what should i do ?

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

When you are in love with someone, their looks are not important. I have been in many relationships and when I love someone I grow to love the way they look. Beauty fades but the person inside remains constant............looks are not important, it's how you feel about someone and the qualities that they have that draw you to them in the first place........

Problem is alot of people don't feel that way. They feel without looks why would you even talk to the person. I feel very sorry for those who feel that way. I personally agree with you 100%.

-Zergplex

 

[Noor]

Re: Re: Re: other means

Noor,

take a look at your own life- have you only been attracted to men who had wealth,fame, or power?

Or would you like me to go into more detail on that?

HW

no, I am attracted to humor, compassion, kindness, among other things.

I also am not into shallow relationships, not interested in being someones morning eye candy, so what attracts me is irrelevant.

SIC wants to people his bed with non relationship pretty faces, I can see what is in it for him, I was just wondering what he was offerring?

 

[SIC]

Honey, I read your thread last night and again today and IMO you need to just settle in and BE for a while still. Open to possibilities, but JUST BE. I got married at your age, and great googlies have I changed in the last decade or so! LOL What I found attractive and appealing at 20 is not what I find attractive and appealing at 32. The importance of other people's opinions also drastically fell off the radar screen over the years.

If I had it to do over again I'd maintain very strong friendships and see if anything grew over time from them. I'd be honest and maintain my intergrity about things being on a friendship level, and probably would have had a "fuck buddy" relationship *if* the friendship could withstand it, but sex isn't really worth loosing a friendship over when I think about it. Anyone I have a friendship with is someone I'm attracted to- because of looks, intellect, personality, or experience, so the women you like as friends are the best potential partners regardless of what anyone else thinks. Why can't a friend go to the woods with you for a month? Or to the theater? Or clubbing? Or hell, even to bed? (again- ONLY if the friendship could withstand it )

You sounded so heartbroken a few months ago when your girlfriend broke up with you and then for a while you sounded so very lost. Stop trying to find the answers and just be where you are, enjoy your experience, and things *will* fall into place. Promise.

Hey its nice to see that some ppl remeber everything that i have been going on for me in the last while. I am finally pickin myself up again.


Noor: Are you asking me what i have to offer to a women ? if so i have alot to offer i am i great person and some ppl will say they get pulled into me because i am kind and all. I really dont know what your asking me.

I am not rich by any means but i aint scared to spend money i like taking trips i did alot with my ex and buy her stuff. I have had 2 girls go out with me because my parents have money and all my friends say that i am rich i dont really see myself better then anyone else. Sure i have a bigger house my parents has 3 new cars and my dad has all the toys you could think of But thats there stuff not mine they work hard for it all.

I dont look at anyone my friends or anyone else by what they have because that has nothing to do with the person they are. I would say that i am down to earth and never bring up that i am better then anyone else.

 

[hewolf]

Re: Re: Re: Re: other means

SIC wants to people his bed with non relationship pretty faces, I can see what is in it for him, I was just wondering what he was offerring?

I do not know what he is offering NOW, but if he would be a fun company, a non-needy cool popular guy with good social skills, there would be women willing to get sexual with him outside long-term relationship context. Being good-looking would also help a bit.

He would be offering just his company and sex. There are plenty of women, especially younger party types that go for it. You might call them shallow, but they certainly exist in large numbers.

 

[Bobmi357]

Xartaan: "If you arent attracted to them physically, are you honestly going to go up and say hey ther, your ugly as sin, but I wanted to meet you just in case you have a charming personality? BULLSHIT!"

Like really you will never go up to a girl that is not attractive to you. At first it always starts with looks and then you go from there and find out what kinda person they are.

If looks were everything I'd still be a divorced single man. I met my second wife via another network (not the internet), and we fell for each other months before we met face to face, or even exchanged pictures.

That she turned out to be every bit as beautiful as I imagined she was merely icing on the cake at that point. Now more than 10 years later and she still beautiful to me.

Basing your decision on whether to approach a woman solely on her looks IS shallow. She won't stay beautiful. Give her a few kids and 20 years and she'll be barely recognizeable from that sevlte girl you now see. How she is inside is more important than how she is on the outside. The outside will change. The chassis and body work are not as nearly as important as the driver.

I've known some truely beautiful women in my day with the personality of a shrew, and others that society would not call beautiful that were real loving and caring beautiful people inside. Given a choice, I'd rather go with someone I can live with, than someone I have to put up with.

 

[Jaded Jayne]

All beautiful, skinny girls are hideous hags on the inside. Its gods punishment to them for being so beautiful on the outside!

"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife.
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you."

I am a beautiful skinny girl, and one of the nicest people you'll ever meet.

Thin beautiful women don't like being stereotyped anymore than ugly fat girls.

 

[Poussin]

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[Noor]

much of appearance is genetics. I have my genes to thank for mine, not smoking and the use of sunscreen since I was a baby also probably helped.

telling me I am pretty or have nice skin is as irrelevant as cock size, or type of belly button.

liking my nature or the way I make someone feel is much more important as it is something I have some control over, so it is more me that the genetic package I got.

I have been involved with a few men that I met online, not seeing their pictures until well into it, one I didn't see for over a year, and to me they look great, but I am already biased because I know and like them. Looking at their pictures makes me smile and I think they are gorgeous!

 

[hewolf]

"hotness" and personality

I am a beautiful skinny girl, and one of the nicest people you'll ever meet.

Thin beautiful women don't like being stereotyped anymore than ugly fat girls.

IME there is an no easy correlation between "hotness" and personality.

There are plenty of "hot" women spoiled by having their donkey parts kissed by men, but then there are many beautiful women with great personalities.

There are many not really "hot" women with great personalities also. Then there is legion of uglies with ugly angry and mean personalities.

If anything I observe that physically attractive women are somewhat more likely to have good personalities - they tend to be more secure and less angry.

 

[asenath]

I am a beautiful skinny girl, and one of the nicest people you'll ever meet.

Thin beautiful women don't like being stereotyped anymore than ugly fat girls.

And you're so modest too.

 

[cuz cracker]

listen up hoss.

beauty is in the eye of the beholder. as time goes on you will meet some nice ladies, some you will like a lot.

now here's the thing YOU may or may not think they are all that good looking. other men will. some will not.

you will no doubt date a few you think are drop dead beautiful, other people will not be of that opinion.

so knock off the bullshit, have a good time and try not to catch anything or knock anyone up.

have a nice day!