timid

[fearfull]

I am a very timid young bi sub but have found no good r/l dom. I just want to get to know my dom before I meet him. I am a sub that knows what she wants with a very open mind, but hates chocking and humiliation.

Any dom who thinks they can show me a true dom/sub relationship pm or im me.

 

[fearfull]

bbw

I am a white BBW with ddd, I stand 5'6", short brown hair, blue eyes.

 

[petcindy]

try my Master he will train you and use you he is on here retfirefighter is his nick on here

 

[fearfull]

i think i will

try my Master he will train you and use you he is on here retfirefighter is his nick on here

I think I will try my hand as long as he lets us play alone for him. I like being watched, when I am playing with other women, by my master.

 

[petcindy]

are you owned?

 

[fearfull]

no, anyone who has tried failed because they were not ready for my kind of person.

 

[ghngoku]

i sent u a pm.

 

[DarkBishop]

If everyone Dominant who has attempted to trained you has failed, could it be you truly don't want to be trained. I have found in my experiences that submissives will go out of their way to help their Dom train them. They crave the training. Do you crave the training fearful?


:caning:

 

[RawHumor]

no, anyone who has tried failed because they were not ready for my kind of person.

My kind of person?

What does that mean?

 

[ShyMystica]

I am not sure if this is what Fearful feels, but this is why my past Doms have failed me and why I am timid to find one.

Most people just assume that being a Dom is about sexual aggressiveness with emotional and mental abuse. For me, while I am still new to this lifestyle, I can honestly say that THAT kind of Dom is not right for me. Plus I am a beginner, so to come at a timid sub so strongly just isn't going to work. I know I have submissive tendencies, but I have been broken down by so many people that if a Dom comes at me with that kind if approach, they will always fail, because it will result with me sobbing and hiding in a corner.

Perhaps it is the same for Fearful...perhaps she has been broken down too many times that she also shies away from such aggressive Doms. And I know that there are other types of Doms, but the majority lay within that aggressive field.

I strongly desire to submit to someone, but with such horrible experiences I can't bare to even try. But when you have such strong desires, and have been constantly left abused by either inexperienced Doms or ones that just don't give a fuck, you are left to feel fearful of all Doms, but also your own submissiveness...to feel that it is wrong.

I can't help but feel that this is also where Fearful is coming from. It isn't that she doesn't want to submit or that she craves the training, but because she is fearful from past experiences.

*shrugs shyly*

Hell, I would love for a Dom to prove me wrong and show me that there are more than abusive, arrogant, aggressive, mentally and emotionally abusive Doms...that they are ones that are tender and really know what they are doing and will treasure my submissiveness instead of abusing it like most of the impostors that usually flood the forums.

 

[fearfull]

ShyMystica is very right with the exception of I havent had many try. I think 5 to 7. I only met 1 that wouldnt work because they were a timid dom. I want trained & owned but with so many vicious doms out there it scares the subs that have some knoledge of what they want & deteres the ones that dont.

 

[DarkBishop]

ShyMystica seems to be very intuitive.

 

[fearfull]

I wish more doms would at the very least read this. They would see what a lot of subs are like. But most doms that I have met wouldnt care anyhow.

 

[DarkBishop]

What gives you the indication that Dominants are not reading this fearfull?

 

[fearfull]

I did not say no dom`s read it I know some do but not too many is all I was saying. I have personally run accross a few that did not understand the little "control" subs do have. If they would have read something like this thread then they might have been great doms.

 

[fearfull]

I know I asked a couple of the ones I had.

 

[Cinner]

I tend to agree with the need for more moderation from some Doms. I have met many persons on this site and I've begun to feel that some of them are themselves desperate to hook up or to get off on someone. They do not take the time to get to know the sub even if they do pause to ask what she likes.

I've found that even if you say that you're a beginner they want a lot from you right off the bat and are often not willing to compromise on a softer start. This makes me wonder what they will be like in a full-blown relationship. My conclusion is usually that it would not be worth my while to find out so I just move on.

That said though, I have met some intelligent, considerate, experienced dominant men here who are into the lifestyle but not at the expense of decency; so you should keep looking. You should probably move around a bit - try some of the other fora - The Playground and the Amateur Pic sections are excellent places in which to meet people. I have been very pleasantly surprised when some of these persons have sent me exploratory PMs.

 

[lustcussan]

thankyou fearfull. I get what your saying i thought dom was uncaring but now i feel maybe a master is there to give his sub what she desires to be.

 

[ShyMystica]

thankyou fearfull. I get what your saying i thought dom was uncaring but now i feel maybe a master is there to give his sub what she desires to be.

A true Dom is not uncaring, in fact they are the complete opposite. From my many discussions with real Doms I have come to the conclusion that most of the people on this site are fakes. Basically they just see subs as an easy target to get their personal satisfaction. They also, since they are fakes, presume that the stereotypes and hardcore traits of dominating are what make a Dom. How wrong they are.

http://i298.photobucket.com/albums/mm246/cynical_barbidoll/bondage-1.jpg

A friend linked this to me, and it definitely explained a lot. I hope it helps you guys understand that a Dom is not as horrid as most of the people here would make you believe. A true Dom is caring, sympathetic, intelligent and always alert as to what the sub yearns for. His techniques are skillful and his needs, while important, do not lack any substance for that of the subs' needs. Deprivation, humiliation and orgasm denial may be things that subs desire, but a true Dom will take the time to take things as slow as a sub needs it to be. And at the end of the day, a true Dom can be relied upon to hold you in a sweet embrace while you recover from his skillful work.

 

[fearfull]

thanks

Thank you ShyMystica. You have added what needed to be added. Now all we can hope for is to have more Doms understand.

 

[William2244]

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she is timid but beautiful... it shows in her profile pic