The Psychology of Pegging

[Goldenfinger]

The best way to resolve situations is by, respectfully, talking about it.

Talking, to me, is an opportunity Ro learn something new about someone else.

There’s nothing here to resolve.

 

[emme8]

I enjoy being penetrated by Bob's cock, so why couldn't he enjoy being penetrated by mine( even if mine is a plastic strap on).

He doesn't think less of me, why would I think less of him?

Would I tell people? No, well maybe that one kinky friend. But I don't regularly share information about my sex life to friends in person. (I don't want to make them uncomfortable or jealous or whatever)

Would his friends think less of me if he told them I cum hard from anal? I know my kinky friend wouldn't think less of him.

 

[Goldenfinger]

If I feel "that [a woman] thinks less of me now than before, it makes me more inclined to imagine her pegging me than imagining more regular sexual thoughts. Does that make sense to anyone else here?"

not really but let me give it a shot. You are more inclined to have thoughts about being pegged by a woman who doesn’t really like you. That’s because you wouldn’t want someone you liked to peg you because you think they will think less of you. The problem is the woman that doesn’t like you probably won’t be pegging you but the one that does might.

I kind of understand. You need to get past the part about what other people think.

 

[Goldenfinger]

As an aside, I don't think that a man could leak during a prostate exam without having sexual thoughts.

I know a little about this medical stuff, I was a Doc in my past life. There are certain thing that they check the prostate for. Sometimes the need a sample of prostate fluid. It’s not sexual, the doctor pushes on the prostate a the expresses fluid. There’s a little more to it but you can look it up. You can leak prostate fluid if you take a big crap. Google it, it can’t hurt to know about your body especially your prostate.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I think if I picked and random pegging gif or comment from the forum (apart from this thread) that it'd involved (or hint at) degradation or humiliation. Even when done in loving relationship I do think a change occurs after the act. A woman will now love you in a different way... she can still love you and think you less of a man. Of course not all woman are the same. But most would think "wtf". Even Goldenfinger admits that he's in a female led relationship... his wife tells her friends about pegging him (I assume) without asking him.

context. You can make it how you want it. It can be flr, domme/sub, role reversal or just having fun. I can tell you we started out just having fun. Can there be degrading or humiliation. There can be. I don’t feel that my wife degrades me. Humiliation is in the eye of the beholder. A lot of our play would be role reversal. If she’s pegging me and asks me if I like and want her cock or what ever, is the degrading or humiliating? I’ve said those same words to her. The interesting thing is my responses are similar to what she’d say and Vice versa. I actually believe it has brought us closer together and I understand her better and she me. But pegging just scratches the surface.

 

[Goldenfinger]

Could be Sub/Domme or role reversal. Or just having fun. I Think psychology is when you overthink things. Sometimes turning right is just turning right.

 

[Sissyboi44]

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That would be so hot! Where do I sign up for this?

 

[Lily Peg]

That would be so hot! Where do I sign up for this?

Agreed! https://forum.literotica.com/attachments/raw-jpg.2212653/

 

[Goldenfinger]

I don’t know what the phycology of pegging is. I’d say it can be different for everyone. it’s different for the pegger than the peggee. It can be different each time. For my wife it’s visual it’s dominance a little humiliation and playfulness. For me there is a visual but it’s different. I think my wife is sexy, the pov is different on the bottom. There is a eroticism in submitting but a lot of it is physical.

 

[Cardinal]

Why would men not enjoy anal? Do women enjoy anal? Why would it be different?
Anal stimulation is anal stimulation, regardless of gender.

 

[Lily Peg]

Why would men not enjoy anal? Do women enjoy anal? Why would it be different?
Anal stimulation is anal stimulation, regardless of gender.

Some women do enjoy anal but not all from my experience. More men enjoy it due to having their prostate stimulated and milked. There's the difference.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I have noticed that my wife does the things I’ve done to her and does them in a similar way. She has pegged me in all the different positions I’ve had sex with her in. She has had me suck on her strapon in all the different way she has sucked on my cock. She bought an ejaculating strapon. It gave her a end point. Her cock never goes soft and knows no end. She chooses an end point usually after the high point of an orgasm for me. With the ejaculating strapon she chooses the same end point but she does the same thing I do. She pushes in all the way and cums, when she cums inside me she does it in pulses like I would so I can feel her squinting inside me. Then she pulls out a little and the back in a few times like I do to milk more cum out. Then pushes back in and lays on top of me and we kiss for a bit.

We do have a Femdom overtone to our activities but that’s personal preference.

 

[sarod]

As someone who loves being fucked by my girlfriend with her own all-natural pegging device, I have given the subject a great deal of thought. I have come to no conclusions but I do not intend to stop. Straight, gay, bi, whatever I am!

you are so lucky

 

[Escierto]

you are so lucky

Thank you! I am lucky and I try to take care of her.

 

[Luganis]

I have noticed that my wife does the things I’ve done to her and does them in a similar way. She has pegged me in all the different positions I’ve had sex with her in. She has had me suck on her strapon in all the different way she has sucked on my cock. She bought an ejaculating strapon. It gave her a end point. Her cock never goes soft and knows no end. She chooses an end point usually after the high point of an orgasm for me. With the ejaculating strapon she chooses the same end point but she does the same thing I do. She pushes in all the way and cums, when she cums inside me she does it in pulses like I would so I can feel her squinting inside me. Then she pulls out a little and the back in a few times like I do to milk more cum out. Then pushes back in and lays on top of me and we kiss for a bit.

We do have a Femdom overtone to our activities but that’s personal preference.

