Whats with the tiny pussy!

[cocolacroix]

 

[robincr]

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[PertPerth]

For starters, 19 isn't too old to be a virgin!

I'd say it's most likely to be a lack of experience rather than anything really "wrong".
robincr is right in suggesting talking to a gynocologist - NOT just a GP. Trust me on this. GP's like to think they know stuff, but generally they don't.
I'm 5'3" too...and 10 years older than you...still having problems with penetration - I used to have trouble inserting tampons too. I did the same thing - bought a small dildo...almost the size of a tampon! After about a year I could insert a much larger one...but it too much time and effort! (hehehe...you could even say it was hard work, but someone has to do it! )
Keep up practice and trying things...and talk to a gyno.

Penetration issues are more common than people realise. Generally women are too shy to talk about it/admit it...and no, not due to psychological issues...there ARE conditions where there is a physical problem!
Fortunately for me, I'm seeing a specialist in 2 more weeks.

You're most welcome to PM me, I'm in Oz too.

 

[KokopelliRises]

You're not alone, I promise. I'm 5'3" and 19 years old as well, though not a virgin. I can understand the situation with the tampons. When I was still a virgin I had problems with even the most slender tampons, hence the reason I did not use them until later. When I did, it took me a long time to work up from the slender to the regular, but it eventually worked out. As PertPerth said, a lot of women have penetration problems. I can't say that I am problem-free on the penetration front, but, over time, it has gotten much less painful, probably by about 98%. I wouldn't stress too much about it.

Welcome to Lit!

 

[The Gimp]

Although I don't claim to have the largest penis in town I have been told by multiple partners, including a girlfriend of mine who's 4'9 that it is larger than average. She couldn't fit the whole thing into her mouth but there are no compatibility problems between our private parts.
Getting paranoid about the matter will increase the chances of your feeling pain a great deal. Think about it this way: your vagina can flex to the point where an eight pound baby can get out without doing permanent damage to either one of you. There's no way that you'll have a problem finding enough space for a couple of ounces of penis

 

[FurryFury]

Um, what I want to know is what is with the tiny print???

My poor eyes!!

I am 5'10" but I consider myself a small girl. That includes the good stuff. Often my husband feels WAAAAAAAY too big. Oh well. That's the way it goes.

Maybe it makes him feel like he has a Godzilla dick? I'm always telling him it's too big. Hopefully that stokes the ole ego for him.

Of course I've also had a couple of babies so what can fit and what can fit comfortably is clearly two different things.

I'm not fond of the banging on the cervix thang which I hear some other ladies are. Viva la difference?

Any man worth his salt will take into consideration what is and is not comfortable, IMO. What they do with that is up to each couple though.

Fury

 

[rydia57]

Don't worry... it gets bigger. Especially around the third day of that time of the month. Least mine did. It keeps getting bigger, unless you're not stretching it by making it do what it's suppose to do. Hey, I didn't lose it until 20 so... I'm more embarrassed than you are...lol. When it gets too big, you'll start complaining about it not being full. For now it's just tight.

 

[PoeticMusings53]

heya everyone..

..so...virgin at 19...not really fun..

but my problem is im a little freaked out by my own vagina.

i'm a small person - 5 foot 3 and thin and all that - and i have a very small - ludicrously small! - pussy.

And this wasnt really a big deal for me (since i'm not having sex) until i went and bought the smallest most depressingly boring dildo i could find and i couldn't even use the damn thing!

and i get that im a virgin and its got to hurt and all that but this is just ridiculous - using the smallest tampons available is painful for me!

i just want to know if anyone has any ideas that i may not have thought of in my frustration as to how on earth i deal with this!
or something that would make me feel better was if anyone had the same problem

thanks guys!

There's surgery for it - mormon girls have to get it a lot of the time before they get married...

 

[human_male]

I have a ludicrously small penis so don't feel bad.

 

[cocolacroix]

 

[thirty]

Don't worry... it gets bigger. Especially around the third day of that time of the month. Least mine did. It keeps getting bigger, unless you're not stretching it by making it do what it's suppose to do. Hey, I didn't lose it until 20 so... I'm more embarrassed than you are...lol. When it gets too big, you'll start complaining about it not being full. For now it's just tight.

Yeah, that's true.

When I was with my then girlfriend, in the beginning, I found it took me a lot of effort to get in.
If I was as experient as I'm now, I would have been spending every minute to enjoy the feeling of tight.

 

[cloudy]

There's surgery for it - mormon girls have to get it a lot of the time before they get married...

oh, puh-lease.

 

[In Anticipation]

Height, or even frame size isn't really much of a correlation. Ultimately your pelvic girdle will be big enough to let through (if not a 4kg baby) then a 3.5kg baby.

