Threesome

[AnnyMouse28]

My Situationship is very interested in a threesome. He has a female friend that will be in town in a few weeks and he asked if I was interested in him setting it up.

We have talked about a threesome before, in general terms. He knows I have a vague curiosity. Honestly, I never thought it would ever be anything more than talk.

He has had a few threesomes in the past. I always knew the only way I would, would be in a similar situation as this, a partner wanted to. Now I that this hypothetical might be a reality ...

Tell me more about your experience the first time you had a threesome. How did it happen? Did you have rules about what happened? Did anything happen that surprised you? Anything happen that you changed your mind about while it was happened? Any insight, advice, would be appreciated.

 

[milfylata]

I had a threesome some time back. I was a little anxious going into it. But a similar situation. A guy I was seeing had a childhood friend and they always had this fantasy. No amount of thinking can prepare you for the real deal. What I’d say is, make your boundaries clear and enjoy the ride. In my case, both guys were very gentle and understanding. Nothing was rushed into. If you trust your partner, have a good discussion and move ahead from there. Hope this helps.

 

[Jon1959]

My Situationship is very interested in a threesome. He has a female friend that will be in town in a few weeks and he asked if I was interested in him setting it up.

We have talked about a threesome before, in general terms. He knows I have a vague curiosity. Honestly, I never thought it would ever be anything more than talk.

He has had a few threesomes in the past. I always knew the only way I would, would be in a similar situation as this, a partner wanted to. Now I that this hypothetical might be a reality ...

Tell me more about your experience the first time you had a threesome. How did it happen? Did you have rules about what happened? Did anything happen that surprised you? Anything happen that you changed your mind about while it was happened? Any insight, advice, would be appreciated.

It’s very busy. Get a good nights sleep beforehand

 

[Jon1959]

My Situationship is very interested in a threesome. He has a female friend that will be in town in a few weeks and he asked if I was interested in him setting it up.

We have talked about a threesome before, in general terms. He knows I have a vague curiosity. Honestly, I never thought it would ever be anything more than talk.

He has had a few threesomes in the past. I always knew the only way I would, would be in a similar situation as this, a partner wanted to. Now I that this hypothetical might be a reality ...

Tell me more about your experience the first time you had a threesome. How did it happen? Did you have rules about what happened? Did anything happen that surprised you? Anything happen that you changed your mind about while it was happened? Any insight, advice, would be appreciated.

Sounds a delicious idea

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Sounds a delicious idea

Honestly it sounds . . . complicated.

 

[Wonderer67]

Honestly it sounds . . . complicated.

My first threesome was complicated.

A bit of a love triangle.

I was really in love with one woman I was in college with. Another frowns was really attracted to me but she was very clingy - and I am not a fan of that.

It happened organically, we all spent a lot of time together and it was not too much of a surprise. We were all a bit older in college and all doctored and in our mid/late twenties so we had a lot in common.

I was also sleeping with both of them although really in love with one of them.

We had a few threesomes. They were fun. But just awkward bravos of the feelings attached to it.

 

[Athrun_Zala]

We have a few FWB (some with her friends and some with mine). We sometimes go out and meet others. We always just view it as having fun. Don't put any feelings into it. We both learn something we like that we never thought of before and it the sex hotter (afterwards too).

 

[lowcollar]

The ultimate threesome for me would be a goth dominatrix (female or trans female), and a soft skin very feminine trans woman. I would, of course, be the bottom and ordered to be in servitude all day. I have never had the opportunity.

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Well this is no longer a concern. The friend is no longer going to be in the area.

 

[joepiko]

Well this is no longer a concern. The friend is no longer going to be in the area.

I think you should reevaluate. I met a woman once who worked for a friend who gave me a set of rules.
1. The woman should always be the one who chooses the third party. Male or female, or whatever….
2. The people should all know each other. Unless strangers with unknown hygiene habits are your thing.
3. Have fun, don’t be too serious, laugh and play. It’s not work.
4. Don’t get to feeling lonely if two of the people engage, reach out and touch and caress. It is ALL about having a good time.

Have fun for sure, and keep us informed of developments.

 

[write_or_wrong]

I have enjoyed several of these as a single guy playing with a married couple. One main thing in common with all of them was lots of email conversations where we got very specific about likes, dislikes, and hard boundaries. When we finally met in person, it was very helpful knowing that we were on the same page and that any new questions could be freely asked. Some lasted a year or so, one lasted 5 years. All but one drifted away because life got in the way. The most important prerequisite is the strength of the couple's relationship before adding the outside influence.

 

[Britva415]

I think the best threesome is the one where there aren't two people who are already a couple. Maybe casual FWBs at most, but not a committed, long term couple.

One person acts as a hinge and brings two of their other casual fuckbuddies together. I think this is ideal.

Yes, I have experienced this both ways. No, I was not the hinge

 

[naughtycouple17jt]

definetly agree with that communication and trust are key

 

[magicalmoments]

I get the feeling that the OP was talking about a FMF 3'sum. Could be wrong. All of my experience of 3'sums is of the MFM or MMF variety. The fundamental rules I would suggest are:
1. The female is the one who always selects the partners.
2. Stick to strangers met through adult contact websites. No sense ruining existing friendships if things go wrong.
3. Always use condoms.
4. Stay sober. If you need to get drunk in order to go through with it you shouldn't be indulging.
5. Make sure no-one is feeling left out. This is the responsibility of all 3 of you. But at the same time if one of the 3 wants some time out and just watch the other two this should be respected.