What we think we become?

[ZRT]

Would you and Homburg like some time alone?

How would we feed our exhibitionist tendencies then? Sheesh.

 

[Keroin]

How would we feed our exhibitionist tendencies then? Sheesh.

So you're just using me for my thread?! Is that what you're saying??

*Storms off to post in the Dear X thread*

 

[rosco rathbone]

AMy Winehouse: Dom or Sub?

 

[Keroin]

AMy Winehouse: Dom or Sub?

Or freak of nature?

 

[Sayyid]

Good question. I feel she's a sub at heart, and her relentless media posturing (at least before she disappeared off the face of the earth) is merely acting out. Plus she's controlled by the drugs. Someone had to say it.

 

[Homburg]

Talk about an ego boost.

I have been there. I've realised in multi-person games that I've got a load of crosshairs on my forehead, and I've been cussed out solidly right and left after those games.

It's a good feeling.

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AMy Winehouse: Dom or Sub?

"And if my daddy thinks I'm fine"

She's on the submissive side of the spectrum, I'd say. Waaaaay outta control though.

 

[Sayyid]

Hmm, perhaps she needs a firm hand to discipline her.

 

[YourCaptor]

Positive thinking works, but as far as we know only on small stuff... long term stuff is too hard to test I think. It's often used to help those neurotic.

The trick however lies in how you do it. If you think to yourself "What nice day!", over and over, eventually it will work. But if you think "Today is not a bad day", you will only make it worse.

Avoid all plausibly negative words. Even if you are telling yourself "no cheeseburger", make it positive, "yes to healthy food", and so on.

Oh yea, happy people also live longer.

 

[MisterSir]

Hmm, perhaps she needs a firm hand to discipline her.

Firm hand and a shock collar, she's so far off the deep end it's a speck on the horizon.

 

[Recidiva]

Positive thinking works, but as far as we know only on small stuff... long term stuff is too hard to test I think. It's often used to help those neurotic.

The trick however lies in how you do it. If you think to yourself "What nice day!", over and over, eventually it will work. But if you think "Today is not a bad day", you will only make it worse.

Avoid all plausibly negative words. Even if you are telling yourself "no cheeseburger", make it positive, "yes to healthy food", and so on.

Oh yea, happy people also live longer.

I think it's possible to carry "positive attitude" into delusion and denial. So there are lots of falsely happy people. If only because I've seen many people put a nice layer of icing and happiness on a miserable situation in order to avoid dealing with it.

This can come down to "The Secret" and thinking that if you just think something true, it will be true. I usually counter that by saying "Okay, test that out. Start thinking that your hair is going to grow in cobalt blue and then get back to me when it happens." So far, no blue hairs except with age.

You can have a positive idea that it IS going to happen and you will have cobalt hair and maybe tomorrow, if I just keep on trying! That to me is a falsely positive person.

So I limit my positive thought toward creating a positive attitude, but limit my belief in it so that I'm required to do the work involved. If I want cobalt hair I'm going to have to buy some dye or go to a salon and I'll make the work happen.

Positive attitude is usually a requirement to getting something positive done. But it's a formula thing. You just need to have a positive attitude in place, then work like hell.

But it's true, without a positive attitude, it's unlikely any change will happen, whether it's spontaneous blue, home dye job or salon.

I'm not a believer in affirmations, unless you have an internal verbal sound track and you're combating that. They don't work for me because I'm always busy arguing with them. So say my head is saying "Nobody cares, it doesn't matter what you do" I would counter that with a positive. "I care. I care what I do." And then I try to make that true. Then I choose something to care about and I choose something to do and I go forward not sabotaging myself. But I do know I need to DO something, or the affirmation and the attitude is useless and can behave like a "all is well" drug that induces a sense of accomplishment when there is none.

I think people can abuse the idea of attitude and can think that just feeling good is enough, you don't have to actually do good. I try to avoid that.

There are plenty of people who are kinda vile human beings but think they're the best thing on earth and everyone just doesn't appreciate them because "everyone else" has a bad attitude.