The LGBT rambling thread!

[DustyWolfe]

I wrote this poem a few years ago when I was in the process of coming out to some of my friends. What prompted me to write this goes back to the label issue. I don't like labels despite the fact that I brought up the topic earlier. I was just curious what others though of the labels.


Who am I?
I'm a woman
Doesn't that explain it?
Perhaps I should make it clear
I'm a woman who loves women
And a lover of women am I
A love for my own is pure
A pure love not needing description
I'm not anything but me and if you must--
If you must label me then call me-
Call me by what society deems me--
For I am a lesbian
I have pride in myself and my culture
I take pride in being a lover of the sensual
Of the soul, of the beauty that we call woman.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Who am I?
I'm a woman
Doesn't that explain it?
Perhaps I should make it clear
I'm a woman who loves women
And a lover of women am I
A love for my own is pure
A pure love not needing description
I'm not anything but me and if you must--
If you must label me then call me-
Call me by what society deems me--
For I am a lesbian
I have pride in myself and my culture
I take pride in being a lover of the sensual
Of the soul, of the beauty that we call woman.

This I think is beautiful

 

[DustyWolfe]

Thank you Nessus. I love to write.

 

[DustyWolfe]

You can't type what a lesbian is. We're anything and everything. The one thing in common is that
we make love to other women. So give up trying to limit us. Amanda Bearse, actor, television director

 

[spectral]

Re: Re: Being bi

Spectral,
Thanks for posting, it's good to hear from a bi male for some perspective.

When I was first coming out I came out as bi and it was hard. Alot of lesbians gave me a really hard time. Though, there were others that openly accepted me and helped me to find my way through my sexuality and I eventually learned that I was a lesbian.

Dusty

My friends have all been really supportive, so I count myself blessed. I suppose I'm still in the throes of coming out; I haven't talkd about it with my family yet, but I usually wear a rainbow bracelet, so if my acquaintances wonder, it's pretty obvious.

Somehow, though, I just don't feel sure...

You know how I know the Chippendale dancers are gay? They have six-packs. It's impossible to get well-defined abs without sucking cock.

No, it doesn't work for girls.

-- Margaret Cho

spectral

 

[StormySkies]

Hey, anyone is welcome to post on this thread. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us Amy.


I think it is a shame that members of a community that love women equally should treat bisexual women like that. We're all about love and what feels right. Some women like to be with both and as a lesbian community we should embrace the bisexual women.
Get a grip people

btw Amy, I love your quote!

Why thankyou Dustygrrl...I like your quote also. And thanks for the welcome. I will try and look in on this thread often.

Hugs,
Amy

 

[MaddyBaby]

Okay all of my ladies...

I tried this on another thread, but it got bumped down so fast that I am sure hardly anyone caught it. I was talking about a movie called "Better Than Chocolate" A movie about two lesbians.. one coming out to her mother, and lots of other stuff... it's a really romantic one and kind of a cheery side to lesbianism, instead of such a negetive view. I think it's awesome...if you haven't seen it... try to find it!

Mads

 

[spectral]

Re: Okay all of my ladies...

I tried this on another thread, but it got bumped down so fast that I am sure hardly anyone caught it. I was talking about a movie called "Better Than Chocolate" A movie about two lesbians.. one coming out to her mother, and lots of other stuff... it's a really romantic one and kind of a cheery side to lesbianism, instead of such a negetive view. I think it's awesome...if you haven't seen it... try to find it!

Mads

<grin> A cool movie. Origin of such classic songs as "Don't Break my Tender, Transgender Heart". When my friend went to see it in the theater, two thirds of the people there were lesbian couples on dates...

Also recommended: "But I'm a Cheerleader"

spectral

 

[DustyWolfe]

Amy, thank you. I hope to see you around on this thread from time to time then.

Maddy, I thought Better than Chocolate was an excellent movie. I was feeling like the one girl when I came out to my parents tonight.. I mean damn..... lol

Spectral, yes... But I'm a Cheerleader was funny. So many parents think that they can make their kids straight...

Heh.. Think I'm gonna go watch All Over Me...
*hugs everyone*

 

[DustyWolfe]

I came out to my family

*takes a deep breath* I came out to my family tonight. My brother took it pretty well and said he had "suspected" that I was gay.
Mom and dad are in denial. They tried to convince me that I am not gay, that I am just not attracted to men because I was raped. They are saying that I am just really confused and that I need to take some time to work it out.
LOL.. They are just going to have to learn how to accept it because I'm a lesbian and there are no two ways about it.
Don't get me wrong, mom and dad they said they would accept me no matter what.. So that is good.

Has anyone else had wierd experiences with coming out?

