Trophy women

[fotowriter]

I was curious as to the relationship mentality of a woman that would be considered a trophy wife compared to a woman that wants a more meaningful relationship.

How do they act differantly? are they guarded with their feelings?

Thanks

 

[gloriann]

If a woman actually wants to be a trophy wife, my guess would be that it would be for a couple reasons. One could be that she, like her husband, would be more interested in her looks than what's going on inside. Or two, that her self-esteem is so low that being called a "trophy" would be an ego boost.

 

[kaycee217]

"It's all about [the] bucks, kid. Everything else...is conversation."

At least that's one possibility.

 

[fotowriter]

I think those two reasons are very valid. Probably the only two that I can think of as well. It's all about money, and or taking care of insecrities.


Think about it from a security standpoint. There is definatley a differance between wanting money and wanting security. I think all women want to feel secure. I'm sure money has a little to do with that but I wonder how many woman are willing to sacrifice their love for that security?

My question is more related to the mentality of a trophy woman. How can she simply turn off her feelings to gain riches? If she has been that way before then how can she ever turn those feelings back on? How can you trust a woman that has a difficult time expressing her feelings or guards them very well?

 

[satindesire]

I think the term "trophy wife" can be stigmatized, in a really bad way. I pride myself on my appearance, social graces, ability to have intelligent and stimulating conversation, and sexual creativity. My husband calls me a 'trophy wife' but I did not marry him for money (through 90% of our relationship we were broke, literally rolling change for gas money, up until the last year!).

Trophy wives are not necessarily loveless relationships that are shallow, all about gym memberships and diamond necklaces. We love each other passionately and with a deep intimacy that has been unmatched in both our pasts. Trophy wives can be all of that, beautiful and well manicured, cultured and educated, sexually stimulating bedfellows, AND loving devoted partners.

 

[Tuomas]

The stigma of "trophy wife" has to do with how little people -women included- understand female psychology. You see, tristin, women are -shockingly- different than men, which means they have a different way of experiencing relationships, and desire different qualities.

Women typically look for a man that they admire or in some way "look up to", and this depends on her personal values. Which is why women "fangirl" musicians, because they are talented. They have an ability that the girl admires: producing music she likes. These musicians are also ostensibly happy and confident in themselves. The only thing lacking is emotional support.

Unlike men, women don't put much stock in what the man looks like -although there are certainly many "hot" guys-, which is why you hear most women say, "what I find most attractive is personality." This is why you can have really "ugly" guys dating beautiful women. Because you assign those women the same value system you have, you assume that it can only be "for the money". The same with women who have different value systems, who, for example, don't enjoy sports, don't understand people who enjoy sports, and therefore cannot relate to a woman who admires athletes (for example, in the case of Tiger Wood's wife).

Why this becomes particularly apparent with "rich" men is because they get more noticed, and are most often a lot more talented than you. Therefore, they have more women who admire them, and choose the "best" according to his values: often "nice tits and an ass that won't quit" (Guys being much simpler when it comes to choosing a mate).

Of course there actually are quite a lot of women who would marry just for money, and frequently do. They give "trophy wife" a bad name. However, I would give the majority the benefit of the doubt.

 

[emap]

What they said.

A trophy wife is only a trophy to the men, she is quite happy with an older man who provides for her in all the ways she wants, money is generally pretty far down the list. For the most part she is attracted to him because he's older and mature, doesn't go out with guy friends every weekend and blow his money on beer and strippers, he stays home with her or takes her to a restaurant.

For some part of the appeal is simply he is older and she can look at him and see her dad having sex with her. I don't get it though I suppose if I had a hunky older guy wanting to be daddy I could find a way to enjoy it.

There are alot of perks to dating an older man, if you want a guy to be paying attention to you and be around for you older men generally are the only choice. Besides not all trophy wives are 30 years younger, some at least are actually in their 40's and simply married a guy a little older who happened to age faster.