um i wish i had a problem with premature ejaculation...

[Bystander305]

ok my gf and i have been dateing for quite a while (dont know how long exactly, over a year) and i have been able to make her cum many times, but for some reason she cant make me. it frustrates us both cause we both really like each other, and she will get me to the edge and keep me there forever (got raw one time from trying too long) am i doing anything wrong here? I can cum in 5-10 min masturbating but i cant for the life of me when she is there.

am i the only one with this problem? please help cause it really drives us nuts.

 

[SummerMorning]

Nope. You're not alone. It should get better in time, as you get more relaxed with her and with yourself. How long have you been having sex? A year?

Till then, all I can say is practice and more practice.

Oh, and maybe a glass of good wine or two before you have sex. It might help.

 

[Bystander305]

yea actuly we arnt having sex (both virgins) but neither hand nor oral have helped, we only got to this stage about a month ago. the part that sucks is that she is like tell me what i need to do (after a half hour of trying) and i cant for the life of me figure out what is wrong. ill try the alcohol thing when i get the chance (we are both under 21 so that is a problem :S )

 

[sheath]

It could very well be a trust issue...sometimes, you just have to be comfortable enough with the person you are with, or nothing is going to happen. If that is the case, I would just say...time. Time, and the natural deepening of your relationship and the trust that comes along with that, should take care of the problem.

S.

 

[Angel_Diva]

Me and my bf had that same problem, but now since we are very active sexually (togather) he doesn't have that problem anymore. You just need to relax, and maybe stop mastrubating so much alone if you still do. Just don't try to think about cumming, think about pleasure and think about how u make her feel or how she makes you feel when she gives you oral. Oral is a great feeling, but if your not comfortble time is the only thing that will help you two get over your problem.

 

[Tap-Out]

Another thing you may want to try is fucking her mouth. I find that is usually good for putting me "over the edge" and will help me cum.

You also said that you have no problem cumming when you masturbate, why don't you try masturbating for your partner (I know for a fact that is a MAJOR turn on for most women to see their partners stroking themselves), until you get so close to the edge that you can't hold back, and then let her finish you off in one form or the other. This will allow you to feel how nice it is to have her cause the orgasm as supposed to you doing it yourself. Will get you used to letting her do it and it may come more easily for you in the future.

You said that she can bring you get you to the edge and hold you there. What did she do that brings you to that point? If you can remember tell her to do it again and it my bring you over the top. Let her know what feels good and what doesn't. Communication is a very important of any sexual activity. Letting your partner know what does and doesn't do it for you is a major help. I can almost guarentee that if she's doing something and you tell her how good it feels or you let out a deep moan to show it, than she will remember it and continue to do it in the future.

Just my $0.02 but I hope it helps.

 

[krustyalice]

I know this is the opposite to your problem but my boyfriend said it to me and I couldnt stop laughing.

"Pre-ejaculation is a womans problem I've never had one I didn't enjoy."

 

[zhukov1943]

I've heard that too much "dry" masturbation can end up desensitizing you somewhat...

I've had a similar problem in the past - to some degree, mine was due to too much foreplay. We'd get so involved the the preliminaries, that my dick would forget what the ultimate end result was supposed to be!

On a side note, perhaps she might look into the famous "kegel" exercises? Some pussy-gripping might be just the thing to help put you over the edge...

 

[statusq]

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Well, would you be able to cum when masturbating while with your partner? Difficulty cumming is common for many women and men, and is not necessarily a trust issue, but maybe just a context one. You shouldn't feel pressured to come, jsut as a woman shouldn't: some can't and it shouldn't be an issue, 'cause that would only add more pressure. Just have fun, and if you cum, great, but if not, resorting to masturbation could be a possible solution.

Good luck.

 

[redfunguy]

hold off on masturbating for a few days and you should be good to go