to get her naked?

[banemalar]

how do i come around to asking her to strip for me? not persay stripping as in seductive removing but i would just like to see her naked most i have seen is just her nipples by moniter light when i am kissing them. and i have seen her bush breifly
how would i go about asking her this? i just would like to see her body

 

[Eilan]

It may be a more complex issue than you might think. Lots of women are so insecure about their bodies that they aren't comfortable allowing their SO's to see them naked. It probably doesn't make a lot of sense to you, though. I don't have any qualms about letting my husband see me without my clothes on, but I also know that he gets exasperated when I go on the occasional "I hate my body" tirade.

If it's a body-image issue, then it's her problem, not yours, though it could negatively impact your relationship.

Talk to her. Let her know just how attractive she is to you. If she feels secure in that knowledge, then she might open up a bit. It won't happen overnight, though.

Good luck to both of you.

 

[banemalar]

yes i kno about the whole ladies feel not sure about their body i try to compesate with saying how over weight but doesnt usually work. well i havent even brought it up upon her i was just wondering if i should just try to undress in the light or have her undress then turn the lights on or if just asking her is even a question

 

[Tele2047]

I wouldn't start with full light, dim light maybe. What about morning sex? If you have the time then it'd probably be light out/enough to see her (more than the traditional before-bed sex at least).

 

[Eilan]

I wouldn't start with full light, dim light maybe. What about morning sex? If you have the time then it'd probably be light out/enough to see her (more than the traditional before-bed sex at least).

Mmmmm. . . morning sex.

I agree about the dim light (more than a computer monitor at least). Try a closet or a hallway light perhaps.

 

[banemalar]

haven't even had oral sex yet let alone sex. Just i want to see her full body she is a small girl with some baby fat nothing wrong at all but wears only jeans and regualr shirts that show nothing. i know she doesn't have big breast at all she is an A cup but i am not judging at all i dont care if i have bigger breast then her. but im sure i shouldn't say that to her.

 

[Private_Label]

how do i come around to asking her to strip for me? not persay stripping as in seductive removing but i would just like to see her naked most i have seen is just her nipples by moniter light when i am kissing them. and i have seen her bush breifly
how would i go about asking her this? i just would like to see her body

The phrase that interests me most is...

most i have seen is just her nipples by moniter light

Are you two sitting in front of a computer?

 

[Eilan]

haven't even had oral sex yet let alone sex.

Has she had sex (as in intercourse) before?

Just i want to see her full body she is a small girl with some baby fat nothing wrong at all but wears only jeans and regualr shirts that show nothing. i know she doesn't have big breast at all she is an A cup but i am not judging at all i dont care if i have bigger breast then her. but im sure i shouldn't say that to her.

Yeah. You definitely shouldn't be saying that to her, particularly if you want to see her naked.

 

[Eilan]

Are you two sitting in front of a computer?

I was wondering about this as well.

I have a computer in my bedroom, but we have a lamp that we use for mood lighting.

 

[banemalar]

well i have had sex, not with her and i am not sure about her.
but yes my computer is in my room and it is the only thing that illuminates the room when the lights are off.

would candles help or is that just cheesy

 

[Eilan]

well i have had sex, not with her and i am not sure about her.

Don't you think you should be asking her about stuff like this? I mean, if you want to see her naked and all, shouldn't you know if she's done anything like this before?

 

[banemalar]

well i am not planning on having sex with her yet and how would i go along asking her about her past boyfriends before i want to see her nude i know both times did not end in good terms and so it is a touchy matter i am not ment for this to happen tomarrow or anyhting but was wondering in all how to go about it would it matter if she has had sex before? is it that much diffrent

 

[Eilan]

would it matter if she has had sex before? is it that much diffrent

You don't have to know all the gory details, but you SHOULD know whether or not a potential sex partner has had sex before, at least for STD purposes.

