To shave or not to shave...

[mbb308]

Ok, wondered if it was just me...but the thought of sex on the floor of a balcony had never crossed my mind. Course this is a girl who won't have sex on her period because it's dirty.

Mine, either....and Auntie Flo does nothing to lessen my repetoire, either....

 

[Freya]

Works for me....I like those who's minds work like mine....but I share their concern, too....

Aye! Problem with deep thinkers is that they think about everything and everyone...as least it seems I do at times.

 

[Freya]

Mine, either....and Auntie Flo does nothing to lessen my repetoire, either....

Nor mine...thank God or I'd not be sitting in the after glow today!

 

[mbb308]

Aye! Problem with deep thinkers is that they think about everything and everyone...as least it seems I do at times.

Either my mind is a dangerous neighborhood which I should never explore unaccompanied, or I cannot let it wander because it is too small to go out by itself....Thinking for me can be bigtime trouble, but I'm never at a loss for an opinion....oh well, it's mine, and what can I say???

 

[mbb308]

Nor mine...thank God or I'd not be sitting in the after glow today!

LOL - thanks for sharing, Dear!!!

 

[Freya]

Either my mind is a dangerous neighborhood which I should never explore unaccompanied, or I cannot let it wander because it is too small to go out by itself....Thinking for me can be bigtime trouble, but I'm never at a loss for an opinion....oh well, it's mine, and what can I say???

God you are eerily like me!

 

[Freya]

LOL - thanks for sharing, Dear!!!

Sorry had to brag a bit!

 

[mbb308]

Sorry had to brag a bit!

Read the Dizzy quote in my sig for my views on that one!!! He said all that needed saying!!! Wish it were my tale, too, but not last night, and it's too late to change it!!!

 

[Freya]

Funny..just before I read your response I was thinking of your sig! T'was an odd experience last night anyways.....my fwb said some things to me that I never thought I'd hear.

 

[mbb308]

Funny..just before I read your response I was thinking of your sig! T'was an odd experience last night anyways.....my fwb said some things to me that I never thought I'd hear.

Oh??? Good, or not so good??? I used to be given to bizarre comments while in the rack, or elsewhere, as the case may have been....

 

[Freya]

Well we've had the whole "I want a deeper relationship" while he is drunk thing...but I had effectively beat that nonsense right out of him. So since then he has religiously avoided any mention of words like love or passion or anything related....then last night he bloody well tells me he loves me....not love love but friends love....but it was still quite weird.

 

[mbb308]

Well we've had the whole "I want a deeper relationship" while he is drunk thing...but I had effectively beat that nonsense right out of him. So since then he has religiously avoided any mention of words like love or passion or anything related....then last night he bloody well tells me he loves me....not love love but friends love....but it was still quite weird.

Ah, men....at one time, I was so arrogant that I was going to write a "How To" book about men for you ladies, and retire on the proceeds. Now, I don't think I know all that much, and the idea is still in the cupboard - not even close to the back burner. There are many theories about this type of behavior in my mind alone. I don't get it, and I would donate a cojone to finding something worthwhile and open and honest and lasting....and then there are those (legions!!) who don't, and won't!!! Yeah, weird!!! Quite!!!

 

[Freya]

Well I always knew him and I had more feelings than either had expressed....kinda brewing under the surface. I just figured either we'd finally get off the pot on it, or it'd fizzle out and die...but now he's thrown a whole new facet into it....fucking men!

 

[mbb308]

Well I always knew him and I had more feelings than either had expressed....kinda brewing under the surface. I just figured either we'd finally get off the pot on it, or it'd fizzle out and die...but now he's thrown a whole new facet into it....fucking men!

If there is reincarnation, I wish to return as a lesbian....if you consider it, you won't ask why!!!

 

[Freya]

If there is reincarnation, I wish to return as a lesbian....if you consider it, you won't ask why!!!

Ya know at times the thought of lesbianism is really enticing...but I just love men too much to go that way. Hate them but I love them....pains in the asses that you guys are!

 

[mbb308]

Ya know at times the thought of lesbianism is really enticing...but I just love men too much to go that way. Hate them but I love them....pains in the asses that you guys are!

I would submit that my case is different, but I can tell you of women who might argue the point heatedly....it must be the jeans, I mean genes!!! Testostorone makes us dull-witted and confused. Women are littler and smarter, and men are bigger and dumber....did Darwin think this up???

 

[Freya]

I would submit that my case is different, but I can tell you of women who might argue the point heatedly....it must be the jeans, I mean genes!!! Testostorone makes us dull-witted and confused. Women are littler and smarter, and men are bigger and dumber....did Darwin think this up???

Not all men are dumber.....and trust me, not all women are smarter. Or littler in my case.

I just wish you or someone had written a how-to book on men...just when you think you've got them pegged they throw something new at ya! Trying to keep us on our toes maybe?

this guy...had everything running nice and smooth...sorted out the old "I love you when I'm drunk" thing....then he throws in a "I missed you", and a "I really like you" and now this crap. For the love of chocolate, he's the one who made up the rules...why can't he just follow the damn things.

 

[mbb308]

Not all men are dumber.....and trust me, not all women are smarter. Or littler in my case.

I just wish you or someone had written a how-to book on men...just when you think you've got them pegged they throw something new at ya! Trying to keep us on our toes maybe?

this guy...had everything running nice and smooth...sorted out the old "I love you when I'm drunk" thing....then he throws in a "I missed you", and a "I really like you" and now this crap. For the love of chocolate, he's the one who made up the rules...why can't he just follow the damn things.

