Was I supposed to act differently...??

[Black Tulip]

It has nothing to do with geeky, Snoop.
I have always been well dressed, good looking and fun to be with (ahum ), but in a non-sexual way.

The "problem" is in the attitude. You have to change your way of thinking because it influences your behavior.

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

It has nothing to do with geeky, Snoop.
I have always been well dressed, good looking and fun to be with (ahum ), but in a non-sexual way.

The "problem" is in the attitude. You have to change your way of thinking because it influences your behavior.

There ain't nothin' wrong with geeky.

And being a kind sensitive guy counts for a lot in this day and age. I think Snoops should be commended not condemned for that. I mean honestly, can you really say you want one more assholic misogynist polluting the world?

And Snoops- Best of luck, man.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Well, there never can be enough advice, right?


The ironic things it, I'm actually probably not that geeky as you all think and I already clean up, dress nice, try to be cool.
But it isn't working either.

But I'll definitely call her this weekend or next week and kinda seek contact myself.

We'll see...

Snoopy

Yeah, call her. You were close once, if only for those few hours. You care about her. It's the natural things to do to call her up and ask her how she's doing.

I've got to say something about this "experience" thing. I think it's totally over-rated. It makes it seem like dealing with women is a technigue that has to be learned, like milking rattlesnakes, and it perpetuates the myth that women are somehow another species with incomprehensible traits and behaviors. It's an old myth that with the right line or the right clothes women will just suddenly drop at your feet.

Joe's advice to dress like stud is okay if it makes you feel more comfortable, but the thing I've learned after years of dealing with women is that--surprise, surprise--they're human beings, and they respond to the same things that all human beings respond to: honesty and sincerity and genuine feeling. The main reson that some guys have an easy time with women is simply because they feel comfortable enough around them to be themselves, and women--if they're women worth having--respond to that.

Look at your career here at Lit. No one ever ran away screaming because you were inexperienced or shy. Instead, people respond to your openness and sweetness. If this girl is playing seduce-me games with you, I'd just opt out. You really don't want to be with a person who puts you through those kinds of games. It's really not worth it.

---dr.M.

 

[Black Tulip]

There ain't nothin' wrong with geeky.

And being a kind sensitive guy counts for a lot in this day and age. I think Snoops should be commended not condemned for that. I mean honestly, can you really say you want one more assholic misogynist polluting the world?

And Snoops- Best of luck, man.

Didn't mean to condemn Snoop, just trying to be helpful since he is unhappy with the way things are at the moment.

 

[SnoopDog]

....like milking rattlesnakes....
---dr.M.

LOL I bet milking rattlesnakes is way easier than getting a girl.

Oh by the way people, thnx to everybody who contributed and shared some words of wisdom or sympathy.

This thread really helps me, just for instance that I can get it out and talk a bit about the things that worry me.

So I'll send out a grouphug to you guys.

Snoopy, WOOF !

 

[SnoopDog]

Just to keep you guys updated, I phoned her and she said she'd pay me a visit tomorrow. Then she turned up surprisingly this evening. I don't think she was mad or anything. She was like usual. We spent some time talking and stuff. So I guess our friendship is still intact.

As for anything beyond that, chances are about zero. She lives with her boyfriend in an appartment now and even if she wanted to cheat on him (which I really would be uncomfortable with) she'd definitely not 'use' me.

She left me at 1 a.m. and told me she'd meet with a very good male friend of hers who she has known for ages 'this very night'. (At 2 - 5 a.m. ?????) She said she'd meet with him that late because her boyfriend would be unnecessarily jealous if he knew. But they are just good friends and she doesn't even have a crush on this other guy.

Yeeeaaahhh right.

Oh boy, who understands women. Anyways, no kiss for the Snoop yet.


Snoopy

 

[TheEarl]

Unlucks Snoop.

Dr Mab: Good advice.

The taciturn Earl

 

[Lisa Denton]

Maybe she is just a manipulative, controlling bitch who teased you for laughs. They're out there and we all run into them.
Ed

I only act that way to you Edward.


SNOOPY DEAR, you missed a chance, asking her if she wanted to go further than friendship at the time she mentioned that if it wasn't for him, you know. At that time you could have asked as if the idea just occured to you, because of what she said. Then if she was just being nice saying that you could have laughed it off and remained friends. Or she might have jumped you and fucked your brains out in positions you never even dreamed about for hours on end.