I obviously can't speak for all women, but getting naked with a new partner for the first time mattered to ME back in my sexually inexperienced days, so whether or not it matters to YOU, it might matter to HER. (Assuming, of course, that she doesn't have experience.)

At any rate, some women are just a little more tentative than others. It's not good. It's not bad. It just IS.

THAT'S why you need to be talking to her and not us. If you can't TALK about getting naked with her, how do you expect to GET naked?

How do you approach the issue? Very carefully, because if she feels that you're putting pressure on her, it won't happen.

How old are you two, anyway?

 

[Tele2047]

To quote Bright Eyes - Lover I don't Have to Love:

I picked you out of a crowd and talked to you.

I said, "I like your shoes."
You said, "Thanks can I follow you?"
So it's up the stairs and out of view-
No prying eyes
I poured some wine
I asked your name, you asked the time...
Now it's two o'clock-
the club is closed and we're up the block
Your hands on me; pressing hard against your jeans
Your tongue in my mouth, trying to keep the words from coming out
You didn't care to know who else may have been you before

a) How old are you two?
b) How long have you been seeing each other?

It sounds like you just want to move too quickly. She'll get naked for you when she's ready, don't push it or (as Eilan said), it won't happen. Be patient, be supportive, make her feel special, and you'll get what you want eventually.

Oh and candles are good, just don't start a fire with them, that can kill the mood quickly

 

[MR.GGG]

Interesting thread. Nobody has asked yet so I will.

Are you two IN THE SAME ROOM or are you literally seeing her by the light of her monitor and her webcam??

I can't believe that any guy who has a girl in his bedroom and is fooling around would have to ask her to take more clothes off. They just COME OFF. I've never figured it out and I admit to NOTHING but when I was your age (my guess) and "fooling around", girls jeans and Tshirts just ended up in a pile on the floor. I can remember picking peices of bra and panties from between my teeth afterwards but I never ASKED her to take stuff off. That WOULD BE cheesy.

SO ... considering what I figure your answer will be... just type "Babe I think you're HOT. I want to see you get up on your chair in front of the camera and take everything off for me. And turn the lights on before you start."" Considering she's in Australia and you're in Idaho or something I wouldn't be too worried about diplomacy or "strip" protocols.

 

[SweetErika]

Ummm...is this the same girl you posted this about a few days ago regarding oral sex? If so, how did you MISS her body when you were "kissing the lips of her pussy"?

I'd echo if you don't know eachother well enough to have some idea of or talk about experience, or take your clothes off when you're together, it's best to wait until the relationship develops and you both are perfectly comfortable doing ALL of these things.

 

[banemalar]

we are 21 and 22 she is not in austrailla. i mean just whenever we are in my room the only light is emmitting from my moniter.

and i have kissed her lips before seeing her totally naked is that i undid her jeans and slid them down to her knees and then followed suit with her panties.

we have been seeing each other for about a month

 

[bisexplicit]

we have been seeing each other for about a month

If you have only been seeing eachother for about a month, are you sure she is comfortable with "getting naked" with you, yet?

 

[Dsee]

What is sex any way ....

Perhaps it is becaue of my perspective ... it has been a long time since I didn't know the difference ... but isn't taking your clothes off or having them taken off by your partner a part of sex? Isn't kissing a prelude to sex and therefore a part of it? Obviously having seen her nipple (by whaetever light) and her bush she has allowed that the process of experimenting toward the sexual act is under way.

If she weren't interested in sex, then I would hope she wouldn't be in your bedroom, and certainly not showing you, or allowing you to see her breast and bush!

It seems amazing that there is such a naievete about sex with all that has been published and so much that was discussed around the Monica Lewinski events with President Clinton. Oral sex for me is more intimate than intercourse, not sure why, but it is!

Finding the right cirsumstance and the right reason to be intimate (naked) for whatever purpose is a part of the mating game. There is no magic solution or formula to getting someone to take their clothes off ... it will happen when it is right! Hopefully for both of you!

Dave