Hey Darling, the woman makes the rules, and the man breaks them. This much I do know. When you think you know them, and he made them up, he's going to break them because he can't help himself. I've always contended that a lousy relationship is worse than none....and I quit fearing being by myself....but then, I've been this way for a while now....

And, yes, I have known some dumb women, like a couple who I dated rather recently....but I didn't settle, and I feel okay about me for that choice....

 

[Freya]

Hey Darling, the woman makes the rules, and the man breaks them. This much I do know. When you think you know them, and he made them up, he's going to break them because he can't help himself. I've always contended that a lousy relationship is worse than none....and I quit fearing being by myself....but then, I've been this way for a while now....

And, yes, I have known some dumb women, like a couple who I dated rather recently....but I didn't settle, and I feel okay about me for that choice....

Well we made the rules together on this...talked it out...but a few months back he knew I kinda would have gone for more and he chose not to...so I pulled back, stopped calling, let him set the pace (started looking elsewhere).....now that I've done that, he starts doing all this nicey nice crap. I guess I've become a challenge....so now he wants me. I fI cease to be a challenge, he'll start being like he was before. Bleh!! Confusing people the male gender are!

 

[mbb308]

Well we made the rules together on this...talked it out...but a few months back he knew I kinda would have gone for more and he chose not to...so I pulled back, stopped calling, let him set the pace (started looking elsewhere).....now that I've done that, he starts doing all this nicey nice crap. I guess I've become a challenge....so now he wants me. I fI cease to be a challenge, he'll start being like he was before. Bleh!! Confusing people the male gender are!

Men usually find women they might lose more attractive and desirable than women they "have". I've not done that to a woman in a jillion years....you know how long....you're right about the "challenge" idea....good choice of words....but that's not confusing, it's male "fear of losing the girl" behavior, and disgustingly typical. Comes with the gender. That I have seen before, and done before, once (and losing her was one of the best things that ever happened to me). My arrogance has often said, "Fine, you don't want me, there're more where you came from. Missy!!!" I make it a point not to act like that today, and I hate games and BS today, too.

 

[Freya]

Yeh, I'm not a games player either...and I honestly don't think he is. I think it's just he's scared to admit his feelings, and so when he thinks he might lose me, he pulls closer. His way of hanging on I guess.

 

[mbb308]

Yeh, I'm not a games player either...and I honestly don't think he is. I think it's just he's scared to admit his feelings, and so when he thinks he might lose me, he pulls closer. His way of hanging on I guess.

He may well not be, but this is a dance step he learned, and it may be the only one he knows. I suspect you have hit the nail squarely on its little head. You have my best wishes, and you know you can fuss in my ear any old time. Now, the choice is yours....do you want to dance, or not? That may be a hard question, too. But you don't have to figure it all out right now, either. Listen to your insides....mine rarely steer me wrong, and have saved me from my mind's best thinking many times....

 

[Freya]

He may well not be, but this is a dance step he learned, and it may be the only one he knows. I suspect you have hit the nail squarely on its little head. You have my best wishes, and you know you can fuss in my ear any old time. Now, the choice is yours....do you want to dance, or not? That may be a hard question, too. But you don't have to figure it all out right now, either. Listen to your insides....mine rarely steer me wrong, and have saved me from my mind's best thinking many times....

Yes, I'm just letting it slide.....keeping it as is. On a purely physical level he is one of the best sexual partners I have ever had...so I am not willing to give that up. We're doing the friend thing very well right now...and the sex is mind blowing...so I just tkae what he says with a grain of salt...live my life...and when I get the chance I jump his bones.

 

[mbb308]

Yes, I'm just letting it slide.....keeping it as is. On a purely physical level he is one of the best sexual partners I have ever had...so I am not willing to give that up. We're doing the friend thing very well right now...and the sex is mind blowing...so I just tkae what he says with a grain of salt...live my life...and when I get the chance I jump his bones.

Well, if you keep your expectations low, you will certainly be hard to disappoint. And good sex is nothing to be scoffed at, especially if one likes the person. I have an (Very) occassional partner who is a bit like that....we have discussed the LINE, and where it is, and what it is, but she will say some clinging things sometimes. I've told her that I cannot do that with her, and where the line is, and that we discussed it, and that I will leave if she is going to get her feelings hurt. Then she'll agree, and back off, where she's been for quite awhile, now. We'll see....I cannot be involved at any depth with someone with her baggage, and I've been honest about it. We'll see....

 

[Freya]

Well, if you keep your expectations low, you will certainly be hard to disappoint. And good sex is nothing to be scoffed at, especially if one likes the person. I have an (Very) occassional partner who is a bit like that....we have discussed the LINE, and where it is, and what it is, but she will say some clinging things sometimes. I've told her that I cannot do that with her, and where the line is, and that we discussed it, and that I will leave if she is going to get her feelings hurt. Then she'll agree, and back off, where she's been for quite awhile, now. We'll see....I cannot be involved at any depth with someone with her baggage, and I've been honest about it. We'll see....

Ahh yes, baggage. Surprisingly this guy actually has more baggage than me....which is one of my main reasons for not getting involved on a deeper level with him. But for sex, it's fine...baggage doesn't carry over into the bedroom thank god!