 

[JenJ]

Re: I came out to my family

*takes a deep breath* I came out to my family tonight. My brother took it pretty well and said he had "suspected" that I was gay.
Mom and dad are in denial. They tried to convince me that I am not gay, that I am just not attracted to men because I was raped. They are saying that I am just really confused and that I need to take some time to work it out.
LOL.. They are just going to have to learn how to accept it because I'm a lesbian and there are no two ways about it.
Don't get me wrong, mom and dad they said they would accept me no matter what.. So that is good.

Has anyone else had wierd experiences with coming out?

They will come around in time I'm sure of that and you know I'm here for you to talk to about it. I just wish that I'd have known what to say when you were telling them besides going all quiet on you. Yes your brother took it much better so I think they will come around when they have had time to process it.


I'm sure I'll have a wierd expericence to tell you soon as I will be coming out soon to my biological mother.

 

[DustyWolfe]

They will come around in time I'm sure of that and you know I'm here for you to talk to about it. I just wish that I'd have known what to say when you were telling them besides going all quiet on you. Yes your brother took it much better so I think they will come around when they have had time to process it.

I'm sure I'll have a wierd expericence to tell you soon as I will be coming out soon to my biological mother.

Just having you on the phone with me and encouraging me before I made the call was a huge help. If my friends hadn't come and kidnapped me I would have been more prepared with something witty to say lol. My brother is very open minded. I think that the fact that his best friend growing up was gay helped him to be understanding with me.

Hehe.. Wanna do it on three way? Just kidding. I hope that it goes well. I am sure your mother will be accepting even if she doesn't understand. I mean... Well you know what I mean.

Thanks again for your support hon.

 

[april-wine]

One of the most amazing ladies on Lit gave me this advice, I hope she doesn't mind that I pass it on to you.....

How to tell?
Eyes up and steady.
No blushing.
No evasions.

Speak your truth clearly, openly.

This is great advice......good luck Dusty

 

[JenJ]

that is great adivce April and Dusty it just might come down to that she's had a lot of things that i've told her to deal with lately so time will tell.

 

[DustyWolfe]

One of the most amazing ladies on Lit gave me this advice, I hope she doesn't mind that I pass it on to you.....

How to tell?
Eyes up and steady.
No blushing.
No evasions.

Speak your truth clearly, openly.

This is great advice......good luck Dusty

I think I can manage all of that. Though tonight on the phone I know I could not have. Mostly because my mom kept asking me how I knew I was gay. She was basically wanting to know if I've had sex with a woman and I just kept saying that I know I was... That I have been with women. My face was so red, not out of shame but because I'm not a very blunt person...
I can laugh about it and have a wine cooler now though.

 

[DustyWolfe]

that is great adivce April and Dusty it just might come down to that she's had a lot of things that i've told her to deal with lately so time will tell.

The offer stands for as long as you might need me. I would be glad to help you in anyway that I am able to. Yes, she has had some pretty heavy things to process but at least this thing has to do with your happiness

 

[JenJ]

The offer stands for as long as you might need me. I would be glad to help you in anyway that I am able to. Yes, she has had some pretty heavy things to process but at least this thing has to do with your happiness

Thank you very much I know the offer will stand. And your right it has to do with my happiness so it should be easy to tell her just waiting until she has processed some of the other stuff better.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Yes, I think that waiting till she has processed things is a good idea. I know that things will work out

 

[JenJ]

I know that it will work out everything has a way of working it's self out in time.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Re: I came out to my family

*takes a deep breath* I came out to my family tonight. Has anyone else had wierd experiences with coming out?

I had no family so I discovered myself but you are brave to this, it must be difficult, you of course have our support and love

 

[DustyWolfe]

Yes JenJ, you are right

Thank you Nessus, that means a lot to me. It really does. I just wish that I had found this place years ago. It's been a great outlet for me and my writing.

 

[JenJ]

You were brave today and I am very proud of you Dusty.

 

[DustyWolfe]

You were brave today and I am very proud of you Dusty.

*blushes brightly* Thank you JenJ... I sure didn't feel it. It took every bit of courage in my body to tell them. It's over with now though. Boy am I relieved...

 

[JenJ]

*blushes brightly* Thank you JenJ... I sure didn't feel it. It took every bit of courage in my body to tell them. It's over with now though. Boy am I relieved...

Your welcome Dusty I could tell it took every ounce of courage to tell them but you did it and it's over know so be proud of yourself.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Your welcome Dusty I could tell it took every ounce of courage to tell them but you did it and it's over know so be proud of yourself.

Yep, I'm proud of myself.. Makes me want to go to a pride rally *grins*