You are ready for the real thing. Would you try maybe a feminine trans if your wife would tell you to?

 

[Goldenfinger]

You are ready for the real thing. Would you try maybe a feminine trans if your wife would tell you to?

My wife is very jealous and we Are monogamous. I get what your saying, but our sex life was built over decades and she is the only one I’m submissive with.

 

[Vitriolhack]

As someone who loves being fucked by my girlfriend with her own all-natural pegging device, I have given the subject a great deal of thought. I have come to no conclusions but I do not intend to stop. Straight, gay, bi, whatever I am!

Do we really need to associate the act with a category of sexual attraction?

If it feels good, it feels good.

Enjoy it,

 

[Vitriolhack]

I have noticed that my wife does the things I’ve done to her and does them in a similar way. She has pegged me in all the different positions I’ve had sex with her in. She has had me suck on her strapon in all the different way she has sucked on my cock. She bought an ejaculating strapon. It gave her a end point. Her cock never goes soft and knows no end. She chooses an end point usually after the high point of an orgasm for me. With the ejaculating strapon she chooses the same end point but she does the same thing I do. She pushes in all the way and cums, when she cums inside me she does it in pulses like I would so I can feel her squinting inside me. Then she pulls out a little and the back in a few times like I do to milk more cum out. Then pushes back in and lays on top of me and we kiss for a bit.

We do have a Femdom overtone to our activities but that’s personal preference.

Sounds like a healthy sex life!

 

[Luganis]

My wife is very jealous and we Are monogamous. I get what your saying, but our sex life was built over decades and she is the only one I’m submissive with.

That’s the best. Congratulations

 

[Goldenfinger]

That’s the best. Congratulations

Unfortunately it has caused issue in the past. But everyone has their own unique set of boundaries.

 

[Cardinal]

Maybe the psychology of pegging is that it just feels good to get fucked by a dildo and if it’s your wife who is doing it to you that it’s even better! Hopefully with no judgment

 

[Goldenfinger]

Maybe the psychology of pegging is that it just feels good to get fucked by a dildo and if it’s your wife who is doing it to you that it’s even better! Hopefully with no judgment

A long time ago I must of said something or gave my wife the feeling that I might be questioning our activities. Maybe she was being a good Domme and being reaffirming. Anyways She said, “This is just OUR sex”.

 

[Cardinal]

A long time ago I must of said something or gave my wife the feeling that I might be questioning our activities. Maybe she was being a good Domme and being reaffirming. Anyways She said, “This is just OUR sex”.

Love this, lucky man, heathy sexual relationship

 

[Ash999]

it is unlikely that you don’t feel pleasure by receiving a BJ. The same applies to being rimmed.

If you enjoy being rimmed you most likely will enjoy being fingered, and receive a prostate massage.

In all those practices, society suggests that you must be homosexual, because you enjoy your exit too.

Some women may lose respect of your masculinity. Others will consider an honor to trust them your vulnerability, because is exactly that what you’re offering, being vulnerable, being submissive during the practice , you’re exposing your ass making you vulnerable to the actions of someone else, which requires trust, the same trust that a woman must feel when she’s penetrated (specially the first time).

Letting you be vulnerable makes you gay or effeminate? I don’t think so. Embracing to have pleasure while being vulnerable is a signal of trust, not of inferiority (as some may consider by bottoming).

So if being fingered or massaged doesn’t make you “less of a man”, why being pegged by a woman would? Consider the dildo a bigger finger, you’re being fingered, and your prostate stimulated by something bigger.

Would it make you heterosexual if you only penetrate? You anally penetrate a woman’s ass and you’re hetero but you penetrate a man’s ass and you’re gay?

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In the case that you want to go one step further, consider that you’re blindfolded, and being pegged and your gf tells you that she will now use a new toy, and you’re now being penetrated by a flesh dildo, is there any difference? In your mind is still your gf who’s on TOP. Are you gay?

Is being gay to engage in sex with a man or to be attracted to the man’s figure or develop feelings, affection and love to a man?

Would it be gay to you engage in sex with an absolutely feminine TS if you think you’re being pegged (blindfolded or not)?

In my opinion, you can even enjoy to perform oral sex to a man and not be gay as long as you don’t have feelings or be capable of falling in love with a man…

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Would it make you straight if you’re who penetrates?
If you anally penetrate a woman you’re hetero, but if you penetrate a man you’re gay? Is there any difference between male and female rectums? Not at all.

Being pegged is a perfectly is just one more sexual practice, independent of your sex preference.

The only difference is who is TOP and who is BOTTOM. If being bottom makes you less than a man, then BOTTOMs are gay… I doubt that sex is so simple.

Being pegged by wife, GF or SO can make a man less of a TOP and more of a BOTTOM but Not less of a " man" and more 'effeminate' .

 

[Ash999]

1.If a man submits to Spanking it does not make him less of a man as both men and women possess buttocks and both genders can, get / submit to, a Spanking.
2.If a man gets pegged , still it does not make him a lesser male as both genders possess rectums and assholes and both can get sodomized.
3. If a man submits to a CBT [ COQ et BALLZ Torture] session it does not make him more effeminate as Women do Not possess male genitalia.
4. Similarly for Water Sports or Golden Showers both can urinate on each other.....or give each other enemas....
5. Face slapping is also gender neutral....but yes bitch slapping with an erect penis is done or can be done naturally only by a biological man [ a Domme with a strap on may bitch slap a male artificially]
6. Nipple torture is also gender neutral....
7. Even CFNM is balanced by CMNF.

So going down the rabbit hole of pigeonholing a pegging fetish is a no- brainer