TN_Vixen
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Hunny, I'm a single mom and have been divorced from my ex since my son was 2 yrs old. He is 7 now and is completely and totallly well-adjusted, loved tremendously, has the biggest heart of any of the boys in his class or on any of his teams. He had to learn how to tackle the other boys in football because he "didn't want to hurt them." smile. I got married very young and my 7 yr marriage was a disaster, he was completely controlling and suffocating. When I got out of my marriage, I partied a lot, went out almost every other night for about 6 months. Now, I go out once a month or so and feel better for it. You are not irresponsible because you took time to yourself. You are allowed that. Hell, my parents would get us kids (all four) a babysitter almost every weekend while they went to one function or another, and I was even sent to spent 2 weeks a year at my grandparents house - which, of course I wanted to go- but that's all part of it. I talk to my son about things, too. Last weekend I went somewhere and I told him that I wanted a little time with my friends. I asked him if he enjoys spending time with his friends, and he said "yes," and I said "Do you want mommy around while you're hanging out with them?" and he laughed, and said "No way, Momma," and I laughed and said, "Well it's sorta the same thing, plus we'll be going places you aren't allowed." And he was cool with it. Just as long as you know you are giving your all to your child and not in any way neglecting them for your own needs and wants, it's all good. 
My younger sis is very quick to judge me about the things I do in life, but she believes in her way and I believe in mine. I believe she secretly abhors my method and would take over my life if she could because she thinks I do it badly, but hey! She has her opinion and I ignore it. laughing... don't get upset because one person voiced her opinion. You can't change what someone else thinks, so you might as well not get so pissed off about that. Just accept the fact she has a different viewpoint and thank her for her concern, and go on doing what YOU feel you should do for yourself and your daughter. People are too sensitive these days. It's YOUR life, hunny.
My younger sis is very quick to judge me about the things I do in life, but she believes in her way and I believe in mine. I believe she secretly abhors my method and would take over my life if she could because she thinks I do it badly, but hey! She has her opinion and I ignore it. laughing... don't get upset because one person voiced her opinion. You can't change what someone else thinks, so you might as well not get so pissed off about that. Just accept the fact she has a different viewpoint and thank her for her concern, and go on doing what YOU feel you should do for yourself and your daughter. People are too sensitive these days. It's YOUR life, hunny.
