Thinking about my deceased brother, how much support others received, but since I live alone, I don't exist, except..... when people met at my parent's house. I lost count of "Anything you need, call me, anytime" and .... that was nothing more than showing off to others to say "What a great person". Every time I reached out, I was ignored except for one cousin who came over a couple of times in the first month, but never to hear from him again.