch, my holes, just to really want to be with me as often as possible.

 

[sonicor]

That's just what I feel. I want someone to crave my touch, my holes, just to really want to be with me as often as possible.

Exactly.. so hot. No preamble.. nothing rough either, just confident hands touching you.. lubing you up without asking. Taking what is his...