Virginity is it a big deal?

[curioustxn]

an insensitively blithe response

Any organization that supports the honor killing of a woman is not a religion, it's insanity! The day of woke is over!

 

[Hmm72]

There is only one thing that matter.

What do you want?

Fuck what everyone says.
Fuck expectations.

Just do what you want.
What feels right for you.

Do you wanna wait? Wait.
Do you wanna have sex now? Go do it.

You decide.
No one else.

WELL SAID

 

[awired50]

I lost mine in 1980 but to each their own.

 

[blondebreeze]

Growing up I've was never allowed to date. My family was always protected even now at 23 they want me to save myself for marriage. But I've dont have thr time to date or im never alone and any relationship I've had they ruined it. As my 24th birthday comes up I'm starting to think I'm falling behind on milestones. I just want to have the experience of sex. I masturbate but it's not the same. Anyway I can experience it with dating someone or is it something I need to wait on?

As a general principle: your virginity only has the meaning you assigned to it.
If you feel hindered by it , and you want -- as it's your birthright -- to choose a path of experiences and exploration of your body and sex, you are the only person whose opinion matters.

And the choice is yours.

I don't have any clue about your personal situation, so I will just tell you what my experience was.
I am both very romantic and very sexual: I always wished for a first time with "meaning" -- sizzling hot sex, but with love -- that was my fantasy, and I charged it of a lot of expectations.
But that situation never materialized.

My first time happened whilst I was on holiday, with someone I found very very attractive, but with whom had no real lasting connection . He was very hot, very sensual, and with him I just let go,
I was at ease and in an environment very different from my everyday life.
And I think that was key for me.
It removed the guilt, the expectation of doing it only if in a relationship. It was an adventure.
He made me feel desirable, irresistible even, and I felt all my raging 19-years-old hormones roaring at his every touch.
He was passionate and relentless, and I told him I was a virgin, and --even if I am not sure he believed me-- he asked me if I wanted him to stop .
I said no, partly because he was doing things with his hands and mouth that were simply making me loose control, and partly because it felt ok, I felt at ease with him, and I wanted to have that experience, in that moment, right there.

I wanted to live.

Do I wish I waited for love? No. And believe me, when I first admitted this to myself , I was surprised by my own thoughts.
Nevertheless it's true.
It was ok. I enjoyed that experience. And it made me grow, it contributed to my development, I discovered new things about myself, and it felt really good.

I'm not advocating for others to do what I did, to make the exact same choice.
I am advising you to feel your feelings, even if they are leading you on a different path than you imagined.