Using a vibrator on a parnter

[travelboy]

Hi. I am a male. Any suggestions on how to use a vib on a female partner. OF course i would discuss it with her but i would love to hear yr suggestions as to the where and hows.

MUch thanks in antiicpation of yr input.

 

[Chicklet]

use it on her clit.

1) turn it on

2) use it

3) turn it off.

 

[wickedlady31]

mmmmmmmmmm

Hi. I am a male. Any suggestions on how to use a vib on a female partner. OF course i would discuss it with her but i would love to hear yr suggestions as to the where and hows.

MUch thanks in antiicpation of yr input.

My favorite place to have the vibe is firmly on my clit....clit stimunation is the key to orgasm for 95 % of women

 

[silverwhisper]

er, what type of vibe? classic phallus-shape, clitoral, or a combo-type vibe that does both penetration and clitoral?

i'm assuming from the question that you meant the classic style vibe, in which case she probably has a few ideas about what she likes. if playing w/ vibes is new to her, i'd recommend letting her set the tone for exploration, since it's ultimately for her pleasure, no?

ed

 

[FurryFury]

Different women experience vibes in different ways. What might be perfect for one, could be so soft it feels like nothing or too much for another. Communication and experimentation is needed to determine your partner's particular take on each vibe.

Fury

 

[brainfade]

Make it slick

If you want her to enjoy it make sure that she is well lubed first. If her own juices are running then you are very much in luck. If not then a little slippery help might be needed. Saliva will do - but remember safe sex issues. Otherwise you can get some lube from the same place as the vibrator. (My wife's and my favourite is Liquid Silk.).

 

[jl22play]

She's likely...

the expert for vibe use on her. Keep in mind that many women (esp young women) may be embarrassed about toy use...therefore not admitting to ever using (but likely that they have). Have her use, you watch, then mimic....

Something I especially love is to have my pussy filled while the vibe is on my clit. After that 1st time of watching while she does it, maybe you and she could do doggie while the vibe is on her clit! Mmmmmmmmm!!!!

 

[shy slave]

The type of vibe is important

Some women either love or hate plastic ones, others feel the same way about the softer jelly type ones.

Some vibes are quite heavy with the batteries in, and others have a separate control box attached by wires which makes the vibe lighter and can give you more control.

Again Lube is a personal thing. If I am not wet it is quite exciting to use a vibe on my dry cunt lips and allow the sensations to make me wet.

Some vibes have are thin with a small bend in the end which is great for hitting the G spot if you want to put it inside her.

A narrow thin vibe can reach from the clit down the lips and over her cunt hole which gives an increased sensory sensation.

I had a one night stand who wanted to use his ex's vibe on me. Needless to say I was not impressed and it did not happen. The thought of potential hygiene issues did not make me feel sexy.

I would say that talking to her about vibes in general would be a good place to start and once you decide which to use be guided by her verbal and non-verbal reactions to how you use it.

I hope you both have fun and enjoy exploring

 

[SweetErika]

Alternately, ask her to control the vibe while you do other things - explore her erogenous zones, kiss, finger her, do some anal play, or whatever she likes.

I'm touchy when it comes to vibes, and while I can get pleasure out of having my partner use it, even with constant feedback, moving it just a bit the wrong way can kill it for me. So, Hubby and I often prefer for me to use the vibe and him to concentrate on other things that get me going and send me over the edge.

 

[rosc99]

Hi. I am a male. Any suggestions on how to use a vib on a female partner. OF course i would discuss it with her but i would love to hear yr suggestions as to the where and hows.

MUch thanks in antiicpation of yr input.

Let her pick which type of vibe/dildo, i picked my wifes for her which was the wrong choice(i think woman have diffirent ideas then men, and after all they know their bodies a lot better than us).We had to back and get a vibe that suited her.
Then the fun began.

 

[travelboy]

Thanks guys for yr input. I noticed there was no general thread on this (even via the blank manual ) so thought it would be good to have one there ... which is why i made the intro non specific. What i get more than anything is the impression ladies favour it aroudn the clitoris or the external vaginal area almost to exclusivity without any insertion at all.

The more posts from ladies as to their like and dislikes would i think continue to be infomrative. plse keep em coming.
my thanks and warm regards from downunder.

 

[sunandshadow]

A vibe on or in the butt can be nice too, and a vibe can be used on nipples if you put a layer of soft fabric between (chenille is nice). But I agree, the main place to put it is the clit, I don't care for vibration inside the vagina.

How to use the vibrator on the clit - make sure the area is moist with saliva or lube. It's preferable to have a vibe with no corners or edges, and I find it preferable to have a vibe that is about 1 3/4" wide and nearly flat at the tip, and place it inside the labia minora at the base of the clit for maximum stimulation. If you have a long narrow vibrator instead position it so that the tip is at the opening of the vagina and the shaft lays between the labia minora and up over the clit; for maximum stimulation hold the labia majora tightly wrapped over the top of the shaft or have the woman press her thighs together and alternately tip her pelvis forward and back, a few seconds each direction. Personal preferences may of course differ, this is just what I like the best.

