What the best way

[risingson69]

What is the best way to approach a guy to join us as a couple?

We want to let the guy know that it is purely straight, no Bi contact, but we are afraid if we jump right to that they will wonder otherwise.

any suggestions?

this is all of course depending on it being someone she wants......

 

[SweetErika]

So, be clear in your ad, or with potential candidates you speak to, that it's a MFM threesome with no intentional touching between the males, not a bi encounter. "MFM" is the common shorthand used to mean such, but go ahead and add the second part/explanation so there's no confusion.

If you do a personal ad, you're definitely not going to have trouble getting responses. If you want someone you click with on more than just a sexual level, you might have her place an ad on OKCupid or a similar site that's about more than just sex (as opposed to adultfriendfinder or craighslist's casual encounters). You can both write the ad and be involved of course, but if there's no 'couple' option, you're going to want to choose 'female' so your target market of straight males is more likely to find you.

You also might try swinglifestyle.com and only look for a straight, single male there.

Both OKCupid and SLS are free. SLS has paid memberships, but last time I checked, the basic, free account was just fine for this kind of thing. If the first few contacts spark your interest, you can always get their email addy to exchange more pics and meet for coffee.

Be sure you ask about medical issues, like high blood pressure and diabetes, when you're talking about health history, STDs and safer sex practices. I know someone who was disappointed when their MFM partner had erection issues and difficulty getting off during the encounter. That may not be a problem for you, but it put a damper on the fun, so it might be something you want to delve into when you're interviewing these guys.

 

[lindahotstuff]

I agree with Sweet Erika, good advice. An alternative we use is to meet people in pubs and clubs. This avoids the timewasters who advertise and it means you can get to know someone over a glass of wine and a chat before any sex is offered. There are lots of single guys out ther and all it takes from a woman is a smile, wink, a touch on the arm and an invitation to join you both for a drink. You can compliment his looks or clothes as an ice breaker, ask him about work, activities, move on to girlfriends etc and then over a period of getting to know each other as the chat becomes a bit more frisky and erotic, particularly if you are sitting next to him and start touching his leg and arm, let it drop that you enjoy having 2 men satisfy you.
Unless he runs a mile let him know you are interested but that your man is str8 (mine is bi so finding a bi guy is a bit different) and invite him to join you, for safety in a hotel room rather than your home. A strip tease, some kissing and pretty soon you will have two guys pleasuring you, which for me is ecstasy. Good luck