I started seeing a woman who had given birth (some years previously). She probably hadn't had sex for a couple of years. My middle finger felt tight in her. Eventually we started having penetrative sex. I wouldn't be popular if I slammed straight in, but if I start off slow and gentle we are soon at it hard and fast. We have to be careful but have a great time. Incidentally I'm quite broad in the critical part . . .

She's shorter than you too . . .

 

[simplegirl]

First of all, I agree, see a gynecologist. You could have a very thick hymen which is causing you difficulty. Also, they can also let you know if maybe vaginal dilators would be in order. These are a series that look like very plain dildos, starting from very slender, graduating up in sizes. The following link show a pic of them. These are usually sold by specialized medical supply stores.

dilators

Vaginas are very elastic and are meant to stretch to accomodate. You should be able to solve this issue without too much problem.

 

[Quint]

I'm 6' (it's not just height related!) and I had this problem as well. As far as I was able to tell, I lost my hymen long before I lost my virginity--the problem was just that the muscles were really fucking tight and wouldn't relax. Hated tampons, hated fingering, and losing my virginity didn't magically fix it, although it did pave the way.

Honestly, lots of time, lube and practice should be all you need. I went through a phase where I never had any discomfort with sex and actually started doing Kegels to tighten up. (Then somewhere along the line it switched again and penetration is once more painfully intense. But that may just be me.) Just be patient with your body. There are some medical causes which you may have to look into with your OB/GYN's assistance, but don't jump to that conclusion until you let yourself relax.

 

[Trajal]

Hmm my girl is 5'2" tall and I have a comfortable 8.5inches length and decent thickness. She's fine to accomodate me (although her mouth does sometimes suffer from cramp).

I'd discuss it with a doctor (as I believe has been previously mentioned) because your height/weight has little proportion to the size of your vagina.

My ex-wife was around 5'1" and rather overweight and she struggled to cope with the width, my most recent ex-girlfriend prior to my true love was around 5'6" and she struggled with my length (kept bouncing into her cervix, ouch).

There are various conditions (both physical and psychological) which can cause things to "tense up" prior to penetration and it could be that you are suffering from one of those. Should this be true, then it's fabulous news, because they can all be treated. Either with medication or, most likely, with a gentle, caring and affectionate lover who will help you discover your sexuality in time.

Enjoy your virginity, it's truly priceless.

 

[Trajal]

By the way, I think Quint is hawt

 

[Quint]

By the way, I think Quint is hawt

Nuh uh, I perved on you first!

 

[duff60901]

Nothing wrong or bouring about bein a virgin. Kept mine till 27 Having sex is over rated... not too impressed the first few times.

 

[indecision04]

When you do get a lover, you're going to do wonders for his confidence.

 

[lilwetone]

Have you/Do You masterbate???

Just remember to relax and not think of the negative issues.....

Here's an idea:

1.Take a long warm bublebath..bring some candles and soft music..since your not 21 yet, make yourself a mug of hot chocolate..extra chocolate.

2. Beautify yourself....shave, lather up with lotion (personal fav: Jergans Cocoa Butter) and wrap up in a bathrobe.

3. Hopefully at this time your feeling well relaxed physically and mentally

4. the same candles you used for the tub take them back to your room...make the atmosphere relaxing.

5. Personal vaginal excirsizes ...work your kegel muscles..(link below How To Do Kegel Muscles


I hope that helped....Good Luck..
If you would like more tips please feel free to send me a message

 

[rachelqueenT]

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[M's girl]

hey there, im a virgin and really happy to be a virgin. i guess because i have made the decision to have sex with someone i want to, not just a rush job or feel pressured. who knows maybe tomorrow i would want to. just has not felt right yet so im cool with that. stuff the blokes and what they want

i cant use tampons im too tight. i also cant be fingered. i cum from playing with my clit.

i guess once i have sex a few times i'll be fine. i wouldnt be too worried, we are all shapes and sizes and we were meant to have sex and babies, so it should be all good.

if youre very worried go to the doctor, it cant hurt. im just really laidback and i dont really see the need till you find a cock wont fit, after you have lubed up and naturally wet. then you might need a second opinion hon.

rach

Women are built to be able to have babies. It may seem as though you can't fit a tampon in there but I think something different from tightness is the problem. For one, tampons are made from cotton and if you're really dry down there it's hard to push them in.

You also may be trying but use the wrong angle.

It would not do you harm to explore some yourself. Use your finger and feel what it feels like inside. Take a mirror and look, honestly.

 

[In Anticipation]

Women are built to be able to have babies. It may seem as though you can't fit a tampon in there but I think something different from tightness is the problem. For one, tampons are made from cotton and if you're really dry down there it's hard to push them in.

You also may be trying but use the wrong angle.

It would not do you harm to explore some yourself. Use your finger and feel what it feels like inside. Take a mirror and look, honestly.

Get some lube too, plenty of it on your finger and just explore. I know I am but a mere man so bear that in mind!

 

[cocolacroix]