 

[SweetErika]

A vibe on or in the butt can be nice too, and a vibe can be used on nipples if you put a layer of soft fabric between (chenille is nice).

What's the fabric for? I've never put fabric between the vibe and nipple, and even with a very strong vibe, it works just fine.

 

[sunandshadow]

What's the fabric for? I've never put fabric between the vibe and nipple, and even with a very strong vibe, it works just fine.

Huh. Well my nipples are pretty sensitive, they don't like being pinched or twisted or bitten or anything except flicked with a tongue or lightly brushed with a finger, and even then it has to be soft un-calloused skin or there has to be lots of lubrication involved. But through a layer of fabric I can scratch them lightly with my fingernails or use a vibe on them. Also the layer of fabric, especially if it's a stretchy fabric with tension on it, helps the vibrations affect the sides of the nipple, not just the tip. The same thing can be done in the crotch area - applying the vibe through underwear or something changes an intense point of sensation into a milder sensation spread over a larger area and around curves.

 

[SweetErika]

Huh. Well my nipples are pretty sensitive, they don't like being pinched or twisted or bitten or anything except flicked with a tongue or lightly brushed with a finger, and even then it has to be soft un-calloused skin or there has to be lots of lubrication involved. But through a layer of fabric I can scratch them lightly with my fingernails or use a vibe on them. Also the layer of fabric, especially if it's a stretchy fabric with tension on it, helps the vibrations affect the sides of the nipple, not just the tip. The same thing can be done in the crotch area - applying the vibe through underwear or something changes an intense point of sensation into a milder sensation spread over a larger area and around curves.

Thanks for the explanation. It sounds like 'pretty sensitive' is an understatement! I like (the right kind of) intense on nipples and clit, though touching through a satin bra or panties can be exquisite. I'll have to give the satin-vibe combo a shot sometime to see if it does anything exciting for me.

 

[oldkinky]

Her favorite is our Penthouse Vibrating Golden Egg. It can be used so many ways-on her clit-on my penis-inside her vagina. Our favorite way to use it is for her to insert it in her vagina and then I insert my penis and we have intercourse with it vibrating inside. Really wild orgasms.
We also have 3 vibrating dildos-2 jelly and one black rubber. I love to watch these go in and out of her vagina. She also uses a rabbit type vibrator(Purple Titan). I love to watch her cum using this.

 

[O2]

Vibes

This is a good thread, my wife is a prude and I've bought her a small vibe with the hook part on the end.

Hopefully she'll be in a sexy mood soon and I'll give it to her to see her reaction.

Although I have a feeling I've wasted $25......and that she'll never use it.

 

[FurryFury]

This is a good thread, my wife is a prude and I've bought her a small vibe with the hook part on the end.

Hopefully she'll be in a sexy mood soon and I'll give it to her to see her reaction.

Although I have a feeling I've wasted $25......and that she'll never use it.

I have to point out that the bitterness and resentment I hear in your post would not help my sex drive were it directed at me.

Fury

 

[shy slave]

This is a good thread, my wife is a prude and I've bought her a small vibe with the hook part on the end.

Hopefully she'll be in a sexy mood soon and I'll give it to her to see her reaction.

Although I have a feeling I've wasted $25......and that she'll never use it.

I agree with FF about the tone of your post.

BUT if you want it to have a positive effect why not think positive and combiine with some of the ideas from the recently started talk romantic thread.

Are you expecting her to explore it with you watching. Have to admit that was something I felt uncomfortable with for years, and if I am being honest I still do feel slightly awkward (until I get carried away) now.

 

[meganslut]

This is a good thread. I have a couple vibrators. An egg, a basic plastic, and a rabit type. All of them are good for different stuff. (I've never tried putting the egg inside me with the guy. I'll have to give that a try).

My question is for the women. In this post you keep telling the guys to have their women decide. I'm a woman and while I love toys I'd love suggestions for what to try next. Any suggestions? Right now I mostly use my vibes on the clit. I'm thinking about getting a vibe made of cyberskin. I'm wondering if that would feel better on the inside. Sometimes I use my rabit on the inside but it just doesn't feel as good as the real thing. Has anyone used cyber skin vibrators?

Suggestions?

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Hi. I am a male. Any suggestions on how to use a vib on a female partner. OF course i would discuss it with her but i would love to hear yr suggestions as to the where and hows.

MUch thanks in antiicpation of yr input.

Hey there ... I wrote a story about the first time my hubby and I used a vibe as well as the first time I used a toy. . .believe it or not it wasn't that long ago for us.

I enjoy him working the vibe in and out of me, but the biggest thing I love is when the vibe is inside and the rabbit that is attached to it viberates on my clit and his other hand massages my pussy lips around the rabbit.... OMG.... I can't do that myself!!!

Here is the link to the story about the time we played...

http://english.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=267727

 

[JessieSexpot]

Mmmm... all you need is good communication and watch how she acts. Don't be shy she will love it!