It ain't over till the fat lady drops her drawers, so to speak, if she has a weight problem I wasn't referring to that but saying you might have another chance.

Drop her a line, e-mail, phone call, whatever. She got busy, other things, other peoples but misses you ....maybe. Ask her to lunch, enjoy her friendship and if the conversation opens the question, ask it. If she says no, you still win, you have a great friend, smile and ask her if she wants to have lunch again soon.

 

[Edward Teach]

I only act that way to you Edward.

You're just mad cause you caught me peeking at your panties aren't you.


Eddie The Unrepentent

 

[Lisa Denton]

You're just mad cause you caught me peeking at your panties aren't you.


Eddie The Unrepentent

I don't mind peoples peekin when I'm flashin.

 

[Edward Teach]

I don't mind peoples peekin when I'm flashin.

You have pretty hair. Now can I see your boobs?

 

[Lisa Denton]

You have pretty hair. Now can I see your boobs?

Aren't you supposed to look me right in the breasts when you say I have beautiful eyes?

 

[Edward Teach]

Aren't you supposed to look me right in the breasts when you say I have beautiful eyes?

Have your eyes always been pink?

(@) (@)

 

[MagicaPractica]

no easy answers

Just wanted to say I went through something similar this summer, same situation, role reversal. Last time I saw him he acted like he didn't care if I existed and it hurt too much so I walked away and didn't go back. Unless you ask, you'll never know. And maybe not even then. It depends on how truthful the person is willing to be with themselves and you. It's up to you, but it happens to all of us, women too.

 

[MagicaPractica]

Sorry

Just to keep you guys updated, I phoned her and she said she'd pay me a visit tomorrow. Then she turned up surprisingly this evening. I don't think she was mad or anything. She was like usual. We spent some time talking and stuff. So I guess our friendship is still intact.

As for anything beyond that, chances are about zero. She lives with her boyfriend in an appartment now and even if she wanted to cheat on him (which I really would be uncomfortable with) she'd definitely not 'use' me.

She left me at 1 a.m. and told me she'd meet with a very good male friend of hers who she has known for ages 'this very night'. (At 2 - 5 a.m. ?????) She said she'd meet with him that late because her boyfriend would be unnecessarily jealous if he knew. But they are just good friends and she doesn't even have a crush on this other guy.

Yeeeaaahhh right.

Oh boy, who understands women. Anyways, no kiss for the Snoop yet.


Snoopy

Sorry, guess I should have read on. Not used to this yet. Cheers.

 

[SnoopDog]

Re: Sorry

Sorry, guess I should have read on. Not used to this yet. Cheers.

No problem, welcome to Lit.

Snoopy

 

[BikeWriter]

Ok, I guess this is a place to gather opinions.

Can someone explain women to me? Or tell me what I did wrong?

Snoopy

Snoopy. my Father told me when I was young if I ever thought I understood women I'd really be screwing up. Fifty years and three failed marriages later I know he was understating his point!

 

[SnoopDog]

Re: Re: Was I supposed to act differently...??

Snoopy. my Father told me when I was young if I ever thought I understood women I'd really be screwing up. Fifty years and three failed marriages later I know he was understating his point!

At least you had a woman.

No, seriously, I'm sorry for you.

Women can be quite difficult, right?

Snoopy

 

[BikeWriter]

Re: Re: Re: Was I supposed to act differently...??

At least you had a woman.

No, seriously, I'm sorry for you.

Women can be quite difficult, right?

Snoopy

Women can be very difficult, right! I married the first time in 1972 and averaged nearly ten years with each, so I've been married to one or the other most of my adult life. I'm avoiding serious relationships this time in an attempt to get it right.
Hang in there and be a responsible and honest man. You'll wander into the sights of a predatory female soon enough.

 

[SnoopDog]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Was I supposed to act differently...??

Women can be very difficult, right! I married the first time in 1972 and averaged nearly ten years with each, so I've been married to one or the other most of my adult life. I'm avoiding serious relationships this time in an attempt to get it right.
Hang in there and be a responsible and honest man. You'll wander into the sights of a predatory female soon enough.

Thnx man, maybe I'll find some people on here who are willing tocross a finger or two for the Snoop before I go insane cause of the lack of love.